Saudi judge says slapping wife for overspending is ok!! IT'S REALLY OK?
By icesmile
@icesmile (7160)
Romania
May 12, 2009 12:54pm CST
”If a person gives 1,200 riyals ($423.50) to his wife and she spends 900 riyals ($317.65) to purchase an abaya from a brand shop, and if her husband slaps her on the face as a reaction to her action, she deserves that punishment,” he said.
This is a news i watch to TV today. After was a debating about domestic violence.
I was really shoEked, i can t believe that a judge can say that to slapping your wife is perfect legal.
I don t want to talk about religion, is not my intention.
I respect all who respect me.
But i have something to say as woman, and i can t accept that in 21th century a man can beat his woman and a judge can say.."IT;S OK IS HIS RIGHT!!"
Who give you right to punish a human bean? who are you? and who is she?
DO YOU THINK THAT IS WOMAN THOUGHT THAT ACCEPT THIS TREATMENT?
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14 responses
@jayrene (2708)
• Philippines
12 May 09
i dont know if slapping can be considered as beating... really... i mean slap? if the husband have slapped the wife many times then probably it could be called a beating. but if one slap only i think its not called beating. i dont know, this is just my opinion. now im against women getting beaten whatever they have done, but i still dont consider slapping (once) a beating.
anyway, probably the husband got shocked, come to think of it, there's a global financial crisis going on and you will buy something like that at that price? i know how important your dress code is to your country, but there's probably some cheaper abaya than that. she could've used the money for something more important, i think it's what the husband was thinking that's why he slapped her wife, it's hard earned money probably that's why the husband reacted like that.
if i do the same thing like that, i'd probably be slapped too... lol...
kidding aside...
some countries some strange laws... really... i saw one in email, with the child's hand being put under the wheel of a car to crushed it because he was caught stealing... so, like in your country too, the judge saying slapping your wife is legal. but there's got to be a limit to this, because some husbands may just make use of it and just slaps their wife for simple reasons or no valid reason at all. now if that happens, then that's the one i am against at.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
12 May 09
than what you consider slapping? What is? Is a nice gesture? or a kiss? or what?
Who will slapping, tomorrow will beating, who will beating, tomorrow can killing....i am right? so...you can accept just one time? What happened one time, will happened second time too...and all time.
Is my opinion. maybe i wrong.
I am from Romania, and here even you slap your kid, he can ask help from social services.If you are parent. I don t say that here man don t beat the woman or kids...but...depend if woman accept or not.
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@jayrene (2708)
• Philippines
12 May 09
well im not saying that slapping incident was a nice gesture. what i meant was it was the reaction of the husband for what his wife did...
let's put it this way, you are the husband... and you have this hard earned money, you worked really hard for it all day... and it's the payment of your hard work, for many days... and then you give this money to your wife, let's say, it's the budget for the family. and your wife out of the blue decided to buy that designer clothing that she was really eyeing on, it would really look good on her, then she spent most of what the husband's (you) earning for the clothes, instead of spending it for more important things... what are you gonna do? kiss her and praise her for what she did?
we are discussing about the slapping incident on a particular issue only, and it's on this one. and from what i understood to the post, she got slapped just once.
i am siding with the husband really on this one. although i am not into the idea of beating women. i fight back if i get hit. but if i was hit for my wrong doing, then should i fight back? for me it was really stupid of the wife to spend that much money on a piece of cloth when she could have spent it on something far more important for the whole family.
i am from philippines... disciplining kids here is very different from other countries, we can spank our kids here if they do something really bad... but we dont beat them...
see there is a difference between doing what is wrong and getting punished for it, than just beating a person for nothing.
@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
16 May 09
I'm from the Philippins too, and I think we should stop spanking kids. Many adults here even do it if they just get annoyed at kids. There are other ways of punishing children that are more humane.
@littleme16ga (360)
• United States
12 May 09
I don't care where you come from or who you think you are that does not give you an excuse to beat on a woman. That judge is out of his mind. I still can't believe this goes on today. I don't care what your religion, color, or shade there is no excuse to putting your hands on another human being unless previously provoked. An altercation like that has not right to persist in our society. The gaul that judge has is out of this world. He has the nerve to make such a ruling. I think women in countries like that should come to the united states and see the way we are treated over here. I'm from the south and we have a different way of thinking. Men treat women with respect and if they ever lay their hands on someone they are dealt with by the law. OOOO I want so bad to slap the husband for even thinking about hitting his wife.
@littleme16ga (360)
• United States
12 May 09
We all know the answer to that one. Make him a woman and take his dignity away. Easy solution if you ask me.
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@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
12 May 09
In some countries, slapping or beating one's wife is allowed under law, but I've had that happen to me and it is never okay to beat anyone for such petty reasons. There comes with it so much emotional damage.
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@littleme16ga (360)
• United States
12 May 09
I'm sorry you had to go through that in your life time. And I'm glad you were strong enough to move on.
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@anniefannie (1737)
• United States
12 May 09
that happens here too,but if the woman was to hit him back they could arrest her to. it is something bad wrong with our laws and i guess if we sit here and complain about it and not complain to the right people it will continue.Men don't have any respect for women are the ones that beat up their wifes and girl friends.Not one woman should be treated this way, don't matter what she has done.
@FluffyDoomKitten (150)
• United States
13 May 09
Well, I'm not for or against this one. The judge could possibly be in the wrong, or it just doesn't matter that much. Technically, the wife was in the wrong, and it's a different culture over there. Like most countries, man is quite dominant over women. Besides, how would the wife feel if she worked all day, and her husband went and pulled the same thing.
I'm sure the man would recieve the same thing; A slap in the face. I've seen this before, many times. It really doesn't matter. Women are no better than man in this situation. It's not sexist.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
13 May 09
Well I guess in their culture it might be. I am quite disappointed by that actuation that women are less treated the way men are in their culture. I hope they would change their treatment of women at that. It may be that spending spree of the woman may be over rated but then he should not slapped the woman because of that.
@anonymili (3138)
•
13 May 09
Judge sounds like he needs a slap himself. What a moronic thing to say for someone in a position of authority in a culture which gets so much bad press as it is already! When I hear nonsense like this, it reminds me why I make a point of not visiting countries where men think they are better than women... If I spend £10 or £1000 on an item my husband has no right to slap me or even have an issue with it as I work for my own money and even if I didn't, if my husband had an issue with me spending money, he shouldn't let me have access to it!
@us2owls (1681)
• United States
13 May 09
Wonder what this judge woul think if another judge said it OK to slap him in the mouth for his idiotic statement. We have to consider that in countries like Saudi Arabia women are the underdogs and men rule the househhold. It's disgusting in my opinion.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
13 May 09
what the h*ll! no it is not ok, NEVER ok to slap anyone! anywhere in anytime!! plus why would you slap her? money will just be recovered! tsk tsk..what kind of a husband is he? in this time, no one slaps anyone for such petty reason!
@redhotpogo (4401)
• United States
12 May 09
Depends on your beliefs and where you're from. Maybe to Muslims in Saudi That kind of abuse is tolerated. At one time it was here in America, but that has long past. Some places are just quite far behind in their thinking. I don't think the woman has any choice, and probably not many rights. Nothing we can do about it. They've got to start learning to stand up for themselves.
@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
13 May 09
Well, what else would you expect? It's Saudi. In this country, women are discriminated. In fact, if you would look at other countries who are also treating women like this, you would see a common denominator, but I won't say outright what it is. I think it would be better if people would just find out for themselves. Not that I don't want women to be liberated but because this is mylot and I can't really say what I want to say as I know it would be very, very offensive.
@queenroro (37)
• United Arab Emirates
12 May 09
I live in a similar country ( uae ) for the past 5 years and yes its true . The man has more rights then the womens , but when it comes to beating or slapping the women can open a case and he can go in jail for it. I know about saudi arabia that is the only country where such thing its accepted. The woman doesnt have any right at all in there, not even to drive a car. Unfortunetly they cant do anything about it even though many women tried to fight for it. Girks are been murdered in saudia arabia only for looking at a mens eyes other then her husbent, father or brother. Its sad but this are the rules and seems like nobody can change it :(
@squeezeme (135)
• Italy
12 May 09
Is ever ok slapping someone else in the face? I don't think so.
A slap is a deep sign of disrespect. It is not really meant to hurt a lot, as usually a punch causes more pain, but it is meant to offend and humiliate the one who received it. It's an act of intolerable physical and psychological violence that I don't think anyone could legitimate in any way, doesn't matter if saudi, american, chinese.
Plus, this situation happened in a familiar environment. That makes things even worse because domestic violence and abuse is one of the most spread and unconfessed crime in the world. Now think of this woman that is brave enough to report the violence to a judge; this is an act of reaction itself that puts her in a potentially dangerous situation. The judge says: no, it's ok. The woman is humiliated again and the man who beat her once now has a new reason to do it again.
I think that is really dangerous and irresponsible to let this crimes just flow unpunished. Legitimating them, well that is unacceptable.
