Giving Advice to a co-worker

United States
May 11, 2009 10:07pm CST
I work with a very nice woman who is having a lot of trouble in her life. For one her husband has been cheating on her and she is very passive about it. To me that is not ok and I've told her to be strong and to talk to her husband about it. Well over spring break she went back home to Kansas and met up with an old friend. They saw each other everyday and ended up doing something that they shouldn't have done. She told me all of this and asked me for advice. I'm not sure what to say because I care about her and I don't want to hurt her feelings. Any advice would help me! Thanks
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4 responses
• China
12 May 09
Maybe you can tell her that life isn't always nice.She need considering that what is most important in her life and what makes her happy.Then in this marriage ,what is she really want?Once she thought about these clearly,she could know how to deal with this matter.This just my opinion,wish her all the best.Have a nice day and happy mylotting.
• United States
13 May 09
Thank you for your advice. I dont think she actually knows if she loves her husband or what she wants out of her marriage.
• China
13 May 09
Then she need a time to consider that.If she have a good mind-set,she will know how to do.
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• Philippines
12 May 09
You know what, when an adult is asking for advice, he actually knows what he has to do. They just want someone to listen to what they are going through. For me, in such situation, I usually tell a friend that he/she is already old enough to know what's right and what is wrong and that he is aware of the consequences of what he is doing and that the best thing to do is to do what he think is best for everyone involved. I will deliver those words though, only after listening to all his self-arguments.
• United States
13 May 09
Thank you for your advice. She is actually old enough to be my mom. She needs to be mature and should know the right thing to do,
• Malaysia
13 May 09
I have an opinion that she didn't mean what she did. It was just a one night stand, triggered by the excited feeling of meeting an old friend. Was the friend her ex boyfriend? If he is, then maybe there is much more going on and she will look forward to extend this relationship. However, I pity her and if I were you I will just tell her to make up her mind and make a wise decision. Is the relationship more worthwhile or her marriage? Her husband is cheating on her and that's already a bad sign, but if she still doesn't feel wrong about it and not emotionally disturbed, then you can not do anything else but just agree with her. It is her happiness that matters. Whomever she choose, tell her choose wisely and choose the one that can make her happy. There is never a right or wrong decision. Everything depends on an individual perception towards happiness.
• India
30 May 09
The best thing in this modern era is to treat her husband a good lesson for cheating his wife. And wife shouldnt feel she cheated husband. She has already taught him a lesson. Only thing is she should now openly tell it to her husband!