Abusive Relationship
By Sheri
@tuckersheri (1327)
United States
May 8, 2009 6:31pm CST
My friend is in a abusive relationship and she is pregnant. The other day she called me crying that he had slapped he against the face and her head hit the window. I keep telling her that she needs too leave him. She doesnt want to because he is the father. the sad part is he has no job has not had a job for a year. Really rediculus and my friend worked and got sick of paying all the bills and quit he job because he would not work. He drinks and partys and calls her fat. Which is not very nice concering that she is pregnant. The day he Slapped her my friends brother had too go 1 hour and half away to pick my friend up and give her gas money to come back home. I want to help her so bad but she feels he because he is the father and can't find anyone else because she will have a kid and does not want to be alone.
4 responses
@mullibabe3 (19)
• United States
15 May 09
She needs to get out of the relationship now!!! It does her no good staying with him, because he'll never change. I went through the same thing. When my daughter was 6mths old I left her father and even today I had to get an order of protection against him, my daughter is now 2 years old. He will never change. It will get worse if she stays, he could cause problems to the baby while she's pregnant or even hurt the baby when he/she is born. Tell her to even get a lawyer to help her out or if she cant afford it tell to her to go a shelter or free counseling center. If you need any other advice about this please feel free to ask me! I hope all goes well and I do hope that she leaves him and gets help with the baby.
@gicolet (1702)
• United States
9 May 09
Your friend must be feeling trapped in this relationship cause he's the father of her baby. Please, PLEASE ask her again to do the right thing. LEAVE him or call the police next time he hits her again. It's abuse and it's wrong and the police will never side with the abuser. EVER! Tell her that she's not just risking her safety as a person but the safety of her baby. She should act now before it gets worse.
@cj5guy (93)
• United States
9 May 09
It's a hard thing to do, I was in an abusive relationship (mostly verbal and emotional) but it's a control, the abuser takes away the victims self esteem and they feel this is the best they can do. It's so hard to see outside the box when you are stuck in the middle. You need to help her with her self esteem issues, if she is confident and can see there are many other guys out there that are better for her then it may start to change her mind. She also needs to know that if he is doing it to her what will he do to a child that only knows how to cry to get what it needs. It's only a matter of time before her or her unborn child ends up in the hospital. Does she have insurance? She could see a counselor about self esteem issues. You need to let her know she is beautiful, smart and will be a great mother, and she can raise this child without him.
