My Life's Most Tragic Experience: My Mother
By tracydee
@tracydee (172)
Philippines
May 9, 2009 10:54am CST
After my high school graduation, I was a member of the "undecided high school graduates" club. Simply because I really don't know what college course should I take. I had a terrible time in making a decision about my college course because I was confused if I should follow my passion for journalism or to follow my mother's choice.We are all aware about the growing demand for Filipino nurses abroad. As a result of this phenomenon, my mother forced me to take up BS Nursing. I was conquered by my fear of disappointing and hurting my beloved mother so I gave in to her decision hoping that in the long run, I will be able to learn to love the art of nursing and forget about my passion for writing. I never thought of a rebellion against my mother for forcing me to take up Nursing. I studied hard during my first year in nursing and even became one of the dean's listers. Despite of being an honor student in nursing, my passion for journalism continued to knock my heart and I felt unhappy with the situation. But then I ignored my unhappiness because I was afraid of my mother. Until the day came when my tears would fall every time I study the Nursing procedures. (Ooops! I'll pause my story until here for a while. Can you guess what happened next? Did I shift to another course? Am I still a Nursing student? Did my mother supported the decision that I made?Any advice?)
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@LifeGuru (922)
• Canada
9 May 09
My parents want me to take up nursing, but I ignored it since I wanna do what is most comfortable for me. I personally do not like touching random people in nursing homes since it's not really my thing. Plus I'm the adventurous type and I wanna do the thing I wanna do! Not what others want ME to do. Like hello! It's my life! Just cause they never got the chance to get to be what they want someone else to be, it doesn't mean they have to kind of enforce their expectations upon me. Like dude!!! Chill out! Let me pick my own cards in life and do what I want and let me follow the road to my own success! If your mother disapproves, you have to prove to her that what you want will make you a happier person and successful. Who knows if your journalism thing would make you the next person for the best newspaper or news thing in the world? You'd make so much doing something you love!
My parents disapproved on me wanting to become a fashion designer, but I also want to be a wwe diva. They laughed at both dreams and told me to go into nursing, I told them hellz no, I got my own dreams to follow! I'd rather become a mortician or a lawyer than a nurse. Which is true, and I'm totally glad I'm moving out of my parents house when I'm going to go for my college and university studies! I don't have to listen to them nag about me making poor decisions when they know I have the ability to do anything as long as I put my mind to it.
Just do whatever feels right to you. You're a grown up, you don't need to listen to your parents much anymore. Would you jump off a bridge if they tell you to? I'm sure I wouldn't.
@asherem2 (257)
• Thailand
11 May 09
Parents wanted their children to have a better future that sometimes they don't realize that they are forcing their children to another course.
That happened to me before. My mom wanted me to take an education course but I wanted to study in a Bible School. I want to know more about God'd word. I pursue my heart's desire but after 4 years, I decided to enrol and took up education course. And now I'm a teacher by profession. But I have also learned to love God. I'm glad that I'm a teacher now pursued by my Mom. You know, my mom is also a teacher and my 2 other sisters and 1 brother are also teachers....
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@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
10 May 09
Let me guess, lol! You shifted course! lol! Because i saw your other discussion that you're a Mass Communication student and you shifted from Nursing. That's not cheating right? That's just being resourceful. lol! Let me guess again, this time no cheating, just a guess ok? I think your mother didn't support your decision because it won't be tragic if she did support it right? So i guess there was a little argument about it. Well at least you're pursuing your passion now. I think that's how to live life. You mustn't do something that you don't like. That's the reason why so many people are miserable because they think everything revolves around practicality.
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
10 May 09
I'm curious though, if you're mother wanted the only the best for you then how come she didn't finance your education just because she hates your course? I guess she didn't think that you'd become an out of school youth if nobody supported you. It is the primary concern of every parent.
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@tracydee (172)
• Philippines
10 May 09
Haha! I should have warned you not to check on this discussion of mine. Shift Happens! I just did. My mother really got mad at me that she never talked to me for almost three months. The good thing there was my supportive relatives and friends. My aunts and uncles were the ones who shouldered my financial needs and my father gave his support to me. You might wonder about my father's role,well, during that time his job was unstable and it was really my mother who shouldered my college expenses.
@tracydee (172)
• Philippines
10 May 09
Somehow I understood my mom why she acted that way. She was still conquered by her anger that she really did not want to talk to me. But right now, I know my mom realized her mistakes and she is already supporting me with my desired course. I really want to take up AB Journalism but unfortunately, it is not offered in the university that I'm in right now so I took up AB-MC.
@psyche49f (2502)
• Philippines
10 May 09
You were confused because your mother made a strong endorsement for you to take up nursing, so like a good daughter, you followed her advice. I understand your predicament. I also admire you having to weather the storm and ended being in the honor roll. I don't think it was wise of you to shift had you done it. You can still pursue your dream of writing even as a nurse, right? It'd be hitting two birds with one stone. I'd not give advice because it's your life, and whatever decisions you'll make will be your own, and not blame others. I hope you had a win-win solution over the confusion. Or did you?
@tracydee (172)
• Philippines
10 May 09
I really made a decision to shift from nursing. I could feel deep within that if I pursue nursing, I might not be able to finish the course because I don't really feel any happiness in everything we do in nursing. Every time I study my lessons,tears would fall because it is really a burden on my part and it really feels so heavy when the capping and pinning ceremony was already fast approaching. I was never excited about it because I really don't want to pursue nursing. My mom eventually accepted my decision even if it took us almost three months of not communicating to each other, right now, I already have her support.
@rosemarierealino (184)
• Philippines
11 May 09
At least you once follow your mother's choice and you have proven to her that you were doing good in nursing since that's not your choice. So, how much more in the course that you love most? Well, don't disappoint her. This time she's giving you chances to follow your heart and passion in journalism, tracy. Just do your best. Good luck, my dear! Have a nice day!
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@xingxingsky (176)
• China
11 May 09
Well, it is a little tragic but very interesting experience. I think you'll persuade your mother to accept your ideal. You know she want you to take up nusing just because she loves you and hopes you have a bright prospect. You'll communicated with you mother adequately and tell her what life is your really want. I believe she'll understand sooner or later. After all, studying uninteresting course or taking up uninteresting industry are both tragic things.
@sacredwealth (45)
• India
10 May 09
Well, if Journalism was really your passion, you could have convinced your mother about it. It appears that you may not have been confident yourselves that you took such a move to follow what your mother asked you to follow. I feed you should always do what your heart says. Never follow anyone's advice as far as your career is concerned. I think, you are still studying Nursing. You probably can study Journalism side by side. Thats would be the best option as you would not want to leave your Nursing BS degree now that you have completed more than one year of it.
