How would you feel? / myLot

Canada

May 7, 2009 9:51am CST

I will give a bit of background...Most of you already know it's been over a year since my ex husband abandoned me and the kids, well I applied for SS because I needed income he was the only one with the income when he left...It was recommended that I could go on Regular Assistance program instead of the back to work, but with lifes events I was diagnosed with depression and suffer from anxiety...I do want to have a good career with good benefits don't get me wrong! I applied to go back to school into a basic education program to try and get my grade up to take An English course...I was just a smidge away and wasn't allowed to try The Councelor at the school said I could come back but I loose my funding...I'm like that really helps I'm a single Mom and don't have an income! Anyhoo a girl I met in class she is 18 and starts text messaging me telling me don't be lazy go get a job blah blah and she is still living with her parents with NO kids and the funding is the Gov... How would you feel?

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pal7604

@pal7604 (98)

• Sweden

7 May 09

Hi BlueAngelRS, Sorry to hear about your situation. It is not easy to say bah or boo to you since different situations in life is unique. We are unique ourselves. The comment from this girl did not make your situation easier either! You will meet many of such characters in the future, you just have to build up a shield to protect yourself from feeling bad. Depression is not so funny either. Do you have someone who you can talk to? Considering your financial status, is there no law in your country for child support? What about your family? Can they not help you at the moment? Just remember one thing, all incidents in life are temporary. You are not alone. Look at it as an opportunity to learn the tricks in life. You will one day wake-up laughing at this problem, I promise you! Take care .....

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BlueAngelRS

@BlueAngelRS (2899)

• Canada

7 May 09

I do have an order for child support but as a result of the waiting for registration to Maintenance Enforcement nothing yet that and my ex husband was laid off from his job and is currently un emloyed... I'm on SS and recieve Child Tax and making it through it's tight but I'm holding strong...I'm in counceling and have been for a year and my counclor said I've come along way and is going to hold my file open for 3 months incase I need to come back...The Depression getting easier...Right now I'm just trying to deal with lack of sleep, staying positive and moving ahead...I want to go back to school so I am going to see how that goes!

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PurpleTeddyBear

@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)

• Canada

7 May 09

I LOVE your ending pal7604 about "Just remember one thing, all incidents in life are temporary. You are not alone. Look at it as an opportunity to learn the tricks in life. You will one day wake-up laughing at this problem, I promise you!" I will definitely try to remember that when I am going through a rough patch!

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Beertjie

@Beertjie (976)

• South Africa

8 May 09

I went to college at the age of 33 to get my degree. I was in class with people mostly youger than 25. I have learned that they do not understand many things. They say things from the way they think they understand, but do not always take circumstances into account. Just ignore the text message as irrelavant from someone very young and naive. I wish you all the best and if you persist your day will come. Blessings

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BlueAngelRS

@BlueAngelRS (2899)

• Canada

8 May 09

I agree I answered a few back then realized it's not worth getting so upset and worked up over as it's coming from someone younger and hasn't got the struggle of keeping a roof over 2 kids and her head and deleted her from my contact...

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PurpleTeddyBear

@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)

• Canada

7 May 09

First off this girl having no kids to fend for, is living at home with mommy and daddy so really has no rent, bills, and groceries to buy either so I think she hazs got a lot of nerve to say that PLUS she has no idea what your hubby leaving, your anxiety, and depression is like either! That's why the good saying goes "Never judge a person until you have walked a mile in their shoes!" Is just my opinion anyhow!

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