What is wrong with being FAT? FLABBY?or CHUBBY?ugh!

oh yes i really know that. he has been harsh and way over board.

i do point out to him what i do not like about his body, lucky for him he have time to go to the gum and work out. and when he comes home all he does is sleep and lie down unlike me, i have to do chores for them and take care of the kids. men!!

I have an idea in mind, and if you like this maybe you can put it into practice. But if it is not appealing to you, just ignore it. The idea is like this. I have been trying to put off weight too. Two years ago I managed to get slim by cutting off food and consuming soy milk. But it was a tiring job and I got hungry most of the time. Now my body has gained weight again and I am trying to put if off by doing exercise. Have you heard about the Play Station? In my place this game player is very common and we can get it at a cheap price. A second hand player would do nice. With the Play Station you can purchase this one exercising cd game which is very fun. It is a dancing game where you have to step and jump on the provided mat in order to make the song go and you winning the game. But don't worry if you don't know how to dance, because they provide simple steps which everyone can do. Even myself I am still in the beginner's level and still enjoying myself very much. You can spare just several minutes each day doing the exercise and it will make you sweat a lot. I mean really sweating. If you do it once in a day, you will start noticing that your body is very refreshed because you are able to sweat and get rid of toxins out from your body. Don't worry about losing weight the quick way, it will happen gradually and in style. This game is addictive and I am enjoying myself very much. I feel fresher and alert now than before doing this dancing game. Who knows this might help you?

thank you pprchase, i do have the confidence and the contentment but at times there are situations like this one that rock my world hahaha

You are comfortable thats what count most...So just keep it up and enjoy life.

well thank you aryan, you really described my husband so well hahahahah

and i am comfortable right now. sigh.

hmmm you gave me an idea! why not beat him? for him to come to his senses? hahahaha just kidding. Well, he is lucky, guys are usually lucky, they at times look better as they get older..he is one of those. which is at times frustrating because i can't keep up with him!! i do try to look my best and of course trim down but with all the chores mothers do plus my career...it getts crazy at times.

yes i do agree that it is genetic because my mother's sisters are all big and fat and so was my grandmother, i must have gotten some of their dna or something but then i am really that big like huge! i just gained more pounds after having kids.

i am happy with who i am but then lately he gets in my mind because he sometimes ignores me lately!!! i do not even know why, its like he does not want to be with me. ish!

thank you very much! yes there was one who was really mean to me, but then many are more encouraging and very enlightening. i am so happy right now that people know how to understand things and i am happy right now and i can think straight. Thank you.

Oh yes, believe me that entered my mind a thousand times and i am being cautious and vigilant...you know, keeping track of where he is and what he is doing. I can't find time to go to the gym,i work from 8 in the morning till 6 in the evening at times later than that, i am at work and i immediately go home to look after my kids. but i am honest with him he better not cheat on me or else he wont be seeing me and my kids!

i do eat healthy, i dont know what is with my husband he does not cuddle lately and annoying. but i am determined to change now but not for him but for myself and we will see what he has to say.

thank you kiran, that is quite enlightening, well i do have the will power for change, maybe i will and maybe i can do it.

its ok theresaaiza, i am not pissed of at you hehehe well yes i am more than a flabby body ( hope so) hahaha oh well it is hard to trim down, but i am determine now to do so. but unlike you i can't wear any bikini...so many stretch marks hahaha

yes i know, i am trying to cut some weight off, but i am doing it gradually plus i want to do it for myself and not for him or for anyone else.

I'm glad to hear this, I really believe that you can do it if you set your mind to it. Like I said I know how it is for someone to talk trash about you,your doing the right thing, just stick with your goals you'll get there.

thank for the comforting words liucheng:) i hope things will turn out good

yes thank you, he is like that lately for reasons i cannot understand.

well he is getting insensitive, how i wish my husband would transform, he does not cuddle anymore, he does not kiss me goodbye,. its like he is ashamed of me right now. that is what i am feeling! but i can' thelp it, it is really hard to trim down! i feel like crying all the time when i think of it. i hope he will get around, i am trying to bring back the old body but it is hard, really hard. lucky your husband understands you.

hahahhaha yes you are right, i could say i have money that i could eat all the time. thank you for the laugh, i feel like crying most of the time these days.

i guess so, what you have said is true.

well i am not fat, really fat, i just gained those flabby parts when i became a mother. but i dont think i am not bad looking or something, i can still even wear mini's and tight shirts! and i dont think i have risk of heart attack and the likes..