If you are a non-smoker, should you have friends who smoke?

Maybe we all have friends both non-somkers and somkers. If you are friends, I think the friends you hang around don't somke near you, except for you are also a somker. I hope the somkers don't somke in the public place.

What I'm saying is not a personal judgment or attack against people who smoke. Other members have misinterpreted my words to be a discriminatory statement as if I'm purposely discriminating against smokers. I'm not talking about the morality of smoking; but the health issues involved. I don't want to be in the presence of smoke. Even the lingering odor gives me migraines. There are so many harmful chemicals in the smoke. I don't see anything healthy about it. If your friend doesn't smoke around you, then that's a good thing. Not all smokers show such courtesy to their friends. But, it's still my own personal choice to make about whom I hang around. And if those people want to smoke, they don't need to be near me.

Darkwing Yes, they are also considerate to those that they do know, what more for those whom they don't know at all? I think restaurants have those exhaust systems at their smoking areas so that even if a lot of patrons in the restaurants do smoke, their smoke wouldn't spread as much as to the non-smokers area. Have a nice day to you too, thanks~! (^_^ )

You really think so? Hmm.

I would not abandon a friend for smoking, but I would provide loving encouragement for her and insist that she not smoke around me. I would not eat donuts or cake in her presence if she were on a diet. It's the least a friend could do. Friends support each other. Thanks for your kind comments.

yes, friends should support each other... but i dont know about that not eating cake thing if she's on a diet... lol i'm a bad friend sometimes... hehehe... if that cake is a choco moist cake and we are in a place where there is one like that, i dont know if i can help myself not to eat in front of her... knowing myself, id probably tease her with it, will make her mouth water while im eating it... ... all of my friends knows i joke most of the time and i mean no harm...

Same here. Can't fault the people but the smoking has to go.

They only nag cause they care. When they stop nagging, you should worry.

And, you are a very good friend for caring so much about others.

Delete you? You mean like on Mylot. Heaven forbid! I'd never do that. And, if I did have a friend (in my off line life) who smoked, I wouldn't delete them either, but would have to avoid them while they smoked. Not simply cause they smoked, but during the act of smoking. As I get severe migraines from the fumes. It's a medical thing. People without migraines can't understand the unbearable excruiciating pain of migraines; as if your brain is coming out of your head. That is all I meant. I love my friends. I see that you are doing the best you can. And that is more than fair. Thanks for your comments.

My friends are precious to me! Thanks for your comments. And best of luck with your surgery tomorrow. I'm sure you'll be fine.

Whew! I'm soooo glad to hear that!! I didn't want to lose you from your friends list or elsewhere but I am what I am and I do try my best to keep it away from others and even have friends who are nonsmokers who tell me to stop worrying about the deg gone smoke but I can't help it, it's my nature to not take anyone else with me when I do something that I know isn't good for me. I'm a migraine sufferer myself so I DO so know what you mean!! I don't have them very often but that doesn't matter when one comes on! The last time was about 3 or 4 years ago and I thought my head was going to explode!! Hubby had to take me to the ER and they had to turn off all the lights in my room because I couldn't stand it and they did a spinal tap on me and found all to be ok and gave me a nice ole shot in the rear and sent home. I was sound asleep soon after!! lol So yes I do know the pain and gosh, I feel for you!! Tomorrow I'm getting the rest of my bottom teeth pulled, 7 of 'em and getting new bottom dentures put right in afterwards so if the dentist doesn't give me something GOOD to knock me out with then I'll take my migraine meds.... they'll knock me RIGHT out!! So I won't be on here for a few days if the pain is bad but if I do alright then I'll be on here sooner than I thought!

It's good that your friends love you enough to offer that courtesy. It's good that you love yourself enough to ask for that courtesy. Congrats on quitting smoking.

My grannies smoked and I loved them all very much. But it was tough being in the same room as the smoking coming from a non-smoking environment at home.

My avoidance of smoke stems from medical not personal reasons but I completely agree with you otherwise. Thanks for your comments.

I've known many people that smoked and when they quit they didn't change friends. If you are going to quit you have to have will power. Smoking is an addiction and you have to be prepared for the cravings you'll get from the process of quitting. Changing all of your friends does not help with this and most smokers out there are courteous to the ones around them that don't smoke or are trying to quit smoking. You do need good support around you. My dad smoked for 30 years and he went on a 6 month deployment on the ship and quit smoking out there with all of his friends around him that continued to smoke. He kept all his smoking and non smoking friends and never let their choice sway his decision in making or not making a friend.