Don't wait ..

@jeanena (2198)
Bucklin, Kansas
May 8, 2009 8:31pm CST
Don't wait to make that phone call to that person you love and haven't seen or talked to in awhile. The best friend I have ever had in my life , the one that knew all my secrets and hopes , dreams and fears, we kind of got out of the habit of calling each other or going to see each other , and it stretched on for a few years. We got in contact on myspace through me finding her kids on there, but time still marched on I hadn't been there to see her for a long time. Any way May the second she passed on , 42 years old. I am having a very hard time dealing with the loss of my partner in crime. I feel like I had deserted her for the things going on in my life. So don't wait make that call , get in the car and drive that 80 miles . I missed the chance to tell my old friend I love her. R.I.P. Anita you will be missed! Have you gone through this, the guilt of just not being there?? Or just missing an old friend or family member ? I want to hear it all.
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@berrys (864)
• Singapore
9 May 09
when i was in the 6th grade, back then i had my best friend, emily. when you first met her she was always full of life, never a dull moment, always positive. no one ever second guessed her or wondered why she was always happy. she took critism positively too she was such an amazing girl. one day in the cafeteria, a guy accidentally knocked her, and her hair fell off, turns out, she was wearing a wig because she had leukemia and all her hair had fallen off. she picked up her wig and walked out. everyone there was at shock as was i, i ran after her only to find her in the bathroom crying. i comforted her and we've always been best friends. at the end of the 7th grade she passed away. initially she had completed treatment and was on the road to recovery, but she had an overdose of the medicine the doctor prescribed and just like that the class never was the same. on the day of graduation before we left, we had a last moment for her as a class. it was heartbreaking.
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@jeanena (2198)
• Bucklin, Kansas
9 May 09
Thank you for sharing your story. I am so glad that you as a group shared a moment in her name and memory.I am sure she was proud of you all for making time for her . Bless you
• United States
9 May 09
I have several old friends I just recently found on Myspace and am glad I did find them. We went to high school together and use to do some of the dumbest things together.. but we stuck through it with each other. I have truthfully missed them. I also have a friend that I have been trying to distance myself from over the past couple of months because it was a relationship that went sour. Really sour. A very serious relationship that was ended with dishonesty and deceit. This person wasn't only my partner, my love, but she was my best friend as well. I do miss her and the things we use to say and do together. Not a day goes by that I don't think about something like that. Sometimes it is hard to forgive and forget though. I value true friendship.. always have and always will. Nothing better than a true friend you can count on.
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@jeanena (2198)
• Bucklin, Kansas
9 May 09
Nita was my partner in crime as the saying goes.Not that we were actually criminals but the fact is when we both starting having kids life kind of pulled us in different directions. Thank you for your response.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
9 May 09
Sweetheart I am so sorry But please do not feel guilty about it, both of you lost touch not just you and I guess she must have been sick as she was still very young, she never told you so you see Sweetie it was 2 sided but you both knew that you loved one another, she knew how much she meant to you, so please do not feel guilt, remember her the way you where Friends Hugs to you Sweet, my Love is with you
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
9 May 09
You will do Sweetie as you have lost someone very dear to you It will ease Sweet I promise Warm hugs your Way
@nana1944 (1364)
• United States
10 May 09
Well my dear, I am going to tell my best friend in the world that I love her now. Jeanena, I love you and try to tell you everyday and also, my darling daughter, have a Happy Mother's Day. (Even tho I have already told you that.) We may not always agree as the years have shown that so much over the years, but I have never not loved you from even before your conception.
@jeanena (2198)
• Bucklin, Kansas
10 May 09
I love you too Mom and HAPPY MOTHERS DAY to you too. I can't think of any friends that I have that are closer than you are..
• Philippines
9 May 09
years ago, at the height of my career, i had to step down from my senior position in the company to be able to work closer to my family. i used to be so immersed in my work and been travelling a lot that i often missed big events in the family. until my dad had an accident and it was touch and go for a while. two of my close aunts got seriously sick at the time, suffering from cancer. i felt the need to be home. i decided to drop my job in another city and fly back home. and look for something much closer to home. i found one that was better paying but it never matched the satisfaction i had in my previous job... but i was thankful that i could be closer to home. my aunts had both passed away now, and i'm glad i was able to spend time with them before they left. now we make it a point that everyone dear to us will stay connected to us... we do unlimited calling and texting to family, emails to friends out of the country or living elsewhere and we often gather together. yes, we shouldn't wait to make that phone call or that visit that you've been planning a long time. i feel for the friend you've lost... the first line has already triggered the tears before i finished reading your post. i miss my friends too... that sometimes i didn't care about the expense, i just wanted to hear their voices.
@jeanena (2198)
• Bucklin, Kansas
9 May 09
I appreciate your response . I wouldnt have cared either about the expense most of the time it was a major thing just trying to get a phone number for my friend . A lot of the time she didnt have a phone and that also made it harder for me to keep in contact and it was seldom in her name . I should have tried harder , but with all the kids and grandkid stuff going on time gets away .
@queenlove (495)
• United States
9 May 09
It was weird for me to find this post because I was just getting ready to start a similar discussion. I have been pretty anti-social with my friends. I dont answer the phone most of the time, and I know that I shouldnt be that way but I just dont feel like talking to anyone. I go through these phases were I pretty much drop off the face of the earth, but it is because I feel as if my friends arent there for me like they should be. I mean, there are times when my phone wont ring for weeks. I will be sick, or going through a bad breakup with my boyfriend and no one calls or drops by to check on me, so I get mad. But I understand where you are coming from. Tomorrow is not promised to any one of us. Sorry for your loss.
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@jeanena (2198)
• Bucklin, Kansas
9 May 09
Your so right, one never knows if there will be a tomorrow or even a later today. Thank you for your response!
@dreamdua (48)
• India
9 May 09
here the situation is little bit different,after a long life now i am in love and we are daily chatting on phone for two hours without even missing a single day and she likes my nature and mee too but i can't tell my feelings to her because she feels me her best friend not lover.i ma saying this very confidently due to the reason that she is committed to boy and both are planning to marry next year and they are in love from last seven years and i am her best friend but i want to spend my whole life with her but i know this is not possible.so that's why i never told her that i love her and even no plan to tell in future or even in my whole life.may be some miracle will happen in my life.happy mylotting
@jeanena (2198)
• Bucklin, Kansas
10 May 09
Maybe someday you tell that person how you feel anyway. I kind of know what you are saying though . I love my hubby , but there was this one guy I loved from almost the day i met him. I still love him to this day. He doesnt know it , but i think when i see him i am gonna tell him i still care for him.