How do you get out a fight from your girlfriend?
By clorissa123
@clorissa123 (4926)
United States
May 12, 2009 8:38pm CST
Today, I felt a little bit sick probably I caught a cold yesterday. And I also had a fight with my girlfriend over some trivial matter which I don't want to have this conversation. She just keep on nagging. I just felt so ache over my head. How do you get out a fight from your girlfriend when you don't want to fight anymore?
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6 responses
@swanniesbaby (309)
• Philippines
13 May 09
The best thing do do specially on a fight is to stop and listen first. You would be surprise that sometimes your partner has a point. talking over him/her does not resolve anything unless one would stop and listen.
Also about nagging. a person, men or women. nags because they are waiting for a result. they might seem nagging but ask yourself, did you listen to what she's/he's saying and act on it to stop the nagging?? listening ang acting are partners to resolve petty fights.. It would also give you more opportunity to learn more about your partner
@swanniesbaby (309)
• Philippines
13 May 09
Well agreeing could really stop the fight but it will not prevent it from happening again
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
13 May 09
I feel you there, clorissa. If you want to get out of a fight peacefully, it's best to just keep quiet. Just don't respond and don't retaliate. Give out the indication that are not in for a fight and give out a non expressive body language and facial expression. I hate fights as well and it is always a bummer especially when someone keeps nagging at you when all you want is just some peace and quiet.
@theweerouss (982)
• United States
13 May 09
Strange coincidence, I had the exact same issue with my boyfriend today. I have been feeling under the weather the last 2 days and fighting a full blown sickness, and today I ended up in a fight with my boyfriend over pretty much nothing. As soon as it started, I wanted it to end, but it took about a half hour before I finally just said, hey, I have to go, I have errands to run and the store's going to close. This got me off of the phone for long enough to run the errands I had to, and to calm down before calling back and apologizing. I find that sometimes the best thing to do is get out of the situation before really saying things I don't mean.
@larish (2213)
• Philippines
14 May 09
Just don't answer back. Women in general expresses themselves in talking. They basically talk a lot and the more you answer back the more they talk :) Just keep quiet until she get tired. If things are already calm, that's the time to talk with her. Discuss what really happens, explain your side and from there you decide on what to do to avoid such situation.
