Guys: Do you prefer a virgin over a non-virgin when it comes to marriage?

I do believe that love is more important that virginity. But, if I have a chance to choose. I will prefer a virgin for sure due to the above mentioned reasons. Thanks for the response. I am waiting for your reply to the above comment.

I got married to my lover five months ago. Yes, I agree that love is the most important thing. I have a question for you, Will you marry a non-virgin women if you are a virgin? If you come to know after a few years that your wife was not virgin before marriage and has a baby in that relationship, don't you feel cheated? or Are you so opended minded to say that you don't mind that and you only value her love to you?

I think belief of the people in your mostly guys, is not a proper arrangement to get married. We don't blame women, if they lost virginity in there first boyfriend. We are not saint to make a mistake, right. Take a look at it. If you are not virgin, then knew that guy about it. He is trying to leave you for no reason, isn't that hurt. Guys that you love so much left you with that reason only. It means they are not love you, they only need is yours. The important for them is your, sweet p and sweet love. Do you have boyfriend right now and are you still not touch?

I am taking an excuse to ask this question. What do you think about people saying 'How can you expect a girl to be faithful to her husband if she doesn't care about her virginity before marriage?', She doesn't care more about that even after marriage and there is a high chance for her to cheat her husband'?

Yes. Of course. I don't prefer a man who is not.... Incase, I get, I will feel that I am cheated. I have to look at this situation in a different way. I don't deserve somebody who is not a virgin because I am a virgin. So, I deserve a virgin.

A virgin man should choose a virgin woman, to be fair to both. I appreciate a woman who can look after herself and not easy to fool by a man. She will be a faithful wife. Do you feel cheated if your man to be not a virgin?

Yes, you are right, love is the most important thing.

I think you didn't understand what I and AnimeAdikuz mean above. Love and trust should be main factors in marriage. I know a guy who married a women with a baby. That was his first marriage. He was open minded to accept the girl he loved and the factor that she is not a virgin and has a baby doesn't affect him even though the relatives were against the marriage. Even now after 30 years they are living happily. I will say even if you are marriying a non virgin you should have the mind to accept it and love each other, there is no problem. It happens in many cases. What do you say?

G-d bless those with the best of intentions, but "all you need is love" has been a drastic failure and a lie. The Beatles were wrong. The idea that the most important thing is simply "loving each other" has led to a 50% divorce rate, people who are on the 3rd, 4th, 5th marriage, who have slept around with a dozen partners never finding any real love, and web sites that actively promote cheating wives. Not trying to be pushy, but I am trying to be honest. If you think you are going to get with someone who's nothing like you, has a different world view, has completely different expectations of marriage or relationships, has a completely different back ground, life goals, family goals, religious goals, and a different idea of what life is about... and somehow think that "as long as we love each other... it will all work out", then I respectfully suggest you look around a bit more, and see the wreckage of that thinking in our society.

i agree with you, if we are love in deep with someone we must not argue with this matter. we looking for inside manner not the history in the past. at least..

Wow, that's very nice to know.. :)

u are all nice guys

I agree. This deserves the best response.

Hi andy77e as per your view if the girl do not hold her virginity till marriage but think if she fall in love with a guy and they decide to marry each other and then they loose her virginity with a strong believe that she is going to marry him but due to some problem may be that guy left her or may be due o family problem they could not marry that does not mean that girl has done any sin job for which she should be punishable or her character will get a bad stamp that she will be doing the same mistake after marriage.

Yes, all the points you mentioned here are importnat. I wish everybody should read your response. I would like to add one more thing to that. I have heard that a women or guy who had been with other guys(lost virginity) has a good chance to doubt his/her partner. Thaks for the valuable response. I don't understand why can't they wait till they find the person whom they are going to marry. I might sound odd in this new gneration. I belive a woman or man who waits until they find their real partner respects their parner.

I appreciate your response. I also think the same way as you.

you are right that you deserve a virgin man in your life but think if he has already loose his virginity then what can you do? so it is better to marry some one and never ever try to know the past of that person because either he have to lie in front of you or else if he is an honest man and tell the truth then you wil be in tension and jealous for rest of your life so do not think about all these just plan to break your virginity at your honeymoon with you hubby

You sound like a mature person advicing his young sister. I agree with you. I have married and I can't do anything with it whatever be the situation of my partner. I don't have magical powers to go to his past and see what is really happened. So, it is better to thank god for what I got and be happy with that. But, I am still in the stand that I deserve a virgin - whatever be the truth or reality. Thanks for the response.