Can you tell someone that you don't like their card?
By lilmomof2
@lilmomof2 (88)
United States
May 9, 2009 9:26am CST
I can't believe that I'm even writing this I never thought that this would happen to me or someone I love. My husband sent a humorous Mother's day card to his mother and he gets a call from his Dad saying that he opened the card and that he didn't think that his mother would like it so he was going to throw it away.Know let me say that the card was not offensive in any nature, it was just a cute fummy card. My father-in-law said that he thought that my husband should have given his mother a mushy card telling her how much he loved his mother. My husband doesn't have the best realtionship with his Mom, yes he loves her however their not that close. My thought right away was how many Mother's this Mother's day are not going to get cards for various reasons and that she should know about the card, and it is not his dad's choice if she gets the card or not. Needless to say my husband told his father to give the card to his mother and if she didn't like it then thats her choice. I feel that if you give someone a card or gift you can't give it or receive it with strings attached. Any options would be welcomed.
2 responses
@ColeCash1977 (246)
• Columbus, Ohio
9 May 09
In answer to the first question from the title of the post, no you should never tell someone you don't like a card they give you. You thank them no matter how you may not like the card. As far as your father-in-law opening the card that is completely out of line. It was not sent to him. It was sent to your husbands mother and that is the only person with any right to open it. The only option I see is for your husband to call his mother and wish her a happy mothers day. Then ask her if she recieved the card he sent. That way she will know he sent it but I don't think it would be wise to call the father-in-law out on it.
@lilmomof2 (88)
• United States
9 May 09
Thats what i told my husband last night to do, just in case his father decided not to give it to her, she would know my husband sent a card. Thanks
@SinfulRose (3527)
• Davao, Philippines
4 Jun 09
To answer your question, to tell someone that you don't like their card is plain rude and immature. And I totally agree that no one, other than the recipient of the gift, can tell that they don't like the present given...
If you are to give a gift, it should be given without any strings attached or else it won't be a gift. Gifts are free. Something one buys is not.
