Just a question...

United States
May 6, 2009 1:46pm CST
When you put your child to sleep in their rooms at night do you close the door? And why? My husband and I went out the other night and had a family member watch them. When they put them to sleep they close the door behind them. I do not know why but that bothers me. I don't know maybe because I feel I can hear my children in the middle of the night better with the door open. So that is my question, do you keep the door open or closed.
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9 responses
• United States
7 May 09
It makes good sense to want to hear the kids at night. If you are concerned with this than I think one of the others had a great idea to place a monitor in the room. I have 6 kids ranging in age from 23 down to 10 months. We tend to let them decide if they want their doors open or closed at night. Generally it is the house sounds (TV, older siblings) that we make the choice. I think the door being open or closed is a minor thing that is a preference based on household, the child and there is no wrong or right answer. Now, if "locking" of the door becomes an issue for older ones and you can't get in during an emergency, I suggest not having bedroom doors that lock and letting them make the choice to their privacy.
• United States
7 May 09
I have always had the door open for my kids. They are older now but i still keep thier doors open, i know they like thier privacy but in a way to me it feels as we are shunning them at bedtime. Unless they prefer the door closed i leave it open.
• United States
7 May 09
Well it's great to hear everyone else's response about this, for a minute there I though it was just me being strange. :) My kids range from 3-8 they all go to bed at the same time. I do understand the concept of their privacy, and they also know that it is there choice to close the door if they like.
@Ozarkgirl (774)
• United States
6 May 09
When my sons (who are now grown) were growing up I closed their doors so that the TV, or other things would not wake them. I kept a (baby) room monitor in their rooms until they each told me that they were too old for one. I think my oldest son was like 10 and my youngest was like 12 when they told me this. Also if there was a fire that started somewhere else in the house I would not want it to spread to them to quickly and therefore if we could get out and get to them through their window or the fireman could they would have a better chance of survival. I learned this at a firman's safety convention.
• United States
6 May 09
I never actually thought of it that way. I am lucky though to have all our bedrooms close to each other, but with all the "my child was kidnapped from their bedroom" stories scare me.
• United States
6 May 09
We have always had a security system on our house, all doors, and windows so I was not scared about that, but if I had not had that I would be totally scared out of my mind of that too!!
@mjhicks (317)
• United States
7 May 09
For fire safety it is best to keep bedroom doors closed. Use a baby monitor to be able to hear your child. Closed doors also help teach another valuable lesson. As your child grows you can teach him/her to knock first before entering by the example of knocking on their door weather it is ajar or latched.
• United States
16 May 09
I just recently started closing the door. Mainly because I don't want to wake them up as they go to sleep before I do. I don't close it all the way so it latches, just most of the way.
• United States
8 May 09
I never shut the door to my kids rooms. I always like to hear every sound that comes from there rooms.
@harmonee (1228)
• United States
12 May 09
I always close the door for safety reasons. If the children are small, just use a baby monitor and you will be able to hear everything anyway. When I was little we had a fire in my house. If our doors would have been open, we would have been exposed to so much more smoke and possibly even flames. In the event of a house fire an open doorway in a clear invite for the fire to spread to that room. I feel my children are much safer with a door as a barrier of protection.
@samdeb (82)
• Muzaffarpur, India
7 May 09
yup my sis also do the same but she keep the door half closed so that her children should keep sleeping all tonight.but she nevr keeps the door closeed her children might cry for something tonight.so never close the door and sleep as i suggest
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
6 May 09
i leave the door open. my daughters are older now but even when they were little, i liked to be able to hear them if they needed help or got up during the night, so the door has always been open.
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
6 May 09
I keep the door opened until my daughter is asleep. Then I usually will shut it. The only reason that I close the door is because I have older boys and they are quite loud when they get home at night. This way they don't wake up my daughter while she is sleeping.
@msmamaof3 (244)
• United States
6 May 09
I keep the doors open when I send my son to bed. Sometimes he will close the door if his little sisters are being too loud. They co-sleep with my husband and myself, so I don't close the doors for them.