I am not in synch
By suspenseful
@suspenseful (40193)
Canada
May 13, 2009 10:55pm CST
Today we had our annual women's society get together. I decided to wear a dress, most everyone came in tops and slacks. Last year, I wore a top and slacks, most of the other women came in blouses and skirts or dresses. The year before, well guess what? Whatever I wore the most of them did not. I swear I must have an opposite gene stuck in me. If everyone got their hair cut, I would have my hair long. If everyone had sandals, I would be the only one who wears shoes. And there is no little voice before I go telling me, "A - forget about the dress wear your top and slacks like everyone else."
So are there any more like me who is missing that sameness gene?
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
14 May 09
I certainly would NOT like to have the "sameness gene". I do not want to be like a sheep and follow whatever the rest of the flock does and wears. Our uniqueness is what makes us who we are. How boring life would be if everyone was alike in appearance.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
14 May 09
What ever floats your boat but I still prefer to wear what I please regardless what time of year it is or who else is wearing whatever. I like being different. You probably also do not wear white shoes until after Easter!!
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
14 May 09
It is too cold until wear white sandals until after Easter and I also have a pair of black sandals and it depends on what I have on. But my white sandals are leather and more comfortable.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
14 May 09
I am not talking about all wearing white blouses and black skirts. I am talking about when everyone is wearing dresses or tops and skirts or blouses and skirts or sweaters and skirts, I am in either a top, blouse, or sweater and slacks or jeans. It is not being a copycat, it is that it is spring, and we usually have days where we start to wear Spring clothes, and that is at Easter, and if it is not that warm, farther on in the season. So I expect more to forgot the slacks for the dresses and or skirts. And we start wearing our best dresses at graduation ceremonies unless we are in a wedding party.
@ErrollLeVant (4353)
• United States
14 May 09
I don't even want to be like everyone else, I like being me!
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
14 May 09
I am not talking about everyone wearing the same color shirt and the same color slacks or they all wear the same brand. It is that when most wear slacks I will wear a dress and those who wear dresses are usually the old ladies who are set in their ways. The exception being church services when the ones who wear slacks of the women are in the minority. There is a big difference between all wearing Levi denin blue jeans and white tee-shirts and one wearing a black slack with a brown short sleeve shirt, one wearing a red blouse with black jeans, and several wearing shirts and slacks made by different manufacturers.
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@ErrollLeVant (4353)
• United States
14 May 09
I still think you should wear what you want or think is appropriate. It is all the others who are then out of sync!
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
14 May 09
It is our differences that make us unique. Don't fret over it. It doesn't change the person you are on the inside, just by what you wear on the outside. I wear what is comfortable for me and if it is different then at least I am comforted by the fact that I a comfortable.
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@GardenGerty (160665)
• United States
14 May 09
I think that the only thing I would consider would be the location, and is my attire suitable for that location. Other than that, comfort is the key.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
14 May 09
I have probably the 'awkwardness' gene in that I will purposely turn up different, but yes this has happened to me only because I got confused with the dates, in that I thought the fancy dress was on a particular day but it was actually the following week so I was the only person to dress up, the following week everyone dressed up so I purposely went in my normal clothes. But it's a positive thing because you don't follow the crowd, not part of the sheep syndrome whether intentionally or unintentionally! Plus I think it's sod'z law or murphy's law that happens!
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
14 May 09
There is a big difference between purposely or thinking that most will wear a certain style, be it formal, informal, semi, or casual depending on the weather or whether they will get soaked. That is what happens to me. I did not decide that I was going to wear a dress, it just so happened that I was debating on wearing slacks or a dress and figured that if one walked there in the rain one would wear slacks and if one got a ride there was a good chance they would wear dresses or skirts.
@joyceshookery (2057)
• United States
14 May 09
Are you pretty young, suspenseful? When I was younger I went through great lengths to blend in smoothly but now I don't really care. I just want to be comfortable. Did you decide to wear a dress because you felt like it or because you thought you might be a better match? Give it up, girlie! Just be your unique, special self.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
14 May 09
I am not young but I do not feel old. I still feel comfortable with skirts just above my knees. I wore a dress because well I was first going to wear a slack and top because it was raining and I had to walk there. Then my friend called and said that she would pick me up (even though the church is just down the block) so I decided to wear a dress since I would not have to worry about being soaked. So I figured that those who had to walk would probably wear slacks and tops and those who were close by or who had cars would wear dresses and tops and skirts. So I figured that it would be about fifty-fifty.
Now if there were more then just one young vibrant lady wearing a dress or tops and skirts, I would have felt better. But most of them were the old set in their way ladies.
@liucheng623 (121)
• China
14 May 09
never mind.that is ok.i like the person didnt the same with else.i think a person always the same with others wont make give me a strong impression.right?so just do it.nike told us.we are who we are.we dress we want.that is always right.i always do like that.never mind others eyes.they dress different just because they are not you.you are special one.beautiful one.suitest one.we needn't follow the others.just what we like is best.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
15 May 09
Yes but was I dressed right? It is not just everyone wearing the same color and same brand, it is that only a few uf us wore dresses and or skirts and tops, and there was only one young in spirit like me who did. The others were well the set in their ways, waiting for God type ladies. I think God wants me to live a little longer here on earth.
@GardenGerty (160665)
• United States
14 May 09
I tend to not worry about what others wear, or keep tally of who wore what. I wear what I am comfortable in at the time. I probably lack the sameness gene as well. In that case, I learned to embrace my diversity and enjoy being myself. I would not think that anyone would say anything about what you wore to a church gathering.
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@GardenGerty (160665)
• United States
15 May 09
How wonderful to be so well prepared.
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@JessieEvans (14)
• United States
14 May 09
I KNOW I don't have the "sameness gene" but I've learned to plan ahead,so now if I'm taking photos at a venue that turns out to be a bit posher than I expected,out comes my pretty scarf and flat embroidered pumps that scrunch up tiny in my bag,off with the Reeboks,leaving tarted up basic black.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
14 May 09
I'm usually out of sync with everyone because I have absolutely no fashion sense. Whatever's "in" is surely not in my closet! I just wear what I want to and if I look a bit different, so be it.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
14 May 09
The trouble is I have a good sense of fashion it is just that I have no sense of appropriateness. I have not gotten to a picnic in an evening gown, but I bet that would soon happen.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
16 May 09
Eh, so your timing's off a bit. That's not too bad. It's funny now that I think of it, at our monthly Ladies Auxilliary meeting, I usually look like a slob and the moms that are home all day are all dressed up.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
18 May 09
I am just like you when it comes to that. I stick out alot of times like a sore thumb wherever I go. I just do not fit in, it seems. I think alot of times it is because they do not welcome me to fit in no matter what.
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
14 May 09
Right there with you dear - I seem to always be off the mark and 'different' my family has gotten to where they have simply decided I march to a different drummer and appreciate me for it. Being myself and not following everyone else.
I just wear what I feel is appropriate and will feel comfortable with myself in and don't worry about everyone else - I haven't yet gotten kicked out of any place :)
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
14 May 09
hi suspenful,you remind me of one occasion i went to. they annouced that everyone will dress semi- formal..so i wear skirt and blouse with blazer, matching heels shoes only to find out that my friends wearing casual attire..lol
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
18 May 09
That is terrible. What got me confused was when we all drove up to the other town and all the ladies there seemed to be wearing dresses, so we figured that was their normal attire, but it seems when they come to the city, they wear slacks except for the few older type ladies.. Go figure.
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
14 May 09
It seems to go that way with me, too, when I got out and socialized. My mood just seems to be contrary to everyone else's! If I have a friend going to the same place, I've learned to ask her what she's going to wear. Then if I'm out of synch, at least I have company!
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
15 May 09
That sounds like an awsome gene to have. If there's one thing I really hate, it's blending in. I am not interested in blending in, and I have no desire to blend in. I like being as different as possible. I hope to have the same luck you did and not blend in every dday of my life/
@newzealtralian (3930)
• Australia
15 May 09
Individuality means you are noticed more. Don't worry about trying to be insynch with the other ladies, just wear what you are happy and comfortable.
@ellie333 (21016)
•
14 May 09
Hi Suspenseful, I think it is great that you are so different it shows off your individuality rather than conforming along with everyone else, keep up the good work in daring to be different even if you don't knowingly try to be. Huggles. Ellie :D
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
14 May 09
do you know what I think? I think that they all copy you! They were wearing what you wore last year and next year they wil revert to slacks and top. You are the fashion Diva - not them. Look at it that way.
@ccarabuena (442)
• Cebu, Philippines
14 May 09
It's so nice to be different..because everyone notice you..
and beside if you look pretty on what you are wearing then why be off guard?
be confident and cheer up!