Why are some people so ungrateful?

i think its a nature of human then get the work done and leave. They don't even thanks to GOD and you are asking about people. I think they should continue their doings for others as GOD does and never expect back anything from us. So its for noble cause as you will get high in GOD's eye.

I dont believe the words "Thank you" have to be said in order for appreciation to be expressed. A smile can do just as well. The other thing to consider is what exactly is a 'favor'? Is pausing for a second to hold a door for the next customer at the store a favor? Or is that just good manors? Is picking up a pen that a coworker dropped a favor? Or is it just being nice? I dont think everyone always does nice things for others because they expect something back. Sometimes favors are a way to show appreciation for something someone else has done. Sometimes when you witness a favor, the thanks has been given in a way not seen. Perhaps it is a return favor. If everyone stopped helping other people because they werent given the thanks they thought they deserved, I think everyone would become miserable. Sometimes taking an extra second to help out someone will completely change their day around. If someone thinks they are being taken advantage of, then of course they should speak up. Not everyone realizes that a certain task isnt part of a person's job at work. Not everyone realizes that you have to go out of your way for certain things. I think the key to approaching someone, though, is to try to be as positive as possible. For example at work say something along the lines of 'I really dont mind helping you out with X task, but today I just have too many other things to do and cant help. Ask me again next time and I would be happy to help if I can.' It will show that it is something you are doing to be helpful and that you dont mind, but you arent being negative or accusatory. I would say that the best thing to do is to help others as much as possible. The benefits are available for the person being helped and for the person helping.

Maybe not speak up but surely stop doing favors etc. I have this in my family. I love doing things for people....bringing little gifts I make for special occasions....my little sister ALWAYS sends a thank you or calls to thank me....my brother and older sister however..NEVER do! So I have decided to shower my little sister with gifts....let her know how much I love her.....the other two can go without....I understand it's in their personalities though...so maybe not their fault.

Unfortunately, there are people like this wherever we go. In fact, sometimes when we give something to them and they don't say Thank You, I'd be the one embarrassed because he or she doesn't know how to be appreciative. But as long as I learn to be grateful to people, that should be enough. I know what you mean exactly with this discussion because I've encountered quite a lot of people like this in my life. There are some occasions whereby I myself forget to say Thank You, but once I recover from it, I'd quickly drop down a text or some sort. Or to make it more sincere, I come down personally and say a word of thanks. I'd rather have polite and appreciative friends than rich ones but ingrates anytime.

As sad as it is there are a lot of people who just don't know how to say thank you. Why is thank you are hardest word? I don't like people that take advantage of others! I've had people in the past take advantage of me and you can always seem to tell when they are doing this. Anyway, I guess the favours should stop and then they will notice the change and ask why things have changed and then you can tell them your feelings or your thoughts. Andrew

It all depends on why you are doing the favor etc. I do not do things to get recognized or praised I do things because I really want to help that person out, not so that I can feel better about my self.

May be it is something to do with their destiny. Well God has given me the intelligence to be polite god and humble which are the good traits. And the good people are rewarded the good and peaceful successful life. People who do not adhere to the great virtues are destined to be doomed. It is their fate. So as I say they are destined to be the losers at the end of the day. We just have to smile and go our way Glow.

Ungrateful people are always there around us. Doing a favor for someone else not because looking for a returns but a " Thank You " is not so hard to give . So , remember to at least say " Thank You " after receiving a favor from other people no matter how minor the favor is. For me , for those ungrateful people , we can just stop doing favor for them . But it is different and hurt if this happen within our family members.This ungrateful family member always deems that all in the family should give in and accept to whatever she done and said . From my own experience , I only can concluded that , family members should try to give in and appreciate each other but not to only give in to only one family member as this will make her/him take everybody in the family for granted.

Hi, I would not do favors for people that are so unappreciative that they can't even say thank you. How hard is it really to thank someone? I don't know but I think there are a lot of spoiled, self entitled people walking around that think that the world and everyone owes them a favor. Some people are just that way because they've grown up that way, or they've never had any responsibilities in life, or never been taught manners. I always try to be appreciative whenever someone does a favor for me because they didn't have to do it in the first place?

Some people can't say 'no' and people take advantage of them. According to me they should stop doing favours to these ungrateful people as these people don't realize the time spent and in some cases money spent on doing their favours. You can handle these type of situations in some simple ways, 1. The first step is to tell them that you are busy with ofice work or have some appointment with some people. 2. You are going over to your relatives house for a visit 3. My friend's wife, husband or child is sick and that you have to pay them a visit 4. Keep making these kind of excuses each time he asks you for a favour. He won't ask you any more favours. 5. If he still can't get it tell him straight. Tell him that he's ungrateful and self centered and don't care about anybody. This will work 100% guaranteed.

I had a situation like this last week a house mate locked himself out of his room and the keys were in the room he slept on the sofa in the living room. The next day i saw him when i came out the shower i got a shock and he explained to me wat had happened. I then lent him my phone to call the landlord who had the spare key and he decided to call other people. Then he gave me back my phone and didnt even bother saying thanks. I know think that i should have just left him there. I believe that it depends on the people to if they speak up or not some people dont like confrontation, i would have confronted him but i was half asleep.

We always meet that situation in our daily job. You know, we work in the IT department in a school. Kids, teachers and other staff in school are our customers. Some of them are polite and very nice, but some of them just be rude all the time, we would not say anything to them when they did this. But if our boss was present, he would told the the kids to say thank you. One of my colleagues didn't ignore it. He told me when some kids left without saying thank you, he would say "you are welcome" to remind the kids to say thank you! I think this is a good idea. How do you think?

A favor is something that requires no collateral! Don't do anyone a favor if you're going to expect something in return, otherwise it's not a favor, it's a service...we pay for services. People out there, stop! If you are doing everything in your life with the assumption that now someone owes you something, you're wasting your time! What goes around comes around, and if you're a good person and act selflessly, then the people around you will be affected and will start to reflect this act of kindness!

Those type of people are my biggest pet peeve, how i deal with ungrateful people if i see them on regular basis is don't do favors for them no more just plain as simple. People that are ungrateful are only hurting themselves not you, your the winner they are losers because you found out what type of people they are. I cross those people off my list.

I do think it is rude of people not to thank someone who has helped them or done some sort of favor. Still, it happens. They either have too much on their mind or just don't have manners. When I do someone a favor I try to do it from the heart or not at all. If you do it from the heart expecting nothing in return then it doesn't bother you so much if they don't thank you. If I start to feel as if I'm being used by someone then I do back off from the charity.

some people just dont appreciate what we say or do.. or others are scare to tell us.. but whatever the case is,,, its their way.. we cant do nothing about them.. if we try to change them.. it will be positive or negative.. positive, they will change the way we want them to.. or negative, makes us rude on their eyes :(

I know exactly where you're coming from. It can really suck when you put yourself out on a limb to help others and they completely ignore you; take advantage or treat you badly. I think the best way to handle such a situation is to give everyone the typical three chances. If it's a true friend going through a difficult time, just remember that and try to look to a time when they are going to be able to help you. But, if it's just another freeloading jerk, throw 'em out with the rest of the trash. Rule number one is don't let them get away with abusing your generosity more than once, they'll see you as a free lifeline when they need a top up or an interest-free favor.

I used to be one of those people who was always doing stuff for others who never appreciated it. Yes I think they should say something and stop doing favors for those who don't appreciate them. I think for that type of situation I am not sure that there is a right way or a wrong way to handle it. I say that because it depends on the person and their attitude when you decide to say something.

Yeah i know how that is.Its strange how you can do favors and go beyond your way to help someone in need and they never seem to appreciate it.Sometimes i wonder how can they be like that.Im always willing to help someone who needs it,even if i have to go out of my way to do it,even if the favor isnt returned to me. It would be nice but ehhhh

My boss is like this--instead of saying thank you she usually says fine,fine. Even when she does thank someone for something, it doesn't sound like she means it. (She's also rather condescending toward people, so that doesn't help) This kind of treatment really makes me hesitate to go out of my way to help her.