older married couples
By bmorehouse1
@bmorehouse1 (1028)
United States
May 11, 2009 2:43pm CST
I have been divorced for 7 years and I look at couples from a different angle than I used to. I see older couples who have been together FOREVER and from the looks on their faces I don't think I ever want to get married again. I can say that the majority of older couples I see don't look happy. They put up with each other, but are they really happy with their lives? Don't get me wrong, I know there are some happily married older couples out there, but they are few and far between. Everyone bugs me that I should be out there dating and trying to find someone - WHY? I am perfectly content with the way things are. I know from first hand experience that society is couple oriented, but if I have to be miserable to be part of a couple, then I want nothing to do with it. Any discussion?
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
11 May 09
If you are happy with your life the way it is, then don't change it. You could go out and date just to have fun if that is what you want, but don't let someone try to talk you into getting married again.
I will probably be one of those older couples, but right now we are still happy! Married for 22 yrs so far.
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@bmorehouse1 (1028)
• United States
12 May 09
I am very content with the way my life is right now. Of course we don't know what the future may bring, but I will think long and hard before I get into another marriage! Glad that things are working on the positive side for your marriage. Best wishes!
@aakansha12 (183)
• India
11 May 09
Hi , i can understand what you want to say . I myself is single and feel like i am good and happy . I really dont like all the nagging relationships but may be i am thinking all this because i still haven't find my prince charming . I feel sad too to see many people divorced or people at old age not happy together . But i think it not always that what we see . I mean may be the couples fight all the time but it could be another way of their love . My parents always fight but i see love in their fights . Love always don't mean love sometimes love is hidden behind cute little fights .
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@bmorehouse1 (1028)
• United States
11 May 09
You're right. Even though people fight that doesn't mean they don't love each other. I haven't found my prince charming either, but I'm not worried about it. Best wishes!
@Ithink (9980)
• United States
12 May 09
I think the choice is totally up to each person. Luckily so far I dont see me and my hubby being those grumpy old people. I also seem to only notice the older ones that are holding hands, laughing and seeming to still enjoy each other. After being together for 27 years and married for 25 we still seem to be like the couples that I mentioned. I often think that is how I want to us to be when we get old. (We are only 43 and 42, got married when he was 16 and I was 18).
If someone is happy single thou Im all for it. Happiness is what counts, why do something that people think is expected if you arent going to be happy?
@bmorehouse1 (1028)
• United States
12 May 09
Its nice to know that there are still married couples out there that are happy together. Best wishes to you both!
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
11 May 09
I have been divorced for thirty years!!! I know what you mean, although everyone keeps telling me that if you meet the right person that will change...the part about being alone and loving it! I do my own thing....spend my money the way I want...go out with friends.....come home to a house I bought myself and if it's clean or dirty I am the only one who has to look at it. I am sure there are tons of very happily married people out there. My parent were very happy....so I guess it's just the matter of what you want out of life.
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@bmorehouse1 (1028)
• United States
11 May 09
Amen! You don't have to answer to anybody! I rather like that! I do admire those couples who are happy! Thanks for your reply!
@shibham (16977)
• India
12 May 09
hai there, everything depends on you and your living style. if u are happy in a single life, then ok. if u need support from someone on your later age then u can find out someone. in my city maximum 95% older married couples are happy and divorced cases are limited. be happy always. take care.
@bmorehouse1 (1028)
• United States
12 May 09
I am much happier now than I have been in a long time. I don't actually need someone by my side to make myself happy. If I decide later on down the road that I want someone then I can look! Thanks!
@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
12 May 09
its your choice then nothing can argue with that.
if you wishj to marry again then its better for you
to have complete family but you must to be sure that
he is responsible for. i know what u feel now cause
you afraid of what happened again after your situation.
not all days are like that maybe this time you will be satisfied
of your emptiness w/ o having partner.
@bmorehouse1 (1028)
• United States
12 May 09
It is my choice to live this way right now with no significant other by my side. I have no desire to find that other permanent partner right now, but of course that could change!
@visitorinvasion (7709)
• United States
12 May 09
I'll have to take your word for it, since I don't go around looking at old couples lol. When I do, tho, they usually look cute holding hands or something in the store or restaurant. I may have to add that to my self-entertainment category for doctor's offices and other places where there is apt to be a wait and old couples 
Now about you...
If you are content, then continue doing what you're doing. Imo, the world would be a better place of others were just a bit less concerned about their loved ones love lives or lack thereof.
Now about you...
If you are content, then continue doing what you're doing. Imo, the world would be a better place of others were just a bit less concerned about their loved ones love lives or lack thereof.@bmorehouse1 (1028)
• United States
12 May 09
Would you believe that my doctor is actually concerned about my love life. Why can't people leave well enough alone! I really don't go around looking at old couples but sometimes they just catch my eye and yes there are still some that hold hands, but not many. Best wishes to you!
@katsalot1 (1618)
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11 May 09
I have been happily attached for over 20 years now, but I know what you mean about couples looking grumpy (that includes young couples as well). My opinion is that if two people aren't happy together it is a waste of life being together. I hate it when people think that it is unnatural to be single, because I would consider it far more unnatural to be in a relationship that made you unhappy. Good for you being content with how things are for you - maybe one day you will meet someone you want to be with, but that doesn't mean you have to go out looking.
@bmorehouse1 (1028)
• United States
11 May 09
I'm glad to hear that you are happy with your marriage. It took me a long time to figure out that living with someone who makes you unhappy is not okay and that you can do okay on your own. Best wishes to you and your significant other!
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@yoyozhou (356)
• China
12 May 09
Oh,it is a complex topic. You see,now I am young and single one . Once I had a bf and after 6 years,we parted. Sometimes I ask myself "am I happy? Why I can not get along well with him?" I want to say I love him but we are completely different on everything.It is so tired that we both aggreed to part.No matter you are young or old, you will have some problems with anyone.The key is how degree we can bear and wether the guy is within the field we can bear.Sometimes I just feel like you.I am Ok now and don't need guy to bear!
And I want to ask a question,will you be lonely if you are single forever? I want to say I am lonely sometimes.Though I have friends and parents,but they have their own life and can not always be with you and share your feeling.
@bmorehouse1 (1028)
• United States
12 May 09
That is a real good question. I don't know whether I will be lonely or not as I get older. I hope not. Of course a person can still go out with someone and have a good time, but still come home to your own little haven and not be lonely. I guess it depends on if you need someone with you 24 hours a day. I don't at this time. Thanks for your opinions!
