should we be bitter after breaking up with someone we love?

i dont think we should be bitter about a breakup. most people just tend not to be friends at all after they breakup. it is just not possible for most... others become friends after a very long time but most dont. they should really move on and stop being bitter about their past relationship as this will only make things worst for both of them since they might not be able to move on having anger or hatred for each other in their hearts. one should find the courage to accept it is his fault and the other should keep an open mind.

I was bitter after a surprise breakup of a past relationship that had lasted over seven years...I handled the whole situation so immaturely and with such ragged passion. I look back at it now and feel absolutely saddened that I had ruined a chance to still be friends with that special person after the split. You choose a person to be your love, we have to remember that reason when the love relationship ends. Even when it doesn't feel like it at the time, that relationship had directed us forward in our lives...it was meant to be. It leads us in the direction of the true love in our lives. Burning bridges doesn't help us...it just makes the pain or the sting of the breakup last longer.

No we should not be bitter after a breakup with someone. We have to agree that we have spent some wonderful moments with that person and why do we tend to forget all those things? I find it very immature to be bitter with someone whom we once loved.

Well sometimes you are not left with any option but to be bitter.........because you have spend so much of quality time together and you just cant imagine that you have parted ways.....and specially this happens if they still love each other but often spend time thinking who's going to come and patch up first......this has happened many a times with my friends.......so sometimes being bitter can really get you close as you come to know that how much you are missing them and vice-verse......so god knows they might just want to meet again....pray for them...... Have a nice day !!!!!

Huh, man there is so much to say on that one. I have had my share of relationships and I am in one currently and we are having are bridges, but I hope for the best but won't devote all of my soul to it. I do not feel like a person should be bitter at all after a break-up. Your friends not wanting to see or know about eachother is pretty expected. It is rare for friends to remain friends once they have tried a relationship and it didn't work. If it was me I wouldn't want to know there relationship status, but I want to know that they are doing well or that they are okay. I was in a relationship for 8 years on and off we dated since middle school and it ended because of my choice in the year 2007. I jumped into a relationship about 3 months after and sometimes I regret because I still care for my ex deeply. He was in most of my life and we have been apart for 2 years and I still love him and it put me in a mess with my feelings with my current boyfriend because I love him allot too. It's a very very long story. Anyways, don't be bitter and still be friends but don't go around eachother when it comes to relating to relationships. I say this because it hurts to see someone else have what you had and make you wonder. Hurt, a very painful thing I hate more then anything and I will do anything to prevent it. If there mature they'll do what's right, but jealousy can get the best of someone.

i think bitterness is inevitable when anybody breaks up. Of course, the ideal way to break up would be to let things come to an end after resolving all the differences and coming to a realization that those two people just aren't meant to be together. Regardless of such an "ideal" way to break up, i'd say 90% of the time, a breakup leads to a severe account of bitterness/ irritability/ hate, and although dissappointing, there's nothing you can do about it :[. I mean..to put this into perspective for you: My last two breakups with girlfriends involved a LOT of bitterness....and psychotic behavior. My ex stalked me for a good 2 months :X. Crazy, yeah?

i think it really depends on how the the couple breaks up, if they break up on good terms then there will never be any bitterness. Now if they break up blaming eachother for the break up then the only way to get things fixed is to communicate

I've found that old boyfriends are some of the best of friends. I think bitterness after a relationship uses ALOT of energy and can be exhausting so no, I try to take what I can from it and not linger too much. If I were to find myself bitter I would try really hard to nurture myself.

Yeah,I do feel bitter after breaking up with someone I love,you know,we have the same feeling about love, but one day, you would have to say goodbye to your love,and what would you feel, i mean, but not the enemy. I think we should be easy for it,coz it isnt the problem of one side,since having been breaking up with each other,maybe couldnt be friends any more,but never be enemy.

of course i'd feel bitter if i broke up with someone that i still love. it's not an easy thing to do. i do feel depressed missing the person i love, but if i broke up with someone that i don't have feelings at all, it's just okay for me. so we must make sure that we dont have any feelings anymore before breaking up with someone .

actually, its up to you and the other party.. as far as i know its better to be still friends after the break up.. but... most people i know will not become friends anymore... and with that... they say that its better that way to make sure that they can get over one another.. bad...

I would say YES at first..especially if we've been for so long...but in my case never because I'm the one who broke up and when we broke up that means no feelings involve anymore..so it's not hurting...But i think when you get to move on and realized that its over..you will laugh at it. In regards to your friends christian1 maybe they still love each other but cant accept the fact that they both have faults why they broke up...so better fix things up and talk it over and get things done right away...if they still love each other go ahead and start all over again..if they have found someone else...then they need to have a formal break up then...

Well it is very easy for me to say hey why be bitter. I have seen my brother being bitter about his break up when his girlfriend ditched him for a supposedly richer man. He still is bitter about it. So maybe people cant help it. They just become bitter. Why is it so difficult to finally put an end to a relationship and go on with life. I mean why waste it on a person who doesnt deserve it.

it kind of happens that way if there is someone i love and she breaks up with me so also try to avoid that person coz it becoems very hard fr me to see that person again.......it just reminds me of the past so that might be the reason........if its affecting ur frnd circle u could do an intervention and talk to them abt it or try getting them together maybe the reason they are bickering abut each other might be tht they still have feelings for each other and ther ego might be gettin in the way of them getiin together......

I dont think we should be bitter after a break-up. I mean people are different and there is always something that would cause a break-up. Sure you love someone but you cannot be bitter especially if you have the same circle of friends. I dated a guy for 10 months and when we broke up i was hurt, but not bitter.

hm..dude..its only a relation losing gets better if only want to lose it.. if u both think that relation is important than defects in other life..then u r bitterness goes to sweeteners that how the relationship goes on