How many think that the one who withholds intimacy is always the woman?
By Amy
@artemis432 (7474)
Abernathy, Texas
May 13, 2009 8:02pm CST
How many of you think its the woman who never wants to be intimate? Who says, I'm too tired, not now, I don't feel like it, I have a headache...and think that its men who want it alot and can't live without it? I feel like this should go on one of progamer's lists for gender biases.
2 people like this
6 responses
@Maryam27 (411)
• Pakistan
15 May 09
Well we have heard women saying it most of the times but seems like their spouse is the real culprit. Why she don't feel like getting loved? Is her husband taking care of her needs and desires as well or just going after what he wants? Why he can't make her feel better and forget her pain and enjoy the intimacy between them??
I agree most of the times you hear the women say that but do consider why they say so. Hope you got my point.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
16 May 09
I think that you have some very very good points. Although I must add that sometimes women, like many men, also have a low libido (spelling)caused by many different healthy conditions. In men, high blood pressure and being overweight. Conditions which they can address and conquer if the relationship is important to them.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
20 Jul 09
You are welcome, and I am the topic originator and I was hoping responders would clear up some myths and misconceptions over this issue. Your points are good and valid but htere is a whole other side people don't hear about it....
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
16 May 09
Perhaps not in your house - does this mean you're lucky enough not to have the problem or...
What do you think usually goes on with those having problems in that area - is it the woman all the time? The man? A mix?
@glassy1 (63)
•
16 May 09
I can only speak from my personal experiences - there is no shortage of intamicy in my house and if I am honest the perosn who says who pulls away/says no is the male in the relationship. We both believe that bad/a lack of intamacy is the biggest problem in the world - or at least a lack of it. You see we feel that not only can the partaing of this activity fun - it is full of emotion (that is a great stress reliever) - it is a great form of exercise - it oftens puts you in the most unflattering positions and situations which teaches you to laught at yourself.
If the world were more open and genuine about their wants and needs there would be far less porblems! Does this clrify for you?
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
18 May 09
I think all those statements were true about 40 years ago but not today. women are just as hungry as men.the problem is when one partner is ready to go and the other is not.I have been thinking about what I would do. if he didn't want me , the first time I would take a raincheck. The second time I would ask is it me. The third time would be the last time I ever ask or try to seduce him. for some reason , he doesn't want me and unless we can come to an agreement , it would be over.
@Aurone (4755)
• United States
14 May 09
As I a woman, I can honestly tell you that it may be the case in a lot of relationships, but not in mine. I never said no to my ex-husband and it withheld it from me quite often. I don't think any gender bias is true all or even most of the time, there are always exceptions, and come to think of it I am the exception to a lot of gender bias.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
16 May 09
THANK YOU JILLHILL - I totally differ as well with this opinion. And although the cause might be physical problems - usually they are things that can be addressed and conquered - high blood pressure, being overweight. If its important. I know more then one couple which have this problem - the guy not interested or incapable because of ED and not willing to address the problems that are causing it.
Only, you say not a lot - how bout not ever.
@swtchbladekittie (29)
• United States
22 May 09
HAH my husband is the only to "WITHHOLD INTIMACY" its really quit tragic
