why is it that i find it very hard to say to say sorry?????

Hello my friend riyasam Ji, For me too, it may look little difficult, but for my hubby, it is like a cake to eat. He is always fond of saying 'Sorry'. He says saying 'sorry' ciost nothing, whereas pays dividend. So waht is the harm. But one has to have greater heart, has to compromise with one's own egoism. Once that is over-powered, one becomes selfless, pure in thought word and deed. So there is nothing wrong, if one feels sorry. Practice now. It is not late. Now there are sorry cards, you may like to use them. Please get in touch with following link: http://www.santabanta.com/g/category.asp?catid=111 May god bless You and have a great time.

I do not mind saying 'sorry', if I have committed any mistake(s). I think there is no harm in admitting because mistakes do happen and one cannot escape it. My better half does not easily admits her mistakes and instead go for arguments to prove that she was 'right'. I think 'entering into arguments' does not lead us anywhere.

I have learned not to say sorry when there is nothing to be sorry about. I used to apologize really quick to keep people happy, and therefor not keep my own boundariess and trueth in mind. I am happy I now know how to do this better. I a forgiving and I allways try to be considerate of other peoples feelings and talk problems through, but if nothing works and I am sure I have done everything in my power but that I have good reasons for my opinion or behaviour, I won't apologize.

my mother could never say she was sorry no matter how ugly she acted. i know u can do better than that. u are too nice to act that way.

Well,in my own opinion, saying sorry to your boss is easier because it is work related. Maybe you made mistake in doing your work or you are late or whatever related things to work but when it comes to family members, it is hard because it pertains to hurts and feelings. Usually, our family members abused our kindness, they don;t respect us which is very hurting. That is why we felt hard on that. I know what you mean and I encountered some. But if we will swallow our pride and learn to forget and forgive? it would be easier to say sorry.

hey family is more important then boss...family should be periority, they grew us..an d expect a lot from us...in front of family just leave ur ego, becoz they r urs only..so, never feel bad to say sorry even 100's of time to ur family...got it dear...

Not really.....I found out a long time ago that when you say your sorry and admit you are wrong that people respect you a whole lot more!!! It is sometimes harder then others....but for the most part I usually just get it over with and admit my mistake.

hi yeah it is same with me here-even i do find it difficult to say sorry and that too includes my boss-i think it is an ego problem with me-let me b forthright abt it.but there have been times i have said sorry to my gurl-and that has been mostly after i have made her cry. but then this one small word did go a long way in consoling her-sometimes in some situations, this word certainly has the potency to stop things frm going frm good to worse.

Hi Riya, No, it is not difficult for me to ask a sorry but I should realize my mistake. If I am wrong I won’t mind to ask an apology. In the other case, if I think that mistake is not with me then it is very difficult for me to go down. Sorry is a simple word to use but I respect the word and only use for the right time and right place. I agree with you Riya, if you feel you are not wrong, and then why you ask a sorry, I know that is the reason, feeling difficulty to ask an apology.

Not yet my friend. Whenever I know I'm at fault, it's just easy for me to say sorry and make amends to the wrong doings I've done--to make up for the things I missed. It's truly a wonderful feeling afterward asking forgiveness and be forgiven..You can do it!

I have this problem too when I was younger. I just felt very hard to say I am wrong and that I am sorry for the mistakes that I did eventho it was clearly obvious that I did make the mistake. I think this is part of growing up. i think it is better that we get over this quickly. Some adults have this problem too and usually they face a lot of problem for this.

Hi riya! I don't find it difficult to say sorry when I know I made a mistakes or I say something that I don't really mean to, although there are times that I will try to justify myself, but I think this is a part of a human nature.

I'm the same way. I also have trouble saying thank you to family. I don't know what it is that makes people this way.

i never have been afraid to say i am sorry for something i have said or something i did.My kids would never say i am sorry when they had done something when they were growing up.i think they thought they were right any way or i guess they weren't sorry.

SORRY was never the hardest word for me. Being a very 'well behaved' child I was always prompt with SORRYs and THANK YOUs. Now, as a grown up, i find it even more easier for that gives me an undefined strength to live. I find myself apologising even when I am not guilty. But sometimes we just make things easier for one and all by losing. We do not have to win always to really win. You can lose and still be the winner. Thanks.

Oh it is hard to say I'm sorry to family because then they will come out with "I told you so!" or you think they will, even if they do not intend to. That makes it difficult. It is not that I know whether I am in the wrong or I am in the right, it is the rebuff that I would get. With someone you do not know, you do not get the insults that your family may give you so it is easier that way.

I totally agree, especially if it's one of those times that you must say I'm sorry to your children! That is the hardest thing for me is to go to one of my kids and say "Mommy messed up, can you ever forgive me?" Gratefully, I have taught my children the value of forgiveness and saying I'm sorry. They are so great about saying "It's ok"

Difficult,isn't it, to say we are sorry, especially we have done wrong and stubbornly refusing to say it to a family member. I always remain tight-lip when I have done wrong towards a family and the word sorry refuses to come out of my mouth. I keep thinking about the varying degrees of recalcitrance when it comes to this and wonder why it should be. All it really requires is a little honesty to admit we are wrong together with a little humility to submerge our pride, and then say it with meaning.

Hi, riyasam! Because you hate to feel guilty for doing something wrong. You feel that by apologizing you will feel like the bad guy. You don't want to be looked at as a person that has done wrong. It is all about feeling guilty and looking bad..

The problem here is pride. You do not feel that your place within the family is secure enough for you to make a mistake. Once you get over this you will find that I'm sorry is one of the easiest ways to patch up a relationship. But beware using this if you don't mean it, people can tell. You can be sorry because you caused someone to be upset, even if you are right. Blessings