No boyfriend since birth
By Preciousgem
@Preciousgem (1182)
Philippines
May 4, 2009 10:07pm CST
I am 22 years old but still i don't have that serious relationship yet, And according to my parents,relatives and my only few friends that I am pretty, maybe because I am very shy and i am not fond of going out since i've graduated, I am a homebody person can you give me tips?
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31 responses
@Aurone (4755)
• United States
5 May 09
If you want a relationship then you are going to have to go out. Go out with the friends you have and meet people who like to do the things you like to do. If that doesn't appeal then you might think about using an online dating service. A friend of mine and my sister seem to be having some success with eharmony. Good Luck.
@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
5 May 09
I will try to go out, thanks for your comment and advise God bless you
@jellymonty (2352)
•
6 May 09
When I read your headline I thought you were like 70 years old.. But girl you're only 22!! Why dont you enjoy the time that you have and quit worrying that you don't have a boyfriend.. He'll show up but if I was you I would go out there and enjoy my single status while it lasts.. your not missing anything yet as relationships are hard work and sacrifice.. So like the other people said, go out with your friends and establish connections.. if you sit at home and keep saying "am shy" you will never get a boyfriend that way.. You need to get out more...
@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
6 May 09
yes i got your point, you need to go out with your friends, to meet their new friends, that you can also use an internet to get your own relationship, making friends is the first step to make a relationship strong .
@sarcasms (120)
• India
6 May 09
u could try online dating thats a gud alterantive but u shldnt be worried if u havent had a boyfriend i m pretty sure u ll get ur dream guy soon maybe the resaon u dont have boyfriend is coz god is makin u wait fr ur perfect guy.......and meanwhile u shld go out more often with frnds make ur presence felt so that ur perfect guy notices u ........and there must be smbdy u like among ur frnds or in ur class try hookin up wth him ask him out............but u dont need to worry wen god seems the time fit fr u to find someone it will happen fr u .....other than that enjoy ur life have fun all the way......
@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
6 May 09
The two suggestion that you give, has it's beneficial help for me, knowing person is a wide preferences to know the motive of the person ever making friends or making an relationship, you need to know the person very well before entering a relationship, know his point of view about the relationship that you enter. Be wise to chose a boy friend.
@Yori88 (1465)
• Philippines
6 May 09
There is nothing wrong in being old but still no boyfriend because we can never force the will of God to go earlier than the time He set. I guess one reason why you still don't have a boyfriend is because you are very homebody and you do not like going outside. So if you want a change in lifestyle then you should change as well the old things you were doing. If you want a boyfriend then you should try to find one. DO your part but never force nature. I believe that you should also do some things that will make guys notice you. But if you can wait and you are not in a rush then it may take a longer time to have a boyfriend. But then it will be worth the wait.
@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
6 May 09
yes your right, every thing you do, you must be thinking of God, he who knows your future and gives you a perfect life, love can wait, and i thinking to follow your advices, thank you.
@kevdiesel (129)
• Kenya
6 May 09
if you are thinking of a serious relationship then go out more often, nobody would notice you if you are indoors all day, go out with the few friends you have met their friends, and then, met their friends friends till you have a comfortable crowd around you only then would you have someone noticing you, only then would you have a nice colllection of friends were you can pick your choice, its not easy but its the only way..have fun doing this ..enjoy the process....happy mylotting
@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
6 May 09
ok thanks for your advice, meting my old friends to met there new friends, it must help me to chose my serious relationship, yes you are correct for that, happy lotting too.
@ridah27 (31)
• Trinidad And Tobago
6 May 09
hmm... i'm approaching 30 yrs old and like u i aint have no serious relationship either ...like u 2 i'm shy but i happen to meet a decent,amazing girl online but still nothing out of it ..
u could try online dating since ur the shy type who don't go out much like me but i can't give u any guarantee's since i still haven't n e luck myself ..and almost given up but ur younger so there's still hope left :)....
@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
6 May 09
Ok thank's for your advices, that knowing the person is the key to have a perfect relationship
@lovedude (4447)
• India
5 May 09
well my dear friend.. it is not like as you are of 22 you should have boy friend. you are shy that is one thing and another thing is there must be some better guy in your fate.. and remember one thing that in life it is not the thing that if you dont have boyfriend you are alone else you are not. if you are happy with your friends and parents, it is not required to have a boyfriend. :)
@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
6 May 09
Ok I understand it, that the love of your family and friends is much better than having a boy friend, love can wait, and every woman and man has one love that's truly meant to be.
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
6 May 09
Well, you are still young... and you have still a lot of time ahead of you... but then... you will not find love just sitting in your house all day... you need to go out and meet other people... not men in particular... but people of different sizes and shapes... that will be a good start for you...
I was a teacher in the past... and believe me... i know women who are over 30 but were never even close to having a serious or not so serious relationship... mainly because their daily routine is work - home - work - home...
But for sure... if you don't go looking for it... love will eventually find you... but it may take years... my former co-teacher got married at 42... one at 45... and another at 38... if you want to wait that long... then do whatever it is you are doing... if not... the go out and find love yourself...
@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
6 May 09
Hanging around your friends is the good start to chose a boyfriend that he knows his responsibilities regarding entering a relationship, making new friend will give you an idea to know the person what is his/ or her interest. Going out is the key
@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
5 May 09
Well, you're young and pretty.. the right man for you will eventually come at the right time.. i have got few friends who are in the same situation as yours and they seem happy and contented with their own lives.. not having a boyfriend/girlfriend doesn't mean you can't have a happy meaningful life.. why don't you go out with friends? i am sure you'll find someone along the way.. good luck.. =)
@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
6 May 09
Yes i' m happy and feel contented with my status, so many friends around me, man is all around, timing is the way to chose and find the guy that loves you and you love him too.
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
5 May 09
Well, try to be conspicuous, show yourself, and let people notice your existence. Or hangout more often in the public with your friends. You probably will find your Prince charming at no time.
@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
6 May 09
I try it but it doesn't work, but i ddn't disappointed with that
@maanrodriguez (604)
• Philippines
6 May 09
it's okay girl. dont stress too much about it. guys will come, believe me. who knows maybe you're destined to be with just one guy and then get married. that would be so much better than going through a heartbreak. just be yourself and that guy will come. :)
@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
6 May 09
yes i also believe in that, that the one who loves you will come and ask you for marriage.
@la_chique (1498)
•
5 May 09
Just be yourself. Dont be shy if people want to chat to you, and dont go out of your way to 'find' somebody. If its meant to be it will happen. You will find someone. You're never too old for love. Good luck
@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
6 May 09
Yes i agree to your saying, and i use to chat also with my new friends this the time that we share our thoughts together.
@Buzzman007 (357)
• Finland
5 May 09
I´m not sure what you are "fishing" for here but i will try to cover my bases.
As i understand it (with the information I have been given) you have had some sort of "relationships" in the past. And seriously you are 22 you are not supposed to have the "serious relationship" yet I suppose you are better off than your avarage girl/woman marrying there highshool sweethart or marrying to "young" in general.
Most of these people are looking for there "2nd serious relationship".
"I´m a person that rather stay at home reading a good book than going out" kind of person. 99/100 you are going to the wrong kind of places. There is a time and place for reading that good book. But not all the time. If you are the 1/100 that has tried this and it did not work. I suggest "forcing yourself" out becouse you really need some work on your socialskills. If you can´t even do that i suggest going to the library becouse you will have a lot of reading to do...
(goining out doesn´t have to mean you have to drink/party/"dryhump some dude on the dancefoor" you could just try going there or if that is absolutley not your thing try another place/activity)
Be yourself i´m sure is in reality a non-issue you are focusing a bit to much on finding "that serious relationship" than findind "a relationship" (I think this applys to you with the information i have been given) (shy, homebody person don´t even matter)
You also might be looking for the wrong kind of peron...Just becouse you happen to be a "stay at homekinda girl" doesn´t meen that the that "secial someone" has to be like you...basic rule ASUME nothing...
@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
7 May 09
Thank you for your comment I am fond of reading books especially the Bible and I am happy staying home and I don't mind whether or not to have friends because for me what is important is my relationship with Christ. God Bless. I think doing my Lot helps me develop my personality as I can find lots of concerned friend here.
@etnmystic (9)
• United States
5 May 09
You shouldn't try to force yourself to get into a relationship just because you never had a boyfriend before. If any of your close friends are guys then maybe start from there since you known them for a long time, if you do have some guy friends maybe one of them already likes you.
@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
6 May 09
maybe your right, friendship is the key to know the feeling of the person, before moving to a relationship, maybe my guy friend had an intimate feeling for me, maybe they never show their true feeling or even they to shy to express their true feeling to me.
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
5 May 09
Tips to have a bf? well, you look pretty in the picture. I think many guys have crash on you but you never pay attention. You need to give yourself times, plenty of time about this relationship. Love could happen anywhere and anyhow, so it might not the right time and it might be sometimes soon.
Why dont you try to go out and be with friends on weekend, cuz you are old enough to take care of yourself right? so go out and see the real world... and if you say, you dont feel right about it, then ask your best friend to go with you.
Having bf or no bf is don't matter, Boy always attractive with pretty girl like you. Good luck
@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
6 May 09
yes your right, maybe the guy would have the inner feeling for that i can't see, so they keep them in their self, I will do that.
@Cameron8787 (69)
•
5 May 09
Well, I am not far behind you so maybe my advice is not all that creditable.
I too am 22 and rarley leave the house.
I think you need to evaluate the reasons you don't get out much, is it that you have nothing to do? no one to go anywhere with? once you figure that one out, work at it. search the internet for things to do etc.. Just going to a cafe for a cuppa can be a good place to socialize.
Shyness is a hard thing to overcome, It usually reflects from your self esteem and confidence, so you need to build those up, Listen to compliments rather than rolling your eyes at them, Everyone is beautiful in there own way, imperfections make perfection..
Good luck anyhow. I hope it helps you more than me lol
@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
6 May 09
I am doing something and i just asking your opinion to help too, i am surfing the net, checking my yahoo mail, chatting, friendster, and other socializing networks,i meet a lot of friends there both my old friends and the new friends, maybe i get from them.
@John4Christ (1597)
• India
5 May 09
Well if you go out hunting for a boyfriend there are rare chances you may find one, at most of the times you wont.....
i believe you should first concentrate on making good friend circle......that makes a difference......once you have made friends you can come to know about that person much better......and if things go well you may just start liking one......it is not difficult to find one trust me......
If i go by your profile pic and consider that it is you......then i must say you are very beautiful......go out venture into this beautiful world......make friends.....but be careful while you choose your friends.......there are many people out there who are not interested in having a long term relationship.....and they might just take advantage of the very fact that you never had a boyfriend so far and that you are looking for one........
Wait, have patience and i am sure you will find one very soon......don't worry much.....
Have a nice day !!!!!!!
@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
6 May 09
I understand what you are trying to say, it is to hard to find a good Boyfriend, than looking for a friend, the relationship establish first making him your friend, to know him better what he wants and not wants , and understanding each other emotion, if it grows soon you will know how to find a good boy friend. Have a nice day too.
@orang13 (723)
• Philippines
5 May 09
Well, i really cannot give you a good tip since like you i still get any boyfriends since then. But its okay for me, i think i am still not ready to have one so really gotta wait at that. But for you, i advice you to talk to guys, and don't be shy. Try to get to know them well, but be aware about their lies. You should know them first before entering into their life.
@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
6 May 09
Yes i agree what you said, knowing the person is the way know him better weather you has the same traits, belief in life, to keep the relationship strong, and you should trust him what ever he say if you know him better. thanks
@janeycat11 (28)
• China
5 May 09
make some boy friends,go out with some friends, be nice to the people aroud you~i do belive there must be a prince charming waiting for you~~good luck~~
@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
6 May 09
yes i believe in what you are saying meeting new friends is key to chose a nice boy friend.
@Oldpraise (1)
• China
5 May 09
I think you do not need a boyfriend but a lot of good friends,have the same interests and hobbies.You said you did not like to go out,why not play competitive game? Watctaft,for instance,you will be able to know a lot of boys,but they are very warm oh,and may even take the initiative to invite you out to play,I am afraid that your life is not static like static also down.
@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
6 May 09
yes your right meeting new good friends will makes a good conversation, to examine weather the man are serious to have an relationship, to examine him, to know his interest, goals in life, bond with him, and to make a strong trust to each other.