Do you consider online friends with the same regard you do face-to-face friends?
By PeacefulWmn9
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
United States
May 7, 2009 3:19am CST
At one time, it was considered "silly" to regard online friendships as real. I'd hear things like: how do you know they are who they say they are? It's not the real deal, it's only the internet. It could be just anybody.
As far as I'm concerned, there are as many dishonest and fake people in "real" life as there are on the internet. Through the years, I've become very fond of my internet friends and have met a few in person. With the busy busy world the way it is, I inter-act more regularly than some friends who live right in my area!
What is your take on this?
6 responses
@Christoph56 (1504)
• Canada
25 May 09
I've had many great friends through the internet... some that I knew in person, first, then moved so far away, that the only way we could stay in touch was online... others that I got to know over years of just chatting and writing eachother. One girl, I was friends with, just knowing her online for a few years, then she came to my city and lived with me for a few months. It was great to know her. I've fallen in love through just knowing someone online, and visiting them was one of the greatest experiences of my life... Online, you can meet people no matter where they're from, and with so many people in the world, you can find just the right people to talk to, and get along with, and find people that match you, perfectly.
Personally, I'm quite glad to have grown up in this age of computers, where there is no limit to who you can be friends with. It's like around the world, is right around the corner.
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@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
26 May 09
What a great outlook on the internet age. You've obviously met as many special people as I have, and isn't it wonderful?
Karen
@savypat (20216)
• United States
7 May 09
I do interact more with my friends on mylot than I do with my real friends, but since I have caught many of them in a lie or two I don't need to be reminded that this is a virtual world. On occasion to make a point I will also take on a persona
in a response or discussion. I will show myself as I was many years ago or will be several years in the future. On mylot don't believe everything you read.
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@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
7 May 09
"Savy" advice, Pat. I agree, it is tempting to adopt personas. I did occasionally in chat rooms in the past, but never with intentions to meet and really know someone. These days, I'm just me wherever I am, online or off.
Thank you for your thoughts : )
Karen
@swtpareek (650)
• United States
2 Jul 09
We are more frank with the online friends I think. Since we are not interacting with them face-to-face, introverts like me can get more acquainted with online friends. But then again we shouldn't trust just anyone, but it's usually fun to be with the usual faces online. And ya it's pretty much true that we spend more time with our online friends than the offline ones so they are an important part of our lives...
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Hello Swt...I agree with you. I am also rather an introvert, but find it very easy to interact on line with friends and even strangers. Not so easy face-to-face. Thank you for your insights.
Karen
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
7 May 09
Yes, it is good to be careful when getting to know anyone, online or off. Thank you for your input!
@darbas_namie (326)
• Lithuania
26 May 09
many years i am using chats, i have a lot of friends in wirtual world. sometimes i meet with them. but.. i like the virtual friends more, because they do not know you well. you can talk about everything without tabu. you do not need to scare about your secrets if you tell them and etc.
of course you do not know they well as well, but it is more interesting! why? because everyday they can be different.. they can use the masks as much as they want and you will not know about it.. you can laugh when is your heart broken if ir is not interesting for them, they do not say shout up, or stop to cry, they listen to you (if not, you do not know this).
virtual friends are not dangeroues if you have a good antivirus :)
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
26 May 09
You make some interesting points : ) I know many people say they are less shy online and talk more openly.
Thank you for responding.
Karen
@amiee32 (30)
• United States
26 May 09
I have online friends who I have never met nor spoke to off the net but I still consider them to be true friends. I find nothing wrong with having friends online. It is when the friends try to get you to come to where they live or start acting funny that is when I start to worry. I have had that happen once and found out later the guy was out for one thing and was trying to find it with ladies in my area. I beczame concerned then but that was the only time I had doubted any of my onluine friends. After a whiloe of talking to them you can tell how true they are. Just watch out for the few that are out there looking for other things than just a friend.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
26 May 09
I agree we have to have some caution, but I have found this to be true with friends and dating people we've met online or off. Thank God, the world of both is still so much more full of good people than the unscrupulous.
Thank you for responding.
Karen