To Yell or Not To Yell, that's the question.

Hmmm well my husband won't yell at me, but he is good at giving attitude whe we are not agreeing on something. And I guess I have to say I do the same. If he was to yell at me, he would get me yelling back! It may not be the best way to handle things, but I have never been the type to just walk away. Instead I loose my cool and dish it back out. I do not recommend this, but I am just being honest.

Yelling at each other is not that they don't love each other. It is the nature that when some disagreement occurs they talk in loud voices .it is short temper . you should try to avoisd this because when two people fight the others near them feel disgusted so it is better not to shout in front of others to make them unhappy.You can sort out your disparities when you are alone .

I do not believe in yelling. My father used to yell at us, growing up, and all it did was scare the crap out of me. Then as I got older I just got pi$$ed off with myself for being scared, but at the same time, because of my sensitive hearing being yelled at was even worse. Dad knew about my sensitive hearing, and chose to yell, rather than discuss a problem. When my husband yells it gives me major flashbacks. Hubby, being a Viet Nam veteran, knows about flashbacks and PTSD, so when I explained it to him that way, he totally understood, and now doesn't yell when something upsets him. I never yelled, because I knew how it felt to be yelled at. He's gotten a lot better at expressing his frustration in words, not by yelling. Yelling, by it by a woman or a man, is nothing more than an intimidation tactic, and a very low blow, at that. I will not tolerate yeling, nor will I yell, myself.

My son and his wife do this and it really bothers me....I think if I had someone I am more the quiet type and don't raise my voice much....not even in anger.

I think sometimes when we get upset, unconsciously we raise our voice thinking it will help get it across that we are upset, I know I have raised my voice in the past, I make it a point not to, but it still happens on occasion. It would start as raising my voice a little because I was upset, then she raised her voice a little more to show she was upset. All it takes is one to talk in a normal volume and the yelling usually stops. The silence never solves anything, if there is a problem, it should be discussed.