If I can't accept critisism for my discussion, I have no right to..

Sanu- Welcome to the world of those who cannot stand to be challenged, disagreed with, or made to think from a different point of view. I've read a number of your threads and though you can have a difference of opinion I've never seen you be rude about it. You don't seem to resort to name-calling, etc, which sadly seems to occur quite frequently in the politics and religion interest sections. The original poster should have respected your right to a difference of opinion, and at least given you a positive ranking (if that is what you were referring to by rewards) if you had written a well thought out response. Of course, that said, the true holds same to all of us. We all must be willing to look at things from different perspectives, and then be able to respond accordingly even if we disagree. It doesn't mean that I'm saying agree all of the time. However, if we all stayed away from name-calling, showboating, etc and stuck to the facts of those types of discussions we could all learn quite a bit. We also may be able to come up with solutions. Something that has always bothered me about discussing politics online is that most people simply want to complain. They want to say how bad things are, how poor things are, but when asked to come up with real, viable solutions they can offer none. I'm a person who believes if you're going to complain, you best have a solution for what you are complaining about. I know these types of situations can prove to be hurtful and discouraging, but don't let it get you down too much. You have a lot to offer in conversations. Namaste-Anora

Some people do not take it easily or even get offended if someone has different opinion than their own. We are all different, we all have different beliefs and views on things. We can't expect everyone to agree with us at all times and we need to respect (or at least try) other peoples opinions. But sometimes it is not what your opinion is, but how you express it. So I think we also need to be careful how we deliver our thoughts on an issue and show the other person that their opinion matters as well even though it is opposite to our own.

It sounds like an awful experience sanuanu! I can see why it upset you although I don't know which discussion you are referring to so it is hard to make a proper comment. I don't understand why people get angry just because someone disagrees with them; I thought that's what a discussion group was all about! If you want me to comment further let me know which discussion it was.

I also can't understand why some people are close-minded. Why can't they accept that we are all different and our ideas and opinions differ too? I hate people who offend others and so I feel sorry for what happened to you. I have a responded to a lot of topics here presenting a different idea but gladly no one fought over me or told me offending words. I agree with you that we should take each response base on the content and on the quality and not on the opinion itself. We all differ and that makes every discussion here interesting, educational and enjoyable.

I found the discussion healthy when there are both positive and negative views. However if there are negative opinions that are quite offending I don't say a word first. I might as well think twice on what to comment as I don't want to offend others as well. There are constructive criticisms, where we learned though they might offend us a little. That's life however in writing, we have to welcome criticisms in order for us improve or grow.

That's a shame - surely if people create something that might inflame a negative response, that proves it's a discussion. Isn't a discussion about differing points of view? It's not you who shouldn't reply, it's people like this who shouldn't post discussions if they don't want to hear anything but their own POV. I invite you to totally disagree with what I've just said - I won't mind!

Why should everyone be a 'yesman' here. We should accept others who agree to disagree with our opinions with open mind. Not all discussions are agreeable to all and there bound to have different opinions which then become a challenge to the starter of the post to elaborate on her views which can lead to a healthy debate. This is all what this site is about. Unfortunately you have responded to a post that doesn't need someone who is more vocal and go against the grains. This shows how immature this poster is and she should learn to appreciate all views regardless of pro or against in the spirit of mylot. As the starter of a discussion one must stand neutral and not being provoked by any disagreements that may arise from the post. Otherwise should raise a white flag and quit posting altogether.

It is impossible for me t o give you a fair answer without seeing the discussion you are referring to. From what you say here it does sound as if the person was simply looking for others to agree with him and that you were the only one that did not agree and because of that she was rude to you. If that is so...it is wrong. I did look thru several of discussions that you were a part of and did not see this and so without seeing both sides, I can't really give you a fair answer.

I do feel you there in this topic. I have been scolded before too and after been a few years on and off in mylot, I have learned to be very silent about things. Like when it's too hot to handle, I just smile and shrug off and I will have this extra positive attitude. And there was one time that I gave a positive comment back no matter how rude that person was, and I got back a silent reply. So I think that sort of thing works, because he or she would realize that you are here for the enjoyment of discussions, a bit on gentle debates which I think is perfectly alright, otherwise it wouldn't be called a discussion. Don't worry my friend. In my mind, I virtually shake hands with the user whom is dissatisfied with what I have to say or having a misrepresentation or misunderstanding of what I said. At the end of the day, I either smile or shrug it off and the one getting angry is the other party instead of me.

Hi sanuanu! I think that the essence of myLot is the differences in people and the differences they have to offer within discussions. It is only right that you tell the truth about how you feel about topics. If you don't..it takes away so much from this site. I am suprised you would be treated so badly by someone for a response to their discussion. I always appriciate my responses..even if they are not always the way I think. I hate this has happened to you and I hope you don't let it hinder your participation. You are one of the people who makes myLot what it is.

A discussion meant to search for a common ground from many different ideas. If we only want to talk about something that everybody agree with, it is not a discussion anymore is just like a chit-chat. Why are we discuss? because we have a different opinions that need to sort out and come with a single conclusion that all agree. I one can not accept other opinions, don't start a discussion. That just my two cents. BR.b

One things i know about joining a community is to have an open mind. We have to accept other opinions or respond even critics whether we like it or not. We don't have rights forcing someone to be the same thinking with us. Everybody has their own mind.

I think they need to grow up and accept that not everyone will agree with them on every topic. That is what makes the world so great is all the different opinions we all have and that most people accept that is a grat thing. Oters who don't are just stupid and narrow minded. They need to realize that there aremany other opinions in the world not just their's so dont worry about it theyneed to deal with their own issues. Happy Mylotting!

it's such a shame to hear some people are like that. why post a discussion if you only want to hear what you want to hear... or that person could've added in her post "NO DISAGREEING ALLOWED", then all he/she could've have read are responses agreeing to his/her post. anyway, we can never really please everyone in here or anywhere else. dont let it affect you too much. some people are just like that. you coud've responded back again on how you think about his/her response to your response on the discussion. at least that person would know about how you felt. dont let this incident keep you from responding to other user's discussions...

I agree with your first sentence. Anyone who starts a discussion has to expect divergent views on the topic thrown up, and sometimes even criticism. Criticisms are not necessarily bad. It's the manner in which they are conveyed that can sometimes be bad and hurtful, and worse still, if the respondent is rude and sarcastic, he/she will come across as offensive. If one can accept genuine criticisms and rebuts with good counter-arguments to these criticisms, there can still be a fruitful exchange of ideas and opinions, and all who participate in the discussion will be winners. Having said all the above, anyone who cannot accept criticisms for their discussions should either not start discussions, or stick to issues which are very safe that will not invite any sort of criticisms from others.

Sometimes I get really strong in my rebuttal and sometimes I get slammed for my response. The thing to do is not get to wrapped up in the virtual world here on my lot. Some times I get my feelings hurt and then I remember nothing here is real so relax and enjoy and don't forget you have a delete button.

i agree with you dear.it has happened to me many times.whenever you say something against their point what you get is something very offensive which disturbs a lot....... but i would like to say this shouldn't stop you from giving your opinion........as mylot is all about discussing things without any hesitations .......if we find these kinds of people here we also find those who value your opinion very very much.........

You should not be afraid to speak your mind. but one should be polite are respepectful to others when disscussing diffierences of opion. good luck in future dissictions.

Yes you are absolutely right. No one has the right to discuss the criticism

Thats not fair!! i guess every individual today has a right to express his/her opinion and there is nothing to feel bad about as you dont have anything against the person in particular but just that ur opinions dont match..