baby with attitude

Excellent advice here meandmy3. Many people have different ideas or methods of trying to teach the little ones. Really 9 month is too young for a typical time out but there is a smaller version you can do. Sometimes it is hard to deal with the temper tantrums but the best thing you can do is teach him that he is not going to get what he wants by throwing a tantrum. Here is what I did, it might work for you and it might not but it's worth a try. I only baby proofed my home to the point of making sure dangerous objects were put away out of reach. Things like little figurines that I had sitting on my bookshelf I left out because the truth is as meandmy3 said we can't baby proof other peoples homes so the child has to learn what is ok and what is not ok to touch. When my son at about that age of 9 months went over and tried to take my figurines of the shelf I walked over gently took it from his hand ( not yanked it because that did upset him more) and I said to him "these are mommies pretty's we don't touch" then I would redirect him to the other side of the room where his toys were. Usually it worked but sometimes he threw a fit so when he threw a fit I would put him in his playpen and walk into the kitchen ( where I could still see and hear him ) but I would not go back and talk or pay any mind to him until he stopped screaming. This worked well, I'd say about 5 times of this method he had it figured out that "attitude" got him nothing but left alone in his playpen and soon the angry cry stopped. The best part is when we went to visit Grandma he already knew that we don't touch the pretties :) My niece on the other hand was a whole different story she would cry until she either puked or fell asleep but she too figured it out rather quickly that he tantrums got her no where. If she puked we'd clean her up and the first couple of times we comforted her but then she got to puke a bit too often when getting upset so I thought maybe she had figured out that was a way to get out of trouble. So a couple of times we got her out and cleaned her up but when she ( and the playpen )were all cleaned up she went right back into her playpen. That seemed do the trick and she would only throw a tantrum for just a few minutes after that but then she'd stop. I think the main factor is to gently remove the item from his hands. As a parent our natural reaction is to take something as quickly as possible from them that is dangerous but that is what triggers the fit and in some cases will make it more possible for the child to be injured. Good luck :)

thank you guys so much for your great words or advice! i will be sure to try everything... something eventuallu has to work!