my fiance has more male friends than female --- do i need to talk to her?

ya u definetly need to talk to her communication in a realtionship is very important u need to tell her abut ure insecurity....if she love u she will understand .....but does she spend time with those frnds more than she does with u if thats the case then u shld be definetly be worried...other than that if she loves u she will respect ur feelings and maybe she will be happy wen u tell her coz she will feel wanted and she will be happy that u care for her so much that u are jealous of her frnds...........

You should sit her down and talk to her, explain that although you trust her you feel uncomfortable with her having so many male friends. Maybe you should go with her when she hangs out with them. Also i think you should talk to her friends and explain to them also your feelings about the situation. I myself tend to have more male friends then female. From past experiences with my husband many of my female friends had alterior motives as to the relationships. Your girlfriend may feel the same. I have never cheated on my bf with any of my males friends, i find that our friendships are more on a level of having someone to talk to. good luck

If your fiancee has more male friends than female, she has a problem with her self-esteem. She believes deep down that she is not really worthy to men unless she has as many male friends as possible paying attention to her. That comes out of a lack of self-love and a need to be affirmed. So until she truly loves and appreciates herself, there is nothing you can do about her male friends. However, you can help by doing three things: 1. Stop feeling so insecure. Your insecurity may drive her towards someone else when she really doesn't want another boyfriend. She simply wants the ATTENTION she can get. She wants to feel like the most wanted and valued person and your being insecure because of that will only judge her more harshly than she deserves. It naturally makes you feel uncomfortable, but trying to help her rather than laying down rules or feeling offended is the best way forward in order to secure your friendship with her. 2. No, you DON'T speak to her about it, except to ask her why she finds it more comfortable to be with boys than girls. Don't make it sound like a criticism either. Remember, she has chosen YOU, no one else, so the only person who is querying the situation with doubts is you. Listen to her reasons, discuss the reasons, but say nothing else about it that would make the situation worse. You may also ask her how she would feel if you had a lot of girlfriends to help her see the parallel but the minute you start criticisng her actions she will become self-conscious and defensive. 3. Instead of chiding her, increase your attention to her. For example, pay her REGULAR compliments, praise her, tell her how wonderful she is, thank her for being in your life, give her surprise gifts, be more romantic, show her how much you value her and treat her like a princess. Soon she will not need the company of other men to show her that appreciation because she will be getting it from you. Whenever someone seeks others outside of a relationship, no matter how good it is, it is basically because something is missing; perhaps because one party feels neglected, unloved or unwanted. By the way, you cannot say you trust her but you don't trust the guys. That's contradictory. It actually suggests that she is not adult enough to resist the guys in her group. In effect, you really don't trust her either! Insecurity and jealousy won't make her do what you want, neither will seeking to change her. You have only two options: to leave her alone and find someone more in line with what you seek or to change your own actions and that should eventually change her too. So, instead of focusing on what your fiancee is doing, focus on YOU and how you treat her. When did you last go out together? Done something exciting? etc. Soon there will be no need to notice what she is doing because, with the increased attention between you, she will be focusing on you too! If that doesn't work, then you're with the wrong person!

You should try to talk to your fiance regarding this matter nicely. Good communication leads to better understanding between each other. If you have chance you can try to get to know all your fiance's friends. Join their party if you have the chance to get to know them better since requesting your fiance to reduce her number of male friends is kind of tough. Get to know her friends may help you to feel more secure towards your relationship and help to be aware of those untrusted friends. You should have a talk with your fiance if there is anything that concerned you but remember not to be too sensitive. Good luck to you.

If it bothers you then you should defenatly talk to her before you get married. I actually have alot more guy friends than girlfriends and so does the one girl I do hang out with. I was a tomboy growing up and I relate much better to guys and vbasically every girl I ever tried to be friends with has stabbed me in the back. communication is the key though so tell her hoe you feel and listen to how she feels. maybee you can come up with a happy medium. good luck friend.

I think you absolutely need to talk to her! If you are insecure about what she is doing, she needs to know that. Even if she doesnt change what she is doing, it is important for you both to be able to communicate with each other. You say that you trust her. That is really all that is important in this situation. If you trust her, you trust that she will stop any advances of the guys she hangs out with. You trust her to remove herself from the situation if something happens that she doesnt like. You dont have to trust the other people. You just have to trust her to do what is right. My husband hangs out with several women often. He has really good relationships with them. They are all very friendly. But what matters is that he loves me. Everyday, he still looks for me. I am the one who really matters most. If he had to, he would put me above those friends. That is what trusting a person is all about. I trust that he will continue to be this way. You say that you dont want to lose her. It seems like you dont want to lose what you think she is. Part of her is that she has many male friends that she hangs out with. Before marrying this girl, I would make sure you really love her. It is easy to get caught up in a relationship and not realize the problems because of how much you want something. Talk to her. It will be the best thing you could do. You will find out that you have every reason to trust her and that everything is ok. OR you will find out that she doesnt really love you as much as you think she does. Either way, it is best to know before you marry her.

this could be a disaster.If you really trust her, then it shouldn't matter how many friends she has , male or female.if you try to restrict how many friends she has, she may just cross You off the list.Have you ever tried to friends with these guys? They could become your friends too.

Personally, I do think it is allright that your fiancee has more male friends. What is important is ask yourself the real reason for you being insecured. It would be wise to let your fiancee know why you are feeling insecured. It is only fair to her and good communication and trust is the key to a successful relationship.

I think that you need to talk to her, but do it in a non accusatory way. If you you come at her accusing her, she will be on the defensive and you don't want that. She may just get along with guys better. I don't know cause I don't know the situation. I hope that you are able to talk to her and let her know how you feel.

If you are planning to marry you better talk to her before then. Wish you luck telling her to ditch her friends. Maybe you should work on your insecurities before getting married. Make her friends yours too. Maybe you have some female friends to hook up with her male friends.

The question is, did she have a bunch of men friends when she met you? If so, why worry now? Lots of women get along better with men than they do women. Same with men. That doesn't mean they are doing anything wrong or even that the men will make a pass at the woman. They just enjoy each other's company and have things in common they can talk about. My granddaughter has MANY more boys as friends than she does girls. Girls try to make trouble and say things to others that aren't true. They guys she hangs out with are friends of her whole family and they all just enjoy being together. She has a boyfriend and he understands it and has no problem. She's a hugger and she hugs them all. They have all grown up together, played soccer on a coed team until she got to Varsity in High School. I would talk to her and tell her how you feel. If you trust her, then you shouldn't worry. She won't do anything to jeopardize your future with her. But, if she does, then it means she didn't really care for you that much in the first place. Trust means letting the other person be themselves and believing they will stay true to your relationship. Before my husband and I married, he was gone for 6 months in the Air Force and I never thought about worrying. I knew he loved me and I loved him, AND he trusted me as much as I trusted him. He was gone two different times after we married for 6 months at a time. I never thought about cheating and neither did he. But I had one woman to tell me 'Oh, they do what they want to while they are gone and you'll never know'. I told her, 'perhaps her husband did, but I knew mine wouldn't because we loved and trusted each other enough never to cheat'.

hai born1989 they only make the relationship as a friend. if your friend's fiance good people, so why the problem. friends of your fiance, surely already know that you are already a fiancee. if you exaggerate minor problems, your fiancee not comfortable. you can lose your fiancee. they became friends during the course do not be a problem. you must trust your fiancee. each relationship must be based trust. indahfth

Did you not know about this or think it was a problem to bring up before getting engaged? If you are engaged there should be absolute trust and no worry whether she will leave you for that reason. If she chose you then she chose you not them. You shouldn't be worries unless there's something else she's doing that's making you suspect she may leave you. Evaluate everything in light of what you know about her already before acting on impulses

i think you should do what you think is right. regrets later on would never fade if you don't do what you feel you had done. you can never expect anything right if you wouldn't correct whatever you think is wrong. good luck!

Its always hard in relationships when there are male or female friends about, I used to hate it that my hubby had female friends and indeed a few times in the early days of our relationship I kicked up a stink about it until he dropped them. I also stopped having anything to do with any male friends I had because of the same reasons. You know ten years down the line, I wish I had not been so mean, at the end of the day people should be allowed to have whatever friends they want I mean the friends my hubby had he had known from being a little boy who was I to come along and tell him he could no longer have those friends. He lost contact with a lot of good female mates because of my insecurity when really I had no reason to be that way. He is now in touch with some of them again through facebook and I am not bothered, as I say ten years down the line I am settled in my relationship and am not easily flustered by the appearance of other women. If he is going to do something with them then that is something that I would have to face when and if, but I am not going to stop him having his own friends because we all need friends of our own.

if you really do trust her as much as you claim then it shouldnt be a problem! if you ask her to reduce the male friends she tlks to she will feel you dont trust her, she wants to be wit you or you wouldn't be engaged unless you stop bein paranoid she will run away. I have more female friends than male ones my fiancee doesn't mind because she trusts me. You should sit down and ask her howcome she finds it easier to get on with guys then girls? and say sometimes you feel a little insecure bout her hanging about with guys. But reassure her you trust her and now she wont do anythin but you cant trust the guys as you dont know them.

I think i udnerstandy its bothering u coz i went thru the same thing with a lil twist but....when i started dating my fiance even though i had both male and female frns but almost all my male friends seemed to b in love with me...n though my fiance doesnt mind me being friends with males he had and has a major prob with neone else loving me besides him....(and honestly i find that very sweet)....neways... what my fiance did was...tell it to me in a very sweet loving manner u know that i love u so so much manner....and that made me feel more than happy to distance myself from my male friends...though i still talk to them once in a while if v happen to bump in online or a rare phone call...but honestly it didnt seem a big deal thne n even now.... what u r feeling doesnt translate into INSECURITY as i have read majority ppl think its insecurity high chances it is simple possessiveness and honestly possessiveness to a certain is really good and needed. U know esp girls u will meet many who says NO POSSESSIVENESS but when a guy is not POSSESSIVE they will say he doesnt care. So try striking a balance...its good to b possessive to a certain extent. Ur gf might seriously not realize what she is doing is bothering u...thats how she has always been and thats y she is still thus...try to get her to see ur point but with utmost care and love.... RElationships are pretty tricky esp love u might intend to do sumthing and the opposite person might misunderstand it and everything goes down in the drain...so difference in relationships shud b handled with love and care...and makes a relation work beautifully.....

in my opinion you shoudl talk to her and tell her how you feel. when i was in college, i too have many male friends than female friends. my boyfriend then was not bothered by it, but if he will tell me that he is bothered deep inside and he would tell me his reasons, i will keep seeing my male friends to a minimum, not totally stop because it wouldnt be healthy for me... just not go out/hang out with them like i used to. if your fiancee loves you, she will understand your situation. so go ahead and talk to her, because if you will not do it, you will always suffer.

It is very obvious that you have been in a bad condition. Do you believe you can be one best friend of a beautiful woman without thinking anything. I can pretend that. Other problems will happen after marriage. When someday you make her unhappy, she will scold your shortcoming, and compare you with her male friends.

If you don't want to lose her then keep your mouth shut. Other than that it ia a serious issue and you need to clear things up by discussing it with her as it is bugging you.