Are you really courios about others age? Is age a problem in a relation?
By icesmile
@icesmile (7160)
Romania
May 14, 2009 2:04am CST
People try usual to make friends same age, or maybe when they want achive some experience want older friends, but very hard a mature person accept somebody very young, to be friends.
When you see somebody first time you will ask him about age?And you will choice somebody to be your friend or your lover just because he have
right age?Are you afraid that peoples will judge you if you choice somebody younger or older?How much important is age in a any kind of relation?What you will say if somebody lie about his age...and you will be involved, when you will know the true, you will give up?i mean you will broke a relation because of age?
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10 responses
@enruschew (247)
• Malaysia
14 May 09
normally I won't ask for somebody age for the first time.I'll try to ask him after we are really become friend.I think age is not a problem in a relationship.I don't know how I will feel,cause I never tried before.but...these all are depends on our feeling...yes,there are surely people will judge us but I think we should choose the mr.right our own.I'm the one getting married not the others!if he lie to me about his age?I don't think that he can cause I'll surely check for his identity card before we start a relationship.
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@sweetyethot (1737)
• China
14 May 09
As a girl,I expect the age of my spouse no more than 10 years older than me and 4 years younger than me.I cant stand it if he lies about his age.Thats very funny.Whether I will beak up with him when I know his true age depends on the closeness of our relationship.I cant answer this question in a single YES or NO.
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@love2talk (115)
• India
14 May 09
Yeah! its but natural to make friends with same age group, but I have friends who are older to me. I find their thoughts more matured and they have a different prespective towards life since they are experienced and wise too.Age is no boundation for me because sometimes I don't like my same age group friends if they are immatured in their activities. I lost my dad when I was in school and since then was attracted towards older men, perhaps to fill the Voide Dad had left in my life.I couldnot accept the guy my family choosed since he was 3yrs older to me.. but Now I have, as I am in love with him. I thought at first "he my hubby,No!!!
But I still like matured people, who are calm and can handle any problem with being cool and practical.
I think mindset of a person in a relation is more important in keeping it going rather than age.But again some physical needs are to be taken into account too.
Yeah! definitely I will give up on a person who will lie to me about his age because when the person himself is not confident of his age and himself, How can I confide in him, right!But if I would have fallen in love with one, knowing everything, I would go ahead with it.
I choose my friends not by age, rather by instant connection, which keeps our conversations going and plenty in common.
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@karthikeya108 (13)
• India
14 May 09
For making friends I don't think age factor should be considered! I am comfortable with people of all ages but I do consider their attitude. For serious relationships age factor should be considered. At least the person should be of the age near to ours. Well, it also depends on the level of maturity but I think usually age factor influences the relationship at least a bit! And also no one should be afraid of people's judgment. One should do what he feels like doing...
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@utiwow (13)
• Indonesia
15 May 09
To be honest, I really do not care about the age of my friends, my colleagues, my co-worker or even my partner in life.
I got married 3 years ago, with a man that got 3 years younger than me; but, he is so mature. I'm so lucky to have him as my husband. He is so loving and caring to the children, a good father, and very responsible for whatever he's done into his life.
I've ever had a subordinate, who was around 5 years older than me. At the first time, I was doubt if I could be her senior; but, experience could tells you everything. It was rather difficult to explain about some works to her; sometimes, she just ignored my order/advices, but then she realized that I got more experience in working than her.
I've also had a boss, that was very young compared to my age. I already got 35, when he was just enter the 25th. I should obeyed him. Although he was younger than me, but he was my boss. Anyway, he was worth to be called as a boss, because of his thinking, ideas, and trouble-shooting ... two thumbs-up! Unfortunately, I had to leave him because of the challenging opportunity in another field.
What I try to tell you here that it really does not a matter if you have friends, colleagues, husband/wife that are younger than yours. It's about his/her thinking, his/her maturity, etc. I think the most important thing in relationships is whether you can get the SAME CHEMISTRY with him/her. This applies in any kind of relationships. You can feel it ... it's like a short-circuit happening in your body, mind, and soul ... oh, I cannot tell you the feels ... but, if you got it, you should thank God for that!
One more thing: If you've found someone that has lie to you about his/her age, please don't break the relationship very soon. Try to seek the reason of his/her doing that. There must be a reason of doing something, right?
Hopefully, my response here would be some kind of benefit to you. Cheers ...
@Uroborus (908)
• Canada
14 May 09
I think one of the main reasons that people ask others for their age when they first meet, is just to make small talk. People ask a lot of silly question just to make small talk. It doesn't necessarily mean that they put a lot of importance on what the other persons age is.
When age does become a factor in a relationship it usually is because of the fact that people look for other people that they have things in common with. If someone else is of the same age group, then they have lived their lives around the same times, with the same music, movies, and other trends that form their likes and dislikes. That might tend to draw people to others of their age group.
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
15 May 09
*raise hands* Yes, I am afraid of age. Although I am only 28, I still feel that I can't make friends with those teen agers, who works with me in a company. I always look for matured people to have friendship with. The older they are, the easier I feel to have friendship with them. Because I can expect them to be a good friend with me.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
14 May 09
I don't think age is an issue unless you are talking age when one person is young. Throughout life you change but you do most of it in your youth before 30. Guys stop changing before girls. If you are over 30 age doesn't really matter. I think it's maturity and intellect.
@yoyozhou (356)
• China
15 May 09
I don't care the age. They say people who have common interests and veiws on matters will have a good relationship with each other. I think that is ture. Once there was a lady who was about 55 year old in my company. And I am 24 year old. I like to talk with her very much.She was lovely and happy person and always make me happy. We are good friends.So I don't think the age is a problem for me to make friends.