boredom
By pree70
@pree70 (525)
India
May 13, 2009 4:44am CST
i am just totally bored in life. everyday seems to be the same and all my chores are done very mechanically. i know that happiness and contentment comes very much from within myself, but i am not able to focus properly. all i keep thinking is how lonely i am in life. my friends circle is totally non-existent and i live with my parents and 13 year old son. i am seperated from my husband for the past ten years.
till sometime back, i used to feel great about my independance. but these days i have this very lonely feeling where nothing ever appeals to my senses.
i am afraid that i may get into depression if things go unchecked. what can i do???
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10 responses
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
13 May 09
I'm sure in one part of our life or more, there will be issues such as this. If you don't mind joining support groups in your area, perhaps you can join. It can tend to curb some boredom off. You don't need friends to be happy in life. Yes, friends are vital but if you don't have one, it doesn't mean you will be bored until the rest of your life. How about activities. Perhaps you can engage in some and bring your son along. Sometimes I do feel like you too, but I just bear in mind that the mundane stuff that we do everyday sort of made us burnt out. If you have saved up for a holiday, you can also bring your parents and son. You never know when you will be in for life surprises. Be positive and stay happy. Take care, friend.
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@pree70 (525)
• India
13 May 09
yes. i get what you mean. i guess i am on the verge of being burnt out. anyway, since i have identified my problem, i guess i should be taking some positive steps towards overcoming my state of mind. thank you for the response. it feels good unburdening oneself through mylot.
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
13 May 09
Don't worry your not alone. Me also I felt very bored with my life already. I hate the things that I'm doing. I hate the life that I have now. I'm living for the benefits of others or simply I just doing this things because I wanted to help my family. If ever I'll make my choice, I want to live near to the people who makes me happy which are my family, friends and my boyfriend. I don't know if until when I'll be living this kind of life, I don't know when is the right time to follow that things that I want to happen in my life. I want to be free with this boring life that I have but thinking of becoming free it only means that I might not be able to help my family and not making them happy. Well, I just hope that the day that I'm waiting for is very soon so that I can change my life to the way I want.
@vanadis (11)
• Sweden
13 May 09
Wow commanderxo you beet me to it :-)
Just wanted to add, that to do something new each day, do a different make-up, hop on one leg, say hi to a stranger, eat veggie food if your not vegetarian, how small it may seem, is also a way of getting back to life.
I use this when i feel i'm on the way down. Mostly it helps to turn the downwards spiral
I always do things that i know i like when i have my depression periods because i know it fills my soul even if i don't notice it on the outside so to speak.
@commanderxo (1494)
• Canada
13 May 09
The true definition of boredom...is when everything else is happening, and you're not. Here's a little exercise you might want to try.
Sit down and think of how many things you HAVEN'T done in your life? (within reason.)
Write down a list of these.
Now, choose ONE of those on your list that you'd like to do, and DO IT.
Once completed, then pick another one, and do that one.
Remember always, to FINISH what you chose to do.
Keep going until your entire list has been fulfilled.
The tasks or items that you write down do not have to be difficult, or even have cost you any money, but must be something that you've never done before.
For example: if you've never skipped a rope, or ever played hopscotch, then you would learn how to. Understand? Good.
Now at the same time, keep 2 imaginary books in your head. A gold one and a brown one. When you recognize that you've done something well, give yourself a gold star in the gold book. If you recognize that you haven't done well, give yourself a brown star in the brown book...BUT ALSO, give yourself a gold star at the same time for recognizing the brown. Soon your book of gold stars will begin to add up, and when they do...CASH THEM IN, and congratulate yourself with a reward.
Above all, even if you're not good at what you've chosen to do, does not matter.
What matters is that you're DOING something, rather than nothing at all.
One more thing...keep saying this statement to yourself often, while performing any of those tasks; "I ACT because, INACTION is decay.
Soon your boredom will simply faded away.
Good luck.
cdrxo
@commanderxo (1494)
• Canada
14 May 09
Well thank you both for those kind words.
I have taught this lesson for many years now, and I have yet to hear any one of my students say that it didn't work for them.
Another lesson, which is the second half to the above lesson, is what I call "Solving a 5". This involves a simple way to solve some of life's most difficult problems, when one cannot seem to find any answer. Here's how it goes, and what to note:
#1: a REAL problem ONLY exists when we have...
#2: a DESIRE to solve it. So how do we usually do that? We...
#3: CREATE ENERGY in order to solve the DESIRE (#2), and then...
#4: CHOOSE the correct time, space, circumstances, etc. to solve the problem.
This IS how our brain actually perceives problems, and in doing so, "pushes" us through these four steps. When we are confused and find that the above formula just doesn't seem to be working for us, we CAN ultimately "shift our consciousness" into seeking our answers from another direction. Here's how...
#5: We CREATE a problem within the initial problem, that we CAN solve. We can give it a "label" (or several if need be) and leave the initial for the moment. What happens by doing this is, our brain, in NOT determining the difference, will ACCEPT and INTERPRET this "new" problem to BE THE INITIAL, and eventually on it's own, will work it's way backwards toward the beginning, and in doing so, WILL ultimately solve the once thought of, "initial" problem.
So, when we have a problem that we cannot solve? Simply, "Solve a 5", instead, and the answer will seem to come to you from, "out of the blue".
Cheers;
cdrxo
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
13 May 09
I'm also get bored with my life I want to try something different and experience new adventure. Sometimes I feel depressed because my friends is not around and I can't contact them anymore. My routine always the same I think I need to change my life now. I'm feel the abandonement of my friends and by my family. Although I live with my parents I don't know if they really care about me.
@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
13 May 09
move on to your life, think what makes you happy
then do it to erase the boredness in your life.
read a bible so that you can realize evrything
what you are going to, talk with your close friends
or else chat w/ someone maybe you will interested
later on to marry again to have a complete family soon.
@malsun (1528)
• United States
14 May 09
I think its just a phase. We all go through it once in a while. I am with my family - my wife, my child, i am working, and yet I sometime feel as if the depression will eat me. But then I look at my child, I dust it off of me and a little prayer to God for what I have brings me back. It may take days though. Read if you have a habit of reading. Read positive books. Get involved in something. Find some activity you always wanted to do but never got round to doing it. Make new friends. Call up old friends. Sometimes a phone call is all it takes to make the non-existent friends know you still remember them. I hope you feel better soon.
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
14 May 09
Does watching tv,cd or anything interest you.
You can read books if you want. You can even
start gardening if you had spare garden. Plants
are great stress reliever. You can go to public
park or do some hiking. If you think hard enough
there are so many things to do to chase away the
boredom.
@mymaria (379)
• Philippines
14 May 09
oh how bad i read your situation today. hi friend!, all i can say is to look a job that makes you happy and contented as of now. yeah, your getting into depression if your not making any step that makes you away from it.
I encounter that situation in my mother, my mother really depress that time when my father leave us. she cannot accept that all those things happened to us. now, my mother is the type of a woman that any problem faced would take it seriously. she cannot find a way to make her relax and rest.
I would prefer say, that went to church to pray and ask God to help you. after that, think a one thing experience to make you happy, like:bonding with your friends and relatives.
have a nice day ahead!
@sblossom (2168)
•
13 May 09
I feel sorry to read it.
I don't think you have depression but as you said you just feel bored.
How about to go travel outside your home or abroad for a few days? I suppose it will help you well.
Or go to gym doing excersize. It also helps.
Or just simply to change your hair style or go shopping some special thing for yourself.
