She's meant to be gay
By SuzyLong
@SuzyLong (775)
May 10, 2009 4:33am CST
One of my close friends has been saying for years and years that she is gay. She met one my boyfriend's friend's who I hate more than you can imagine. they have now fallen in love and are now a couple but I'm the one who's confused. Her syaing used to be "what do you expect! I'm gay!" to anything silly she'd say. She's sit with my boyfriend watched tv and rate the women out of 10. All of a sudden, she's straight and with the worst person possible.
I'm happy for her because she is happy but I'm also sad because with his track record with women, it's only going to last a few weeks and he'll either start treating her badly or cheat on her. I don't know what I'll do if he hurts her, I hate him enough now, what am I going to be like if he does hurt her?
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8 responses
@srganesh (6340)
• India
10 May 09
At least feel happy that she realized the woman in her.Let us hope for the best to happen in the life of the couple.Why should not they make a good pair apart from all his bad habits?Let love rule their hearts and help them come out successful.Cheers!
@kapil_poundarik (960)
• India
10 May 09
oh gosh this is a very very awkward situation for you.i think that you should handle your friend with care. now you can just wait for the time when she will be betrayed with that man , but now at least she is straight, now when she is broken heart you can push her to be with mens and improve her . who knows finally she can get a good man for her.
@AKMEDIA2 (328)
• United States
12 May 09
I think it's a little insulting to say a person is "meant" to be gay. It's like saying a woman is "meant" to have babies. When you say that, it can be pretty insulting like stereotyping the person into a certain category. Does it mean she's a worse person than others. Absolutely not.
@clgwilliams (38)
• United States
11 May 09
The only thing I could recommend you do is just be a friend and be there when he does screw up. I don't think she's gay since she is with a man, maybe bi. I know it's hard to watch friends make bad decisions, but we can't do anything about their bad decisions besides be there for them when it all blows up in their face.
@pickoy (733)
• Philippines
11 May 09
It may be hard to watch but its her life and her decision... Just be there for her when it happens. She has to learn for herself too...
@Ithink (9980)
• United States
10 May 09
Actually she is Bi if she is with both sexes. About the only thing you can do is stand by and hope that it works out. She has to make her own decisions no matter what you may think or know about him. If you say something she might get mad and say something along the lines of, it is her life .. blah blah blah.
If he does hurt her console her and just be there for her.
@kprofgames (3091)
• United States
10 May 09
I think she is likes both men and women. I have a friend like that and her marriage is an open one. It works from some relationships. I think this relationshipt that your friends as is still young. It isn't like she went into this blind, you told her what he was like. If there is a falling out with them, then it was still her choice to see what would come of it. You, as a friend, warned her.
If something happens, don't let it be an 'I told you so' situation. If she gets hurt then all you can do is be there for her. That's what a friend does. You don't always have to approve or like her actions/relationships, but that doesn't mean you still can't be there if something bad happens to her.
