what can you say of the mother working and the father staying home with the kids

At one point in time I was the one that worked and my b/f stayed home with the kids. I see nothing wrong with it myself. I did not however have things to do when I got home he done everything right down to cooking dinner. Sometimes this can not be helped. I see nothing wrong with it on a temporary basis. Happy mylotting!

Wouldn't the man who is left at home and looking after the child(ren) should also be the one responsible with the household chores? I mean, they already have no work to begin with, why leave even a couple of chores undone for the mother to do? Just switching responsibilities and everything should work accordingly.. if they don't want that kind of set-up, the husband might as well look for a job too and hire someone who could be of house help as well as one who would look after the child(ren).

In these modern times, it doesn't seem to matter anymore who is working and who is left at home although the ideal or traditional set-up is usually the woman is left at home. But with the crisis that we are facing now, sometimes there's a need to exchange roles if necessary and I know a lot of people who had to deal with that set-up because of the financial hardships of these times. But the way I understand your post it seems that the arrangement is unfair in that the woman is "bugbog sa trabaho" in and outside the house. I believe that shouldn't be the case.

Im ok with that as long as the guy makes him self productive. I have some neighbors here who are in the same situation but most of them are just wasting their time drinking or playing cards. Its the same all day long, every day all day. I pity their wives who go to work and even go overseas while their lazy husbands waste their money horsing around. These husbands can do more like open up a sari store or do some part time.

It all depends on the type of marriage you have and on the type of man. My husband was a very good provider was he coulnd´t even help out with the garden. He had good will but could never distinguish a nice plant from a weed. So we had a good division of work and each had their chores. He could bathe the children thoughbut not put the clothes in a washing machine

Unfortunately, my family has the story you're talking about. But it's not like my father can't find a job. It's because he doesn't want to look for one. I know it sounds crazy but this is for real. If these men would only realize the fate their children are going through, perhaps they would become more responsible. I have to work at an early age, together with my mother but when she goes back home, she still have to do this household choirs. I think it's somehow unfair. I don't have anything against those people who doesn't have a job or anything but these people who go home tired deserve some good rest.

Mom should be a house caring for her children and husband and managing the home. But I have no problem with Moms working and dad is in the house as long as there are one parent who will accompany and take care of the children. Make sure that Mom that is working still have time to bond with her child so that their children still feel their love as there are many workaholic moms outhere.

my husband would never be able to handle doing what i do. the house would be a mess and i would be inclined to clean it when i got home from work and he would not start dinner, or have the garbage cans brought back inside the garage, or gotten the mail, or paid the bills or bathed my son and helped him with his homework, or did the laundry or the food shopping. i would be miserable. to be honest when i did work full time, because he is self employed many days he had no work and when i got home none of what i mentioned above was ever done. i work from home now doing 3 different part time jobs and i still manage to do all the above and more. i am sure there are some men who can do a good job managing the home but for the most part that is not the case in my experience.

During the time we have raised our kids (they are both adults now)we had one time frame when my husband stayed home with the kids. It was right after I graduated Nursing school and I was making twice as much as he was at the job he was working. They eventually laid him off and we both loved it when he was home with the kids rather than hiring a sitter and dealing with day care and all of that. So we opted that he would stay home with the kids for a while. He did it for about a year (9 months to be exact) and he wanted to go back to work! LOL I was perfectly fine with it but it proved to be a littl too stressful for him! I worked for about 5 years and then I opted to stay home with them after we got our house paid off. I stayed home with them from then on and loved every minute of it. I just recently went back to work simply because I was bored out of mind because they were both grown. I always found it amusing that he couldn't handle it though! LOL

I think if the mother is out all day working, the man really needs to try his hardest with all aspects of being a good househusband. It's no easy job being a housewife as I am sure millions of women out there know, and I would hate to be in a position where I come from work and my partner has left all the home chores for me to do plus I need to clean up after the kids. If that was happening in my own life I would need to sit my partner down and get things sorted. I feel for anyone that has so much responsibility.

we must not follow the standard of living we are facing on our past generations. we are all created equal therefore we are all allowed to take responsibilty equally. what woman can do, man can do it too. gender must not be a question or hindrance of whomever stays at home or whoever works outside.

Traditional women are really hard today.In my country,a wife in an ordinary family should both work and doing housework ,caring kids while husband just work and after work they do nothing but rest. I always think it is unfair.Everyone is likely to loose job and try to look for another.That is understandable for both man and woman.But why most of the housework belongs to women? Is it an excuse for men to say " I am tired after work" while women must do housework after work.All in all,men and women should balance the duties of the family.It is equal both to men and women.

hi ritchelle, working mom is okay,but there is nothing wrong with it when dad is at home taking care of the kids and the household chores.its healthy there's a lot of couples who are into that kind of situation,the wife is working and the husband left at home with the kids.sometimes we say that its not normal or husbands should do the hardwork to provide his family instead of the wife.we are very traditionally attached to that kind of set up.if the wife has the capabilty to work than his husband then be it.it really depends on the couple,if they decided that the husband stays at home and the wife works.as long as there is no problem between them its okay...but, i really salute to those mom working to provide thier family.ur really one of a kind. :)

If the wife is working and earning the more money than her husband is good situation but father should be fond he should care the family like his woman.

Why would you pitty them. I know several couples that they make the decision, not the economy or market that the dad is going to stay home. One of my closest friends is a NICU nurse, she makes great money, in fact she made more than her husband did. She works three 12 hour shifts a week, night shift, normally Thursday -Saturday night, so both of them are home with the children all week long, and they get to see their mom on weekends as well, not all day but they see her. They have the best of both worlds if you ask me. Other friends again the mom had a better opportunity to support the family and make more money. This is working for them and their family, why pitty them, why make them feel bad for their decisions. How do you know he can not work, how do you know that they did not put a lot of though tin to their decision. oh and my friends the husbands, do just as much if not more housework than the wives do.