Rift between friends for not attending a party

This is a total sticky situation. If I were you, I'd be a bit guilty. That is her big day and she was really wanting you to be a part of it all. You must have meant so much to her for her to be so upset. I think her rejecting calls and all that could be understood but not for long. Now is the time for you to hibernate and wait. If you really mean that much to her, she would make that leap and call you back. Or you can text her saying whenever she has cooled down, to look for you to talk. And then you just don't get back to hr anymore. Don't text or call her unless she does so. And friends that can wither the rain and sunshine is a strong and good friend. Now it's time for you to see whether she still appreciates you. It is not your fault, but technically it is from her point of view. So let's see whether she uses this as a major reason to 'leave you', if you get what I mean. Time is your essence. Wait on and good luck my friend.

Well look first of its not your fault you couldn't attend it and surely it meant more to here for you going to the ceremony then the reception. I mean im sure you explained to her why you couldn't go, and you have tried to call her. If i was you i wouldn't feel guilty she should as your making the effort to call and she is cutting you off. She is the one saying she doesnt want to know not you and i think she is being rather childish and i would leave her to it stop contacting her let her get in touch with you. Dont plead for her forgivness i think she should for being so childish. If she is old enough to get married she should be more mature than this and if she is acting like this to a friend she has known for ages i wouldnt be surprised of her marriage crumbles justy like this friendship.

Well weddings (this includes the actual reception of course) is very important to people and they want the people they care a lot about to be there with them. This may be the reason your friend is being stubborn about this seemingly minor rift. She probably really wanted you to be there with her because she would never get those moments back. I suggest you try to apologize to her a little bit longer. If she still feels there is nothing more to talk about, then she may not be the friend you thought she was. Whatever your reasons are for not being there, I hope it doesn't end up destroying your friendship. Good luck and I wish you luck!

If you have tried over and over again to contact her and she's not responding, then forget it. She's not worth it, and here's why: a more mature person and a better friend would have already forgiven you. Furthermore, she should have been happy that you made it to her wedding! The world doesn't revolve around her. One of my best friends found out the week before my wedding that she had made an error in purchasing her plane ticket and it didn't go through. Ticket prices were astronomical by the time she realized she didn't have a ticket, and she called me crying, begging for me not to hate her. I was very disappointed, but I didn't even get mad at her. That too, was a legitimate excuse, and dispite the fact that both my mother and my soon-to-be-husband immediately said that they thought she had never intended to come, I gave her the benefit of the doubt, and we are still very good friends. In fact, I am going to her bachelorette party/wedding/reception this year!! Friends come and go throughout life. Sometimes instances occur to make you realize that friends you have at that time may not be the type of friends you can continue a relationship with. That is just the way it is. It might hurt and be a very sad situation for a while, but you can always make new friends. Long story short, if she isn't willing to forgive you, and you had a legitimate reason to miss her reception, then write her off. She isn't worth feeling guilty over. She isn't the queen of England. She's just being selfish. Maybe one day, she'll get over it and realize what a brat she's being and let you back in to her life. But don't beat yourself up over this.

She's been waiting for that moment and your friend thought that you'll be there in every occasion especially that's a wedding day of her. And you weren't there to celebrate it along with their families and common friends of you both. Better see her or else you will make it worse. Just explain why..and hope she'll understand

as she is your best friend you should meet her personally so that you can explain your reason of not attending the party. i think she wanted the party should have been her memorable party. but you couldn't attend the party. my suggestion is "you should ask her to forgive you and you won't lose your dignity because she is your best friend".

I guess your friend is dissapointed that you did not make it to the reception, but then again you say you have legimate reasons not being able to go there. You did attend her marriage and if she is angry or sad she should either talk about it or forget about it. That might sound a bit harsh, but I don't see why she would be so upset about something like this. If you have known someone for this long it seems foolish to argue over something so little. Or not even argue at all as she disconnects your calls. Personally I have a huge dislike for people disconnecting phonecalls, I find it very immature and disrespectfull to do so; but that's my opinion. I'd say confront her in person and be done with it, even though that's hard.

Write her a letter....the old-fashioned kind. Explain to her the reason why you did not attend & how much your friendship means to you. Tell her how bad you feel for not attending her reception and ask her to forgive you. This will give her an explanation and time to cool down and it will put the ball in her court. Hope you two work things out. Friends are priceless.

I think that in time there will be reconciliation and understanding between you. If that does not happen then you should be happy if you explained everything to her and she does not accept your apologies. You've done your part and she should do hers. Cheers!!

Wow - I can kinda understand where your friend is coming from right now. I just got an email from my best friend and she isn't going to be able to make it to my bachelorette party. Long story short she isn't the only one and now I'm just kinda being left in the dust. It sucks. Then again - this isn't the first time she's disappointed me, so I'm getting quite use to it. If you don't mind me asking, what were your reasons for missing her reception? Maybe you could email her and explain? Or leave her a voicemail? Or something along those lines so that you can at least explain your side. If she still doesen't want to talk to you, then her loss.

I would suggest go confront your friend at some place you know she might be, talk it over with her, she'll definitely come back. Or consider going to her place with a big sorry card or a bunch of flowers if possible. True friendship is really priceless and wouldnt be much affected by trivial stuff. Tell her that shes making you feel very guilty despite you having valid reasons to skip her reception. If she really values your friendship, she would accept your apologies :)