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Hi! Dear! It is a very general or should I say generalized statement. Every man is not like this. The one who has got a strict and strong wife, will dare not see at the other women or girls.........for the fear of being caught............LOL! Your question has a very simple answer - "Opposites attracts each other". Men get attracted towards women and vice versa. However, such is our culture (I am talking about Indian culture) women cannot openly show their feelings for 'another' man, on the other hand, men do not feel afraid while talking about other women or seeing them. A wife feels bad if her husband tells her that the other woman is more beautiful. For a husband, his wife should be the most beautiful person on earth, because she looks after him very carefully. I would like to add that those wives who are not very broad minded will not allow their husbands to have a look at another women. Perhaps, in their hearts of heart, they just feel insecure.

It definitely does make a bad impression Apsara, not only on the wife but also any other onlooker[say if it is even an official meeting between colleagues and one person openly ogles at females this speaks poorly of him.].

It's just rude and disrespectful. My husband is pretty good about it in my presence. He does look but never lustfully or in any way that would degrade me or the women.

It used to bother me in the beginning when I caught my hubby looking at other women. Now it doesnt bother me as much. Its me he is married to, and me he is at home with in bed every night, and its me and the kids that hes devoted to, and tells me every day that he loves me... What more can I ask for?:-)

hi i know that it hurts-and what u say is applicable to most men-their roving eyes will alwayz be on look out for some other pretty attactive woman, even when they have their own wife/gurl friend sitting next to it.but for most men it is just 'time pass'-just an 'eye candy'-it does not mean that guy is totally besotted by that woman so much so that he is ever ready to drop his pants and jump into bed with her.there have been times when i have caught my gurl staring at some good looking men, whom she has evn complimented on my face-so u shud just take this in ur stride untill u find out that ur partner has been fully unfaithful to u.

for me, as long as my boyfriend / future husband is just STARING it is okey with me. but if he goes beyond that, it would be adifferent story all together. lets face it, they are just admiring and as long as they are your's and only your's nothing to fear or get upset about. i see that all men are like that. they will not be a man if they are not... wel, that only for me.

You're not making an issue out of this at all. I think that ever since Adam's rib was taken to make Eve, some men think that every woman owes them something.

I guess I'm very lucky that my man doesn't do such things like that. He has never drooled over another female or said anything about how great or how hot another woman looks in front of me. I mentioned it to him before how I'm glad he's not like that and he said " I know better to do anything like that to you, you would punch me if I did!"..lol.. I think if a guy is smart then he shouldn't say these types of things around his wife or girlfriend because if he values their relationship their is no such need to act like this not unless he's naturally a cruel jerk .I have broken up with guy's before because they made comments out loud to me about how great some other woman looks, I find it disrespectful & immature when a man does this to his woman. Your not making a issue out of it, your right, it is hurtful sometimes and when your guy does this to you , if he does this to you again, you should do it to him and give him a taste of his own medicine and say " Wow, look at that guy, he's sexy and hott!!".. See how it makes him feel seeing you drool over some strange random guy..

ive been married 8 years.this used to bother me but know i just make my own comments when he says something like wow she has a nice butt.i say yes she has junk in her trunk. i make jokes all the time so he doesnt seem to have interest after that.lol now if he was to be disrespectful like his friend is to his wife that would be different.but he doesnt do that.his friend will come right out and say i would love to '''' her to his wife.she has acually slapped his face for that.i would do the same.but men have wondering eye and as long as my husband doesnt disrepect me to the point his friend does im ok with it.its a natural thing with men, dont take it personally.im sure you have seen attractive men but dont say anything.i do exspectially if i am somewhere with my sister ill say' wow he is sexy.doesnt mean i would leave my husband.but i aggree i wish men where a bit more discreet about it.i know it hurts but try to remember hes going home with you tonight.now if he has cheated before or you are worried he will cheat.that is a different discussion all together. hope that helped:)

Hi Apsara, I am happy to see you around after a long time. How are you? Hope you are doing well. Let me ask one question to you dear. Do you think we can control this activity of men? No, if the wives are making an issue on the above subject then they will do the same but make sure that wife is not noticing. I think it is an inborn habit and they can’t change the same. I know there is possessiveness in between husband and wife and I support the same because it is essential for a strong married life (but the possessiveness should be upto a certain extent and won’t harm the relationship). I think most of the wives are not bothered much on this action (looking on other females) because they know that it won’t harm in any way and of course they well understand that they can’t change this attitude.

Hi Aps dear.......Good to have you back after a long time......And what a discussion.....There are some facts of life which we cannot change and which we have to accept...And one of them is that OPPOSITES ATTRACT...But in a true marriage I dont believe this will become a real issue.Very often the husbands tend to take his wife for granted and fail to express his love or appreciation of her love and devotion....This does not mean that he is unhappy with her or doesnt love her.It is only when the husband strays away from his wife and openly tries to oogle or make a pass at another's wife that things will get out of hand.....I believe if a woman understands her husband well,there is no need for her to get hurt if he doesnt oepenly express his love and devotion to her.The very fact that he does not stray or make passes at other women is ample sign of his devotion to her.There are many things unsaid in marriages dear.It is up to each wife to assess and act in a mature manner rather than spending all her life in self pity and unnecessary jealousy.In this case if the wife stops acting jealous and try to share jokes and comments with her husband,at other's wives,it will lighten up the situation and clear unneccessary misconceptions........After all this is what Nari sakthi is all about.....

I think this kind of men is a not have intelligent and feeling or emotion.They just think for their fun only.I would like to say and suggest how about if you say and do like what he do to you and see his reaction.I think he will feel sad and ashame too.

Men mean no harm for the most part... Hey when my husband says a girl is hot I just go back at him with a guy I think is hot... We actually made a deal once.. We have a celebrity "to do" list (yes it means exactly what you think) and we both said that if either of us ever got a chance at any of the people on them the other would say okay and let them go at it! It will never be any chance of it happening but when he started saying things like that and looking, mostly around his male friends, and I just turned the tables on him. He knows it bothers me but its a guy thing..... Now I just let it go... I know he is not gonna cheat and I know I look at guys... I am just a little bit less obvious about it... It is human nature to look and to have desires that doesnt mean the man or woman is gonna follow through... Its normal and it is healthy...

Well, man is born for woman and vice versa. Imagine a husband walking with wife on the streets and a hot sexy girl passes, don't you think the man will have a glance. But that doesn't mean they don't love their wife. I believe if all women dress up properly and walk, then the problem of husbands glancing at other woman would be solved. Because most of time, it is the physical beauty of a woman that attracts a man.

men? lol it is their nature to do so, i used to be bothered by my husband doing thatt, when a lady with a nice butt or nice face passing by he would comment like how pretty she is or how sexy she and how i got flabby..actually i got hut and still is hurting but i have been eventually moving on and keeping those out of my mind. plus men are men they will always do that because some are insensitive by nature! lol and i came to realize there is no point in arguing about it because i am who i am and he cant do anytthing to change me and he married me the way i am now, hthere are physical changes when i gave birth but then i am who i am! so he better get used to it...plus i am the mother of his kids so i know he loves me for who i am, iut might not be always smooth but i know he loves me even at times he gives comments. i am getting used to it now...

hello apsara,men are like that..they cant avoid looking on somebody(i mean girls).when my husband and i are not married yet,i feel mad everytime she look at other woman,and when i confront him,he will just simply say "theres nothing wrong with it,im just looking at her".not thinking that it hurts us everytime they do that.but things change when wer'e married,he never do that anymore,looks like he's contented with me and he's over with it,lucky for me huh!? heheheh! have a nice day!

I'm sorry, yes it is hurtful. I'm not sure how much they realise it, but it's strange how in my experience, men seem to be just as jealous as women. They don't want you to talk to other guys, they want to know where you go, etc (though at some point this becomes controlling and abusive, and that's another issue altogether). Yet somehow, they can't seem to understand that we get jealous too and feel the same way! Sometimes I think our feelings of jealousy about it are emotional while there's are more about wanting to possess us, but that may just be a bitter female perspective, or the result of knowing too many controlling guys. People will always find others attractive, even if they're married, but I think most men, no matter how attractive they find some stranger, would not actually want to leave their wife or girlfriend for her. They surely love her more than some random girl on the street and that at least is a comforting point. Assuming you're speaking from experience, you should try talking to your husband if you feel really upset about it and tell him how you feel; maybe he didn't realise how obvious it was and how much it hurts you.

Everyone like beauties,I like to look at other preety girls or women with my boyfriend even talk about ti with him.It's funny for us.

My mother always tells me "Be the apple on top of the tree." Men seem to have been born with wandering eyes and they take pride in achieving something that might seem impossible, maybe because their ego needs it. Back to my mother's saying, when a man can not have someone like you they will do anything for it, but once they get that apple they will not be satisfied but rather go back at the tree and look for the next apple on top of the tree. So ladies, embrace your intelligence and beauty and you will always be that apple on top of the tree.

I agree with most people here that men have no "other" intentions than to just appreciate the physical beauty around them, and its most of the time harmless. However when a woman does that (not that they generally do), its not accepted!! Why this discrimination? If you ever find your man ogling at others, point out to some attractive guy deliberately and mention how handsome he is. That should get your man a little back on track!!