Separate Money and Friends...
By jhoannejoj
@jhoannejoj (963)
Philippines
May 6, 2009 2:24pm CST
[b]The holy passion of friendship is of so sweet and steady and loyal and enduring a nature that it will last through a whole lifetime, if not asked to lend money.
— Mark Twain[/b]
IS THIS SO TRUE? Been upset lately for my friendships with some people who are dear to me are at the verge of having strains or worse possibly come to an end. Those my so called friends did not bother to greet me at all on my birthday which i find odd since they used to greet me on special occassion nonetheless my birthday. After the dates (dates that been moved constantly) they promised to pay, i sent an sms to remind them of their obligations. After that, odd things I noticed from them. And just today, i was checking my messenger list i cannot seemed to find a particular name on my list. Did she somehow erased me on her list so i cant be able to know if she's online or what? Am i being a bad friend? Or is their really a friendship existed between us after all??? 
Im just so angry to myself that i shouldnt in the first place lend money to those people.. The sad thing is I have no guts to ask them. Do you agree that money and friends should be separated?
Im just so angry to myself that i shouldnt in the first place lend money to those people.. The sad thing is I have no guts to ask them. Do you agree that money and friends should be separated?1 person likes this
6 responses
@odaduy (25)
• Philippines
7 May 09
yes they should be separated. since it became their advantage of not paying you since "you are a good friend" and she is your friend. since it happens that you lend them some money, if they are also a good friend, they should know how to pay. She's a bad friend not you.atleast now, you know that never ever lend a money to a friend.. =)
@jhoannejoj (963)
• Philippines
11 May 09
Your response makes me smile, knowing that im not a bad friend after all. Thanks odaduy for responding!
@anday0108 (628)
• Philippines
7 May 09
I have been warned too that friends and money do not go together. Friendships and relationships are sometimes ruined when money comes into the scene. However, it sometimes depends on the depth of friendship you have. I have lend money to my best friend because I do not have the heart to say no to this special person in my life who is in need. You have to choose which is important, money or your relationship with this person. So if money and friends should be separated, for me it really depends on who you lend the money to, the depth of friendship you have and which is more important to you, to keep your friendship with the person or money. As for me, though I have lend a HUGE amount of money to my friend, it didn't create a scar in our friendship because I know my friend is in need and I am here to help her. If in the future she find the resources to pay me, I will be happy but if not, I have already accepted that what I have lend to her may not be returned but I am just glad I still have my best friend and nothing has changed between our friendship.
@jhoannejoj (963)
• Philippines
11 May 09
Oh yeah, your respond makes sense. I should have consider some factors before I decided to let them borrow money. As for now, I will take what happend as a lesson. I should be more careful nest time. Thanks for the response.
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
7 May 09
A friend would never ask another friend for money. However, if a friend hears that a friend is in trouble, she should offer her money and that friend should agree to pay her back. Then if the friend who offers her money says it's on me and does not object too much when the other friend says she will pay her back that she is clear.
Sometimes that person cannot pay you back and sometimes they are so embarrassed they will disappear, but later on they will come back and maybe do something for you in repayment of the loan.
Sp sometimes money and friends can work together, but only if it is done in the right way.
@jhoannejoj (963)
• Philippines
8 May 09
Such a good point suspenseful.. However those friends of mine were the one who brought the subject of loaning from me. Those amounts are too big for me to give as gifts. I just wish I did not agreed for I loss not only my money but my friendships with them as well. Thanks for responding my friend.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
6 May 09
It is always bad to loan to friends, it's better just to gift. Can you imagine how
embarrassed these people must feel now that they cannot pay you back. people run away from that kind of pain, if you treasure their friendship why not contact them and forgive their debit. This may still strain your friendship, because they will always feel in debit to you. Blessings
@jhoannejoj (963)
• Philippines
8 May 09
Oh no i just cant do it savypat.. The numbers on the amount involve are of higher value. I just wish i didnt said yes when they asked me for loans. Im in fault i guess for not knowing the thought about money and friendships. Thanks for the response.
@wanghui0210 (218)
• China
6 May 09
Yes, I think that money and friends should be separated so that the friendship between us are long and pure. If we lend money to friends, especially the number is large, the friendship between us has changed. We can not feel as better as before when we get along with those friends. Have a good day!
@jhoannejoj (963)
• Philippines
6 May 09
You are right in there wanghui.. I should researched of studies regarding things like this before I decided. Im angry and at the same time so sad with whats happenning. Thanks for responding..
@mrzbreana (25)
• United States
7 May 09
yes i do because sometimes you friendship can end for forever in its just over money that they gave you word in said you will get it back
