Looking at your past.

@Margajoe (4709)
Germany
May 9, 2009 11:23am CST
I was looking into writing books. When I remembered I still have my old diary's. Books from 25 years ago. I read bits and pieces and wish I had not. I cannot seem to relate to myself. I have changed so much. My whole way of thinking and my way of doing has completely changed. I am nothing like I use to be. I packed them back in and thought about throwing them out. But, I just can't. Have you changed so much from your past experiences? Just wondering if others have these feeling too.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
10 May 09
Everyone changes with experiences. I got rid of all my old journals. I went thru a spell of thinking....what if...what if I got into a car wreck and these were left behind for just anyone to read?...that sort of thinking. nothing bad...just embarrassing. Sometimes I wish I hadn't but it's ok. I remember it all as if it were tomorrow.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
10 May 09
You shouldn't be embarrassed. As you said, experiences are what make us grow and change into what we are today. Sometimes I wish i hadn't thrown mine out. I don't think you should throw them out. They are a part of you.
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@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
10 May 09
Thanks for your advice. Maybe I will rewrite them. I don't know yet. But, it is good to know I am not alone with this. Actually it makes life more clear as to why we are here. We seem to be here to learn, and experience things so we can learn. Everything has a reason. Have a nice day.
@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
10 May 09
Yes this has crossed my mind too. But, on the other hand, why should I be embarrassed? I believed in those days, that what I was doing was good. Know a days I think I was being foolish, and did not have both feet on the ground. Experiences are needed to change. I don't know yet, maybe I will through them out. Thanks for commenting. Take care, have a nice day.
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@sblossom (2168)
9 May 09
I also have diaries almost 25 years ago. when I come home and read them I was surprised I read things like that. anyway they also called my memories to something I already forgot. Yes, after years I changed mylife style also my role in the world. But for inside me I don't think I changed a lot. I think you better not throw away your diaries. It was a part of your life. you should feel lucky you keep a record of your lifes. Best regards. Blossom
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@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
9 May 09
Thank-you for your advice and comments. I did not think I had changed a lot, but thinking about it, I changed more than I thought possible. It is a weird feeling. As if I don't know myself really well at all. You had this too. At least I am not alone. I guess it must be a part of growing in life. I never thought it was possible for me to change so much. But it is probably something life is all about. Take care.
@sblossom (2168)
9 May 09
of course you are not alone. you take care too.
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@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
10 May 09
Thank-you. Have a nice day.
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
12 May 09
When I was still a student, I used to write diaries. I write all the things that had happened to me for the entire day. I write all the thoughts that I have, for me my diary is a friend whom I share everything without thinking any hindrances. I see my diary as someone who is a listener. All the emotions that I have I will write it there. But sometimes I wish that my diary is a person who can talked so that he/she can give me some advice and able to comfort me. Diary is my one and only best friend that I see before. However, as I grow older especially when I got in college. I had stopped writing my diaries. I don't know but I don't feel anything and it seems I don't have something to say or write. When I graduated in college, I decided to burn all of my diaries. I want to forget the past and I want to changed everything that I am before. Well, the most probably reason that I have why I burned it, its because I want it to be a secret forever. I don't want anybody can read my diary because I know all the things that I wrote isn't the best ideal to read. When I move to other place, away from home. I'm not thinking of anything beyond because I know that every thing is safe and all of my secrets are kept.
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@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
12 May 09
Yes that is true. My very first diary I burned as well. It was the first boyfriend that gave me my diary. When our relationship did not work, I burned it as a protest thing, hahahaha! Thanks for commenting. Take care, have a nice day.
@sunil_008 (1269)
• India
10 May 09
Hi, when i look at my past i really feel boring now. it was all sunny days with lots of fun. but now things have changed so do the surrounding and people. at that time people really scared to make a gossip about me but now there are so many gossips about me on every corner...well thanks to the x-gf and my sweet friends...i always wanted to be in limelight.and i am for a while now...courtesy society...lol
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@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
12 May 09
Gossips, I hate those. Unless they talk good, hahaha! I guess that happens all over the world. As for boring, in my case I was boring then. I was so good, trying to do everything right. That is really boring, hahaha! Thanks for commenting. Take care, have a nice day!
@MyzDy19 (919)
• Philippines
10 May 09
Yes, of course. When I read the entries of my diary(I've written last year) I also noticed that LoL I guess it's only natural for all of us to change. After all there's no permanent thing in this world except for the word "change" hehehe ^_^ Uhmm it's better if you will not throw them. Treasure your diary. It will be your remembrance for being younger than you are now LoL TC ",
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@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
12 May 09
Thanks for your advice and comment. The word change does not change, that is a good one, hahaha! Yes I think you are right. Take care, have a nice day!
@nidz_16 (61)
• India
10 May 09
hi Margajoe.... my past was feeled with happiness,laughter,enjoyment.....my school life was the purple days of my life.......i was a prankster n i enjoyed every bit of my life......but things change when u grow up n get married....a lot of responsibility...a lot of work.....n d worst thing is being dependent....but i'm still in touch with all my friends....we boost up each others life.........so stay in touch with ur friends..n recollect ur past..u will feel great..... take care!
@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
10 May 09
I am happy for you that you still have your friends. That is worth a lot. Life does change a lot too. I don't have any friends left from may past, I moved around too much. There is nothing there. Even if I would go back, they are so different then I am. They have different priorities. I am sure a lot of them have stayed the way I used to be. I have changed to much and too fast. They would not understand. Thank-you for commenting. Take care, have a nice day.
• India
13 May 09
hey margajoe....we can b friends.....
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
9 May 09
It is your experiences that change you. Many people say it is what you think about or feel about those experiences, but usually either they have not been through them or they did not have the same traumatic effect. It is like two separate people get in a car accident, and both break their spines. One has money and family so he is able to get the exercises and the surgery necessary so now he can walk with a limp. The other is dependent on the county, and now is in a wheelchair. The only difference is the result. You can also use your experiences or what happened in your books, but it depends on whether you want non-fiction or fiction. With non=fiction it is easy, you just write about them, but with fiction, it is harder. You may have to spread the experiences between different characters and not only that you have to change the characters to make them unrecognizable or have them composites of different characters. By all mean do not throw the journals out. At least you can look at them and laugh to yourself, "did I ever think like that?" }
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@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
9 May 09
Interesting. Yes , you are right. But, what do you mean by fiction and non fiction? To write about it? Put it in fiction, change the names and such? That is what you mean? That is an idea. Right now I am still a little mixed up inside. I have a hard time laughing about it because I used to be so serious in what I believed. I still beleive, but I have two feet on the ground now. I am more realistic.I have more self existence and I am more independent. I don't try to make a point anymore. I let people make there own conclusions. But back then , I meant well and felt like I needed to save everyone. Problem was most the time I forgot about myself. Tomorrow I will no doubt feel better again. Some how I cannot throw them out. Not yet anyway. Thank-you for your advice and comments. Take care.
@apples99 (6556)
• United States
9 May 09
Well Iv always wanted to have a diary, but I dont know, I dont like to think of the possibility of someone else reading my private feelings and thoughts, not that I have anything to hide really, but Iv always been a private person, and well I guess thats why I never kept a diary, but I think about my past sometimes, and lets just say that if I made a book about my life it would be a very interesting read and if they made a movie about my life I think people would enjoy watching it lol, but it would have to be a two part mini series for sure haha, but anyway I think its important for us to remember our past and learn from it, and looking back occasionally is good, as long as we dont dwell in the past, and as for change Iv changed a lot since I was younger, and of course I'm still learning and changing.
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@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
9 May 09
Don't dwell in the past, that is for sure. I thought I remembered a lot too, but after reading I felt like I did not remember all of it. Like I don't really know the person I am reading about. She was so different. I guess life is a lot about learning and changing. I just never thought I had changed so much. hahaha! My Mom told me to never have a diary. She said the same things you said. But, I did it anyway. I need to write things down every once in a while. Thank-you for commenting. Take care.
@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
10 May 09
Joe there is only one thing I know for sure part of our past made us who we are right now. May it be bad or good but still we cant deny it , its still part of who we are already. We might not recognized who we are from our past coz as you say lots have change. As my mom used to say change is the only word that is constant. Let it be your lesson from the past, and once you have learned to accept all this never linger from what has passed. Be happy my friend for I want to see you happy and jolly. The kind of Joe I know from my discussions. Have a good day my friend and by the way sorry havent been around lately got sick and wasnt able to make my own discussions thats why I am hear invading your discussions lol I missed you thats all my friend.
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@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
10 May 09
I missed you too Dan!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I was sick too, got the flue, it is still not all gone, but better. How are you? All better? Yes you are so right. I don't think I was bad in my past, just truly naive. I did not have two feet on the ground. Well of course I knew this even without the journals. But, reading it made it feel so weird. As if I was reading about a totally different person. I am not really sad about this, just mixed up a little. Hard to explain. I was thinking about throwing them out, but on the other hand someone suggested to rewrite them. That might me an idea. I might do that. So, don't worry my friend I am not sad about that. It is all a learning experience, after all that must be why we are here. I am a little sad that I have not heard from my children today. Okay, I know they are adults, but still.... I am happy to have seen you here again!!!! Thanks for your comment and support. Take care my friend, have a nice day!!!
@jugsjugs (12967)
10 May 09
I used to have my diarys until two years ago.The reason i threw my diarys out was because there was some good things in them but also alot of things i would not want anyone else to read about.In some ways i was thinking why was i so silly,like you say you haqd changed and so have i.
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@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
10 May 09
Well yes, that is the way I feel too. I don't want others to read it, but on the other hand, that was the person I used to be. Maybe I will rewrite them and then throw them out. That way I can take out the silly stuff or make it more interesting. hahaha! Thanks for commenting. Take care, have a nice day.
• United States
10 May 09
Hello Marajoe, Not only did I keep a diary and wrote in it faithfully, I also kept a book of peotry that I wrote in faithfully, I can totally relate to you. I'm so different then what those poetry writtings represented and the diary that I kept I can't relate to none of that stuff now, so you ar not alone with these feelings. Happy My Lotting!
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@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
10 May 09
Thank-you. It is good to know I am not alone with this. It just feels so weird, as if I am reading about someone else. How could I have been so naive! I wrote songs and poetry. I like those because they were written in a different light. So that others could place themselves in the situation. Where as my journals were more personal. Thank-you for commenting. Take care, have a nice day.