Family matters but how far should we go out on a limb to help?

Pretty tough, but as a parent. You have to bare all of your aduld childs doings. Yes, it is your responsibility to guide him or her what ever he/she does in his life. But you must also give him a limitation when it comes to your household like to forbid him with his vice inside your home so that your younger children wont see what he is doing. Talk to him in a good manner not a nag. He'll eventually listen to you and soon realize his wrong doings..Im telling you this because i am also a parent.. Im looking forward for your reply :). . Please add me up in your friends list anyway..Thanks! GODSPEED!

I would give them a choice...either start contributing in some way or leave. If they can't pay then have them do things around the house...repairs, paint, the laundry, whatever. But it is crucial that everyone learns NO ONE LIVES FOR FREE. There must be a contribution of some kind and if they refused to even contribute their services then they would have to go.

I would tell that adult child that she/he needs to start helping out by getting a job & maybe help with some bills & maybe even food as well. I would give them a certain amount of time to find a job. It can take time, sometimes months to actually find a job, so in the mean time I would ask of them to help with house chores. When I was 17, I was working & helping my mom out with some bills & sometimes rent. This helped me grow up faster. I now live on my own with my husband & kids. I think parents should put their foot down sooner then later. A child will continue to be lazy if the parents keeps allowing it. It will be harder in the long run. And if the adult child refuses, then as hard as it might be, you might have to show some tough love & give them 30 days to move out. They will soon realize how easy they had it.

Well now, just who is running the show????? If they are going to act like children, you need to treat them like children. Make rules to follow. If you are living in my house, you must follow my rules. Include chores with the rules. Most kids leave home because of freedom. If you are still having problem, change what to eat. Until they get a job, they live on dried beans. Very inexpensive but not exciting for most people. They will be eating healthy but most will do anything for that junk food. You might have to lock the fridge but it will get the average person looking for a job just to eat. So think!!! Love them and help them too, only in a way where they can stand on their own two feet. Let them KNOW that is what you expect!!! Good luck!