he hurts me!

To be honest I dont get what you mean by spirit hanging around? He might be really hurt of what he have read from your cellphone. I agree that man shouldn't hurt woman no matter what she did. But didnt you try to explain about the text? Did you just broke up today? I think you should talk first before you make a big decision. Do you really love him? You said you didnt expect him to hurt you. So is it means it's the first time he hurt you physically? I think he just got out of control of himself. Well if he would say sorry for huting you then I guess you can give him another chance. You've been together for three years but he hurt you just now. if he hurt you again then I guess its the time for you to leave him. But for now you must understand how hurt he is of what has happened. Just imagine if you are in his situation. You know it wouldnt be easy.

Mymaria - First of all do you know this guy that sent you that text. Also, there should be some communication with you and your boyfriend. Okay does he lets you talk with guys or sent text with other guys. If that a yes...well then he has every right to talk with other girls too but of course you both cant pass the line. Well that's really weird..there has to be an explanation from all of this. Well I dont understand much what you said about the spirit part you need to explain a little bit more of the situation so we can understand it better. Spirit - okay is this is the guy's name or something. I see what you mean...were you actually talking with another guy to see who treats you better or shows you the love. See...Im not sure how far you've gone with your man. I dont see or talk with you everyday. He might've seen something different about you so he just wanted to see your phone. I guess he really loves you more than you can even imagine but you messed it up on cheating on him w/another guy. Okay...he has an anger problem too which he cant control once they start with the hand then certain other things. See...that's not nothing what you've gone through many other women suffer but if you cheated on him then you did wrong too but has he hitten you before for stupid little things? Something wrong went between there..okay you got a random text right..okay im remembering that i got a random text too once from my fiance which was weird because he was asleep and he never had the phone with him and i recieved it so i think its just the phones that sometimes kind of messed up...so yeah... In a relationship there has to be: - Honest - Communication - Trust * If you two dont have this then there's no reason for you two be a couple.

It makes no difference what the reason may be there is absolutely no excuse for a man hitting a woman. If he will do that over this then what would it be over next time. There will be a next time as long as you stay with him. He believes that you are fooling around on him. This is not someone you want in your life. Now that he thinks you are fooling around he will be even more on the watch and anything that may happen will set him off. You must leave him right away. Have nothing more to do with him no matter what he says to you. If he thinks he will loose you he may try very hard to get you back. He will promise he will never do that again and he will sound like he really means it. You can not trust him now. His anger should never have gotten to the point where he hurt you....EVER. There have been many women that kept hanging on and some didn't live to tell about it. He may not be that bad but you are dealing with an angry man now and your love for him is not worth it. The chance of him hurting you again are much greater now. Please walk away from this man now.

Hey... you say its a 3 years of relationship and I really wonder how could it go just like this with just one single text. I really doubt if this has proped very quickly. Just wait. Give it sometime. Hold on to yourself since that wasn't your mistake. If he treasures your relation, he would definitely come back to you with a sorry. If not, just take in a way that it is all for a good reason and that this made you to know about someone.

I am so sorry that you are going through this, if I understand what you are saying right then you said that your boyfriend hit you. If that is the case you have a very hard decision to make. I for one would not stay with a guy that raised a hand to me, there is no excuse for that, none at all. If he does it once chances are he will do it again. Just know that you have friends here and we will support you no matter what. Hang in there, regardless of what you decide it is going to be a hard decision and something that you are going to have to be sure about. let us know what we can do to help

He didn't even ask and he just hit you? That's awful. I suggest you leave him and never come back. If he can hurt you for this small stuff, imagine how much more he can do if you did anything that will truly make him... Girl, you don't deserve to be punished if its not your fault and this guy deserves a lesson. A man who can hurt a woman that he knows is weaker than him is a coward!

well let say i not very good this kind of stuff but i think u should have faith in ur lkove and let time heal ur wounds .also keep in touch with him so that ur reltionship doesnt go vanish.

As everyone is saying that it wont be a one off he will hurt you again and he will. It sounds like he doesnt trust you anymore and the best think for you to do is just stay away so you cant get hurt. There is a old saying that if you love someone you set them free and in a funny way he has set you free because you have realised what he is like. All i can say is its good you found out now before he really badly hurt you or you had kids because then he might hurt them too.

if they hurt you once they are going to hurt you again and that's what some don't understand. That kind of behavior is etched into them.

well dont get confused first thing is tell him that you havent dont anything wrong i.e., you didnt cheat on him , and as for the wrong txt msg then just ask him to call that person and tell him that you are his girl and stuff like that these problem will be solved dont worry

when we are in a realitionship we always accept the fact of being happy and being hurt..i have a boyfriend and we the same years been together alot of bad and good happen more that what happen to your relationship on the guy but becouse we believe that we still love and need each other we never break as for now we talk and put in or back,we move on and we cotinue our relation...yes he hurts me sometimes like you...okey let me tell you this i have a small bother and when my mother beat her he always say they beat him coz they love him....its part of love"""just try to talk to him and tell what happen and the truth and if did not work that way means that it should be..just tell him that you love him and you waiting for him..

If he hurts you, there is no reason why you should even make a decision. After a while, the only person you should be looking after and caring about the most is number one and that is you. do what makes you happy even if its the hardest thing you have to do.