What do you think about infidelity?

Wow! you sound intimidating. I pity for that poor soul who dares to cheat on you. Just kidding. Yes, it hurts and it hurts a lot when you put everything and I mean everything in order to see that the relationship works and then one fine morning when you discover that you are being cheated upon it is a sore wound that stays long. Hope no one of us has to see or experience that. Thank you so much for your view on it with a humor.

Ironically, the girl my ex-husband cheated on me with cheated on HIM after they had been together for a couple of years. Imagine that. And he had the nerve to whine to ME about it! Like I was gonna feel sorry for him?!? HELLO! She knew he was married when she got together with him, so he didn't think she'd cheat on him? Duh.

Hey Julie, I am so sorry to know your past bad experience, but I think it would be wrong to say that no good person exist today. I know that when someone has to really go through the pain it takes a lot of guts to come out strong and I believe you will come out strong,but please don't be disheartened, things would out fine for you. thank you for sharing your experience.

See, that helps prove my point. In this day and age everyone seems to be cheating. There is no loyalty left.

Indeed it is the last straw. No one, hardly any one would forgive and forget the incident and move on. But I shall not be able to forgive. Infact I may blame myself for the fact that this happened to me. I would be deeply hurt. God forbid it must never happen to anybody. Thank you for the post.

It just shouldn't happen, not just in a perfect world or relationship. I think that if two people are in a relationship and one wants to wander, they should have enough respect and responsibility to break it off with one first before carrying on with another. Bless your heart that must be broken but why do you blame yourself? I think this is at one time or another, a common reaction. We always think that we could of done something different. The way I see it is that if it is going to happen or has the potential to happen it will, regardless of the other. I strongly believe it is already in a persons nature to do such a thing. Some people just wouldn't no matter what is going on in the relationship.

Yup if it is bound to happen, it shall happen no matter how hard you try. I thank you so much for your kind words.

Yes I think once you are hurt by knowing that your partner was cheating on you the relationship wouldn't be the same and matters would go from bad to worse. But still I think there are people who do forgive, ,maybe they are saints. But I am not. Thanks for your views.

Yes I know that many people are able to forgive and I think that they are very strong. I do not think I would be able to do it. I would prefer to move on.

Yup to forgive someone who cheats on you and you are supposedly in love is hypocrisy, and this kind of relationship won't have a strong base. Infidelity is an absoloute NO.

How apt and true is your explanation. It is absolutely true that you dont know what to do unless you are in the situation. Hope and I mean it that that day when you have to facew such a situation never comes, never arises. Hope Mr. Brown never gets"kicked to the curb". Take care.

Yes I agree with you. If the lives of someone else is involved who is depending on you, then to take such a tough decision becomes even tougher.

Hi, Yes there certainly is no reason to say it is OK to cheat. Cheating is immoral, a sin I would say. Once trust is lost by this heinous behaviour it cannot be regained. The worst case is if children are involved. The innocent little ones are affected to an extent that I think is perhaps an irrevocable damage. Thank you for sharing your views on it. I am sorry that you have been on the receiving end. But trust me on this if you can approach life with a fresh beginning and in a positive frame of mind things would change fpr good. You will be in my prayers.

Quite logical. And yes nobody like to be betrayed or hurt by someone you are in love with.

Yeah, the disastrous consequences shall also drag in the innocent children of the couple in question. Even to an unmarried couple it could have very severe repercussions. Thank you for the encouragement.

You don't see any problem?? Strange? It amazes me dear friend.

don´t think you understand what i said there...

Infidelety leads to some sort of promlems (how ever you look at it) Cheating one time don´t (I don´t practice it nor do I condon it) But as I said it all depends on the particular situation at hand

Hmmmm... I beg to differ with you on this one. If you start chating or sleeping with someone else, just because your partner is also doing so, I think it is not logical. The best way to my knowledge is to move on and end the relation then and there. To continue with an infidel relationship won't land you nowhere.

I pray that, that day never comes and you two have a great life together. I mean every single word of it. Thank you for your view.