Do I need to find my mother?

I think that it really depends on you. I think that you may want to take some time to think about this issue. It's difficult to say if she's thinking about you or not, but I get the feeling that you are thinking about her. So, maybe you should try to at least make some sort of contact with her.

Every mother in the world are care their child, missing their child, worry their child, I think your mother is missing you now, and maybe she is looking for you, just have no idea where you are, or maybe she is in a hard situation, I'm sure she never forget you, she is missing every minutes, if you are still missing her so much, and can't forget her, want to see her, I think you need looking for her.

If I were you I will keep on praying that one day we will meet. Of course out of curiosity you need to see her and you need to feel her love, motherly love. Maybe there are reasons why you and her still hasn't meet until today. Only God knows why. My advice is continue with your life and keep on praying that someday you will meet. Be hopeful.

oh dear ! i feel really sympathetic towards you, sometimes god can be really harsh on us, but i think if u r getting this thought in your mind to search for ur biological mohter ,it might be possible that god really wnats you to find your mother so you should go for it, dont let anyone stop you and even if u fail atleast you wont regret in the future that you did not try finding your mother, and luckily if you find her then there would be a completely different story. but before you start this search i owuld advise you to think POSITIVE! be positive and work positively........and in this search if i can be of any help then please let me know , because one of my cousin who was adobted wanted to search for her mother although it was damn difficult but with positive attitude and strong hope both of us found her ! yes thats true! so my best wishes are with you ! remember be positive and dont let any negative feeling harm you . be strong!

did it ever occur to you that your mother may be looking for you also and cant find you? what was the cause of your parents separation? you know some parents would hide their kids from the other just to get back at them. if i were on my shoes, i'd try looking for her, to really know the truth and so that some spaces in my mind and my life will be filled.

I dont think that a mother can ever forget any of her children. im sure she is still longing for you and trying to find you. it will be great also if u will do something to find her so that both of you will be satisfied at some points in your lives. your mom will surely feel the same way as you do.

I think it would be interesting to find out about your family even if it is just for the interest of your childrens children and further on, I have done my family tree and I found it amazing to fine our about generations long gone, I think it would be sad if your future generations had no line to look back on and maybe once you go all avenues of information will be so much harder for your future generations..I am at the moment putting my family tree on line so my future generations will have an easy job at finding out about their family.

A mother will never forget her children. It is impossible. I think it is a good idea to find your mother. Perhaps your mother wants to find you on the other hand. It will be a surprise and happiness for her. I hope your mother will have a happy Mother's Day and wish you will get together soon. I love China

We might not have fathers but all of us ofcourse have mothers. So I think to satisfy that longing of yours deep inside you would need to find her. But then again ask yourself these questions before you begin :) 1. Are you emotionally prepared to look for her and to find out more about her? 2. What can you gain from finding her? 3. Do you really want to get to know her, when you find her then what? Please understand that she may have a life now, very apart from yours so it might hurt you to find that she hasn't looked back on you because she lost you. People tend to try to avoid things in their past when their present is very pleasant she might have that case that is why she never looked for you. But you might find that she did try to look for you and she would like for you to be a part of her life from now on...may be find unknown siblings along the way A whole new family if God Permits. But its all up to you...I found my father when I was 19, I thought my life would change and I would feel whole. Do you know what? It didn't because of him, by my life was touched because I found out that I had siblings whom I love now from his side of the tree. So my point is you mind find things along the way that you didnt expect so better prepare yourself ok :) GOD BLESS!!!

i think your mother is also finding you but maybe she has no idea where you are right now just like you. well mother never forget. because she is the reason why we are here. just continue with your life. maybe someday you will find her accidentally.

Sounds like you need to find your Mom, only because it is something you are thinking about. I would also believe that even though she isn't in your life she thinks about you often.. In fact I will bet on it. If you have her full name you can do research online, you may be able to find her. You can also go back to the city and do a research that you moved from to get information. You never know unless you try. I do hope you find her to just let her know, you are out there and miss her too.

If I was on your shoes,I would have a good life,while I did not give up looking for my mother.I do not think it is very difficult to forget her children by a mother.I am also a mother. Make every effort to do so,the results are not important.It is important that you will be in the process of looking for your mother.Just do,no think anymore.

Hi,my dear friend, I sympathize your experience very much.I think life is not easy for everyone.I also have had some unhappy experience myself. I think whether to find your mother or not depends tatally on your decision.It will be a hard process for you Since you have lost touch with your mother for such a long time. I think you'd better prepare well for your decision.Good luck!

Do you miss her?If I were you,maybe I won't go to find her.I donnot know how old you are.Your mother must know where you are,but she didnot come to see you.It is no necessory ot go .It just is my idea.

It totally depends on you, of course it is worth the while to know where you cam from. Although you know your father's side but still there is this missing part of you that would be interesting to know and maybe it is about time to know her and maybe shed some light as to why they have separated.

Hi there! It seems you have lived fine, well quite a long time without your mother. And I think you will still be able to continue with your own life even without her so I think it won't change anything if you know her or not. Besides by now probably your mother has her own family too. But knowing your roots is also good. It's not a bad thing to look for your mother. At least if you find her, you can have the answers to all your questions about your parents particularly about her. Finding her can put an end to your past life and you can go on looking forward to your future without the worries. I'm sure your mother has thought about you too. She has her reasons why she left you and maybe she chose not to have contacts with you or anyone in your family. It could also be better not to look for her cause it might cause problems with her current family. If I'm in your shoe, I will not look for her. Not that I don't like to know her but I choose to have peace with my own life and my mother with hers.

That would be the greatest adventure of the Life time.Do you know her name, right? Am pretty sure it's in the records, you can just asked for her name and her current location. it won't be easy but i would hope she would remember you and hug you with open arms.

It sounds to me like the entire issue is really effecting your life. I think that you need some sort of closure or beginning from her to ease your own mind. I highly doubt that she has forgotten you. I am sure that you have many unanswered questions for her too. If I were in your shoes, I would try to find her if for no other reason than to help me rest easier. Don't idolize her though or you are bound to be dissapointed when you do find her. If you do pursue your search, the best place to start is with your birth certificate. These days, you can type her name into the computer and find possible matches pretty quick. Good luck and God bless you!

The truth is that it is always better to know one's roots. There are people who would never feel complete as long as there are loose ends as far as his past are not in order. What you feel is normal. I have to warn you though. It has been a long time. And there are probably a lot of things going on in your mother's life that could not be shifted just to make room for the child she has abandoned. It is normal to try to find your roots but be careful not to get your hopes up too much. Be prepared that she may or may not want you in her life. It is sad that there are parents who could stand being away from their children for long periods of time but these things happen. You have been brave enough to make it through without her and perhaps could go on without her just as well. I pray that you do find her and get the answers you need to make sense of it all. But know that with or without her, you are a strong and special person. Also make this sad experience your inspiration for when you have children of your own. I wish you all the best!