When is it okay to get into a relationship?

United States
May 9, 2009 12:07pm CST
I am still young but as I am getting older I believe one should take the time to get to know the person before calling them a girlfriend or boyfriend. It seems like people just say the other is attractive and then within a week they are in a relationship. I would like to have a boyfriend who I can trust and communicate with easily. How can someone get into a relationship with someone they barely know? Do you have a time frame once you meet someone to get into a relationship with someone?
12 responses
@rich_yu (163)
• Israel
9 May 09
its okey to go in relationship just you should know your limits and dont forget the other things in your life just dont put relation frist coz you still young theres alot of things waiting for you just enjoy and you should ready for everything possible cant happen coz when you start a relationship now you start other part of your life..
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• Philippines
9 May 09
Hi. I think that it is okay to get into a relationship if you are ready to have one. You must be prepared for the consequences. Consider the facet that you will not achieve all your expectations with whom you will share the relationship with. Readiness will take time and before it comes to you, you will realize that no matter how tough it may be and whatever the outcome will be, you are willing to share everything within the relationship. Hope this helps you.
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@4u2enjoy (300)
• Malaysia
10 May 09
it really depends how you meet your partner. there are people who instantly fall in love with their partner once they meet each other. there are also people who take years to know before having a relationship together. my advice is take a while to know who your partner really is. learn about him/her and try to fully understand.
@henman3 (42)
• United States
10 May 09
I made that mistake once. The relationship only lasted 3 days haha. So, I'd say you should get to know someone, but not to the point where they're your best friend. Then, it just won't work.
• United States
9 May 09
I think it will all depend, I definitely agree with you that it seems like a lot of people just jump into a relationship just to do it and way too soon. I can tell you that in the past for me it takes a few weeks of getting to know the person for me to make a decision to further pursue a relationship or just keep it on the friend level. Most likely in the time you take getting to know that person better something will happen to sway you in either direction. So take your time, you'll know when it's right
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@layertin (26)
• China
10 May 09
I believe that a boy and a girl love eachother at the first sight. My wife and me fall in love at our first sight.It is limited.In our country ,many people get married first and then to understand eachother.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
10 May 09
Hi Flirtykumquat,I think your in a right path Flirtykumquat taking it slow, and knowing the person first well and really making sure what you feel, then in the long run your feelings wasn't true and getting hurting someone else feelings. Well I try to know first really what I feel, and it takes time knowing the person first. Like I don't believe in first impression. Like she could be nice first but after a few meeting she has a bad attitude that turns me off. I just let it flaw first and just be a friend. Anyway have a nice day to you!
• Philippines
10 May 09
it's not actually a time frame, though you can make your own time as to when accept a suitor or court and get into relationship. the thing is, are you ready to get into relationship? it's not always a bed of roses. if you get to know the person whom you really like and feel he is mister or miss right, then let the relationship move on smoothly until such time that both of you feel that it's time to settle down, don't rush even if you are boyfriend or girlfriend, there are still a lot to learn
• United States
10 May 09
I don't have an actual time frame persay. I like to become friends first. Then, when the time is right, things move forward....or they don't. But I don't rush it. When the relationship is ready to change, it will.
@moujha (86)
• Mauritius
10 May 09
Once you love someone, you should enter into a relationship with that person. Because if you love her, this mean you know her personality, her manners, her ways etc. Or else if you love her physically, then it will take more time....
@pprchase (77)
• Japan
10 May 09
when you're ready to accept somebody else's imperfection.
10 May 09
you have to know that person and what she is like and be able to trust her or him because you cant just love someone without knowing their real personality.