What is a Real Man?
By shintongs23
@shintongs23 (537)
Philippines
May 9, 2009 12:59pm CST
I am not a sexist. I don't want to be sexist. My mind keeps wondering what is the definition of being a REAL MAN. Of course, we came from different parts of the world and the essence of being a man varies from culture to culture. But there is an imposed image of a real man which is portrayed in mass media like in movies and television shows. I noticed that most of the protagonist man in a movie or TV show should have a sexy leading lady, a damsel in distress to be saved, etcetera. Some also show us that a real man should know how to fight physically, using a weapon, mostly gun.
What is a real man? How it is to be a real man? Are there any standard on being a real man?
I am lost. I am in the middle of wilderness. I have lived 26 years but it is still vague to me the meaning of being a real man... 
What is a real man? How it is to be a real man? Are there any standard on being a real man?
I am lost. I am in the middle of wilderness. I have lived 26 years but it is still vague to me the meaning of being a real man... 2 people like this
12 responses
@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
9 May 09
A real man is not ashamed to show his feelings, will even cry in front of people.
A real man takes time for his family and puts them first in his life
A real man stands by his wife, girlfriend, boyfriend and supports them no matter what
A real man does what is right even when it is the hard thing to do
A real man cares for those around him
A real man does need things to define him
A real man is willing to go the extra mile for those he loves
A real man does not care what others thinks, he does what he feels is right
A real man does not hit women
A real man does not verbally abuse women
A real man does not have a need to fight
A real man does not have a need to be rude or inconsiderate to others
A real man does not need a woman on his arm to define him
A real man is willing to take risk
@kassdaw (591)
• United States
9 May 09
A real man doesn't have to be sexy and usually isn't. In my view a real man is a man that takes care of his responsiblities (like kids and family), is open about things (not a lot of secrets), worries about stuff (bills, health, etc.) and is honest. This may not define the tough guy, the strongest, the weak, the shy, the nerd or geek, but it does define the perfect. And most women want the perfect. The outside shouldn't matter it is what someone does that makes them a real man.
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@bournecaindelta (2477)
• India
10 May 09
A real man. Hmmm. As you said a wrong figure has been projected into the minds of people about how a real man should be. And unfortunately many a people get down to decide you based on that. I really agree with what 'meandmy3' said in his/her first post. There are many a characters that a person needs to exhibits to be a real man. He should be able to take responsibility and be accountable for what he is doing.
bourne
@cindyhxf (1446)
• China
10 May 09
in my opinion,real man is not handsome by looking or have much money.it is hard to definite cause eveyone has their standard to see real man.in my eyes.real man is loving care and responsiable and not sel-fish and good heart.all good things and not bad things to real man.they should always have good comment by others.that is my opinion.but i know it is hard to find such perfect man in the world cause we are human not always perfect.
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@angelinaqing (2)
• China
10 May 09
I am a chinese girl.In my opinion,a real man should be a gentleman. He must be kind,brave and generous. And he must have his own thought. and he should be smart and wise.
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@Margajoe (4746)
• Germany
10 May 09
A real man?
To me a real man is a man that can be trusted to do what is right.
He is responsible and caring.
He is loving and honest.
Is independent, does not look up to other men, is self assured.(In a positive way)
Has his own ideas and way of thinking.
He does everything he can to give his best to his family.
When you find him, let me know. 
Take care.
Take care.
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@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
10 May 09
Every word that I would say now is about my hubby being the kind of man that i have always wanted.
A man who knows when to stop and consider it as a wrong thing.
A man who's not afraid to show his feelings and never to result it in drinking.
A man who believes that there's a woman in every man's success.
A man who thinks her woman as a Jewel to take care off.
and A man who knows how and when to love his woman,unconditionally.
@enruschew (247)
• Malaysia
10 May 09
every people hv their own characteristic,so I think tat to be who u r is de best difinition for 'real man'.
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@flletcapmac (2)
• United States
10 May 09
what about a real women?
or guys who are skinny with sensitive features?
or that we live in a post-industrialist economy where brains triumph over brawn and we all have to get over our accumulated hangups about how the real WORLD works...
@flletcapmac (2)
• United States
10 May 09
what about a real women?
or guys that are skinny with delicate features?
or that we live in a post-industrial economy where its brain over brawn and we all have to get over our accumulated hangups about the way the world works...
