Why do we keep listening to the wrong voices?

I wish it was that easy... I have a friend whom I was dating, and upon realizing that the relationship wasn't healthy for either of us, I cut it off. I moved ouir "relationship" back to a frinedship and now he is constantly reminding me of how I have hurt him and cheated him out of happiness. That I stole myself away from him. That I didn't allow him to have a choice in the matter, that I just decided for both of us that it wouldn't work. Of course there is more to the story...but he has become a toxin in my life - but he is still a friend and I still care about him in that way. He is beginning to do liek you said, hurt my heart and soul. But is it fair to him to avoid him at all costs, or is that just cheating him out of a friendship also and just hurting him more than I should?

Life itself can be very toxic which is why we have antitoxins. Just because a person seems to be toxic to your relationship with them, it could very well be yourself who is making the relationship toxic. Remember, its always easier to blame someone else rather than take a good close look at yourself. Running away from a problem doesn't solve anything, try to detoxify the situation.

Tom, I don't think you understand how toxic people can be, or the extent to which a person goes to get things right before putting an end to a relationship. In my case, extreme abuse, broken bones, etc., were the extent to which I went to stay in those relationships. I didn't mean just a simple cross word or something. At work, there are two people with whom I was quite close, and everyone seemed to ask why I tolerated them. In both cases, I ended the relationships when they were extremely mean to other people, and I just didn't want to have a close friendship with someone who could be so verbally abusive. We still say hello, and remember each other's birthdays, and so on, but I don't go out with them or spend a lot of time with them anymore. Cruelty to others hurts as much as cruelty to me.

Thanx for the advices.And thanx for participating on my questions guys.