Why men doesn't like children?

My husband doesn't have a normal-to-good relationship with his father. I'm not saying that they are in a fight or something. His mother told me that when he was a little, his father was sick. So sick that the doctor advised her not to let any children to bother his father. So his mom tried to dismissed him from his father for about 2-4 years and the result is they don't talk much. They don't communicate well. It's very different from my experience. My father and brothers have a good communication. I remember how my father was always there for us. My worry is that my daughters developed that kind of relationship with their father. Because I can see how my husband's father in my husband (I mean like their character and habit). Besides, I always dream of a warm family where everyone can talk and chat easily. I ran out of excuses why their father prefers to stay in front of the TV or computer playing games. I myself hated my sight looking at my husband like that. -_-;

How frustrating for you! Your husband's relationship with his father may well have something to do with it. However, it sounds like our husbands are very similar, yet my husband has a good relationship with his dad. On the other hand, my relationship with my mother was not very good, yet my daughter and I have have a wonderful relationship. I'm telling you this because a bad parent/child relationship isn't necessarily passed on to the next generation. If it is something learned or genetic in your husband, then perhaps all you can do is find things that he might enjoy doing in common with your daughters. For example, my husband spends hours listening to music on his computer. Finally I suggested that our daughter sit and listen with him. Now he plays songs he thinks she will enjoy and they both laugh a lot. I'd also like a warm family where everyone gets on, but I think if you scratch the surface of most families, you'd find that is very rare. I think your children are very lucky that you are so aware of what is going on.

Well, I hope and pray and really, really wish that it's not going to be genetic. I tried so hard to encourage him to be willing to be involved in togetherness with our daughters. I keep telling him that our daughters is our treasure. I don't want us parents to mislead them. Sometimes, I take my daughters to my father so that he can watch how my father do interacts with my daughters. I hope he's aware of what I'm saying. I've tried music kind of thing like your husband did but it doesn't work. My husband isn't in that step yet. -_-; I'm really, really thanking you for your support. Thanks a lot.

I'm sorry. I don't mean to accuse all men are like that. I know there are people like you, man who loves children. My father is like that too, like you are. I wish my husband can be more expressive in loving my daughters. Show that he cares.

Oh it's sad that your husband doesn't take care of the children. He must be tensed or something. Or did you have a terrible row about anything recently? Anyway I will recommend you to ask him what troubles him. Some people may not like people asking such questions. But for the sake of your children, you should. Don't hesitate. A kid devoid of a father's love might not feel life as an interesting object.

I believe those are the common reasons. But like you said, I hate the idea that they(men) need a rest after a whole day work. Guess what, they don't know that being a mother is a really full time job. I should say that most mothers work for about 24 hour more in a day. If it's just the household, maybe like 24 hours. But if it's households and havig a job to earn money for the family too, then I should say that it'll be more than just 24hours. Being a working mother is challenging especially when the children are below 5 yrs. Thanks for responding.