what's your plans for your parents when they get that old?
By flagella08
@flagella08 (5065)
Philippines
May 12, 2009 11:06pm CST
in some areas old folks are left in some nursing homes which are miles away from the real family. Having old folks at home makes every child's life at large especially when they got their own immediate family too and also knowing the fact that oldies are hard to mingle with because of mood swings, irritability or worst, have illnesses. Lets face it, some of children don't care. They are waiting for the old folks to pass on and leave things to them. They don't and wont take care of them anymore. Before they're 6 feet down, they have their houses sold and have all the things gone too. Thank God not all children are like that but it happens a lot. In our case, i have 4 siblings. i just don't know who will really stick to my parents til the end.that will be the time to say who's really will be there for them and actually care, in the real sense of the word. for me, i'd like to have them in my own home and have two people who will look after them when i'm out for work. but when i get home, i'll make it sure that i'm hands-on with them in terms of attending to their needs. how about you?
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@BishounenNerd (373)
• United States
13 May 09
Well, my father is already older, so I don't think I have to worry too much about him. I think my mom would be able to look after him. But when when she gets old, that's when I start to worry... I think I would have to tend to her. One thing I know for certain is that I don't trust old folks homes. I've heard stories from a friend of our family, and apparently they don't give them a whole lot of freedom. Plus I think all these jokes you see on the Simpsons about old people being over-medicated by these places might have it's roots in reality.
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@flagella08 (5065)
• Philippines
13 May 09
oh that's something scary. one gets to pay the whole amount for the service then the return isn't good.
@juanypablo (126)
• United States
13 May 09
I would really never want to have my parents go into a nursing home. there are too many incidents of mistreatment and abuse of older people. I would do whatever it takes to have some personal care for them or take care of them myself. They spent there whole lives taking care of me, why would I ever just put them aside in a nursing home sell there belongings and let them live the rest of their lives alone and away from there family.
@SantiagoSky (29)
• United States
13 May 09
Well I must say that I am starting to contemplate this more and more now that I have turned 18 and my mother who has taken care of me all of this time expects me to stop my dreams and goals in life and take care of her now that I'm 18. Hmmm its difficult to say but I want to experience life right now, not start taking care of someone else so soon. I just turned 18 and she is not exactly a grandma either. She is only 47 and she acts as if she is 80 lol. I will take care of her when the time comes, but for right now I want to travel, get a degree maybe, take my shot at american idol and so forth. I would never ever put her in a nursing home though, I may be a bit impatient with her now, but when I get older I will cherish the moments and days I get to spend with her. No nursing homes for her.
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@megalia (60)
• Indonesia
13 May 09
Hm.. Actually I don't have to worry about my parent yet.. Because they still young. and even my father is older then my mom, but my mom still can look after him and if my mom already getting old, than it's my turn to take care of her. And I don't believe on old folk homes because i ever heard from my friend that they will not treated our parent well and many other bad things. So, I will just take care of my mom and I will hire a maid to help me to take care for my mom when I have to go to work.
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@moujha (86)
• Mauritius
13 May 09
Well, i want to keep my parents happy forever, make their last days on earth most memorable. My dad is already old and my mum also. My dad has a dream that i will buy a very big house for me and he will come live with me together with mum. I want to make dad dream's come true because my parents are the best parents in the world like every child would say for their parents.
@tracy_d (76)
• India
13 May 09
Well, we need to realise that one day even we would grow old. Would we then like it if our children asked us to stay away from them or put us into an old age home? By doing this to our parents, we would influence our children to do the same to us. We have got to realise that our parents have sacrificed a lot for us and provided us with the best of facilities that we could ask for. We couldnt be so ungrateful to them. The least we could do for them is take care of them whn they need us the most!
