Young Parents

I was 20 when I had my son, and I was not too young. My son is now 7 and he is halfway normal lol. It depends on the person, not the age. I know 16 year olds more mature than some 40 year olds.

you know what? i had my first child when i was also 19 years old and was i knowledgeable about mothering? no i did not know a thing! not even doing the laundy much worse changing diapers it was so frustrating but then i got used to it and immediately matured and i told myself i will be the best mother for my kid and i know i am. we can never really tell what age is suited because every person has a different maturity period and it is up to you when or how.

I don’t think so…though I must say that motherhood should be more welcome after finishing college and education. But if we do finish having children within the age of 20 to 25 yrs, it’s a great advantage later on in life. To each his own but it is definitely better if the family is all grown up and independent while the parents are just 50 so that the parents still have a lot of years left for themselves…you know, they are physically strong, still working and earning and they have sacrificed a lot of their youth to raise the family and now they can enjoy themselves together with no such responsibilities.

just my own idea it is good to marry at mature age. why? marrying is a a complicated life , and full of obligation and duties that afraid if the young can handle it . might be they are too young to take care of young and respond as parents especially if both parties dont have stable job. how can they respond to the needs of their babies if that happened, no all the time that we lean on w/ our in laws. time also come that they will get bored to us. so its better to marry thae exact age with stable job than early with out job if possible.

I am 21 and pregnant with my first child. I wanted a child for as long as I can remember. I know people say that being a mom at a young age is hard and some even say it is wrong. I think that if you are emotionally, financially, and physically ready to have a child then there is nothing wrong with that. I am not married, engaged for over a year, but not married. I think that people that are married before they have children is a better environment for the child, but I have no room to talk about that. I just think that if you are married or settled down, the child will have more of a family style life. If you are just getting pregnant by some random person that you have no intention on staying with then it isn't fare to the kid. Don't get me wrong, single parent families have wonderful lives, and do fine in life. But I think a baby should be made because of love, passion, and because they were planned. When I got pregnant, I didn't expect it. I didn't do anything to prevent it, We wanted a child. But we gave up, thinking it wasn't going to happen. We started thinking about adoption, when we were both finished school. Then when I found out that my little one was starting to grow inside of me. I think I had the mother instinct right away, I changed my lifestyle over night. I am the happiest person in the world. So to wrap this all up. If you are ready to have a child, not just because your friend had one or because it is the "cool" thing to do, then I say. Happy baby making!!! But think about how it will change EVERYTHING in your life first. Really think about it, it is a LIFE not a toy, when you have difficult times with the baby, you can not just pass it to someone else or leave it. It will be your baby. You have to devote 18 or more years of constant care and the parenting job never ends. Even when you are 40 you will still want your mommy at time. It is something to think about before you decide.

I think that each person should decide what is right for them. There are some people that can not handle being mothers at such a young age and others do very well. I was 18 years old when I had my first child. And everything just came so natural to me. I immediatley grew up and matured a lot and my life was all about my son.

I don't think that age really matters that much, it more depends on the person. I am not saying that I think it is ok for a 13, or even 16 year old to raise a baby, but if a person is 19 or 20 and mature enough to raise a baby that is totally different. I have seen many mothers that are older and do a worse job raising their children than some of the young mom's. I had my daughter a 2 weeks before I turned 19 and I am managing fine. My daughter was unplanned and when I found out I was having a baby I wasn't sure I was ready. Honestly I don't really feel like I missed out on much in life , if anything my kids have made it better. I am thankful everyday for both of my kids. I don't think age can tell you when you are ready to be a mom, I think that you are ready when you are ready to put someone else before yourself 100% of the time. My kids come first to me and always have.

I don't think anyone else should be able to tell you when to have your children. Its when its right for you - not them. I had my child at 36 which many would say is wrong. For me it is just right - I wasn't ready at your age - I had a lot of adventuring to do, too much of the world to see.

There is no right age for everyone. Each person is different. Some people are ready when they are 20, many are not. People see one or even a few people who had children too young and then generalize that no one is ready at that age. My sister started having children at 20. She was ready. She is a great mom. I did not have any children until I was 30. I was not ready when I was 20, or even 25. Everyone is different and it is not fair to say who is ready and who isn't. Each person needs to make that decision for themselves. What I have learned to do is ignore the comments of people whose opinions don't matter- like strangers who stick their noses in where they don't belong.

I think it truly comes back to the mother and her maturity. I don't believe we should base mothering skills off of a number, but more so a level of if they can take care of another life. It has already been said on here that teens and young adults can barely take care of themselves today so how do we as a society expect them to take care of another child? It was normal for younger women/children to have older male's children. It's our history, so yes I think it can be done but it goes back to maturity... My opinion is that if you can provide for yourself plus some then I would say you will be just fine. But if you can't get by on your own or rely on your parents to take care of you then you should wait. I'm 24 and had my daughter last year. Becoming a mother has been a blessing but a also a challenge. Best of wishes in your journey of motherhood!

yes,I am not sure wether I have prepared to be a mother when I am 19 or 20. I think if I marry someone and be a mother,something must be different and I must care and be responsible for my child. Also,I need much money to raise my child.There are many problems.So I think maybe it is not proper to have a child when we are too young.

Actually age actually don't matter when it comes with having a baby..so who cares if you had a baby at a young age?the thing that matters here is if you can stand up for your baby and if you can actually give your child a good life..my point is a person should be financially stable to give her child every necessity the baby needs..I mean ofcourse,everybody doesn't want their child to have a difficult life right?

Hello, I got married at 19 and we thought it was too early to have kids so we waited about 10 years before our fist daughter. We wanted to evolved as a couple before entering that type of responsability. I personality think that 19 or 20 is still to early. Wait until you are atleast 25

I think that it is different for everyone. Some people have a lot growing up to do at that age and some don't. I had my son at 19 and I am very happy to have had him that young. I like that knowing that when I am 40 I will be done raising kids.

Hi there Syndarin..how are you today? For me becoming a mother at a young age is not a bad thing, what makes it bad is that some mothers or parents are not that responsible enough handling their children.. I became a mother at the age of 25, and yes, its very difficult to become a parent..what's alarming this moment that there are very young mother's about 13years old and they dont really dont know what are their responsibilities being a parent..i think it's better to become more adult, have stable job enough to raise a child and be more responsible being a parent.. happy mylotting

I was 20 when my first son was born, my husband was 22. I do not think that was too young. BUT, times were very different then, 20 was mature. That was 40 years ago. Take a look atthe genreation today, thye are barelycapable of taking care of themselves, no less a baby.

quite interesting . but yes it is about responsibility of upbringing a new life. they say a girl of twenty odd is better learned than a lass of less than twenty!! the yester years have gone.today in this competitive world one needs to have enough resources for the upbringing of a family and to cater to their needs!! happy mylotting.!!

I really think that this is going to vary by person and country. Would I want my daughter to become a mom at that age, well to be honest no. There is so much of live ahead of you at that age and being tied down to a child is going to limit you on what you can do, places you can go and your experiences in life. I can not say that you made a bad decision as you have to know what is right for you and your life. I am sure there will be times that you think you should have waited, while there are times in my life that I wish I could have had mine sooner. Good luck and enjoy the journey you are on, do not worry about what Jane would do, do what works for you and what is right for your life. There is no wrong in this, it is what works for you.