when someone give you money without asking it how do you see it?

Yes,I see.I had the same situation when I was a student. I didn't want to receive the money from others. I knew they just want to help me but it let me feel I were special and weak.yup,I like money but I just want to make money by meself and I can do it.

If you are still in college and not so independent. Receive money from family members is ok. after graduation you can give the money back and treat them wll to pay their love back. maybe your family don't want you to pay back. but be a filial child, that's enough.

In India, we have tradition that when an elder comes to your house(you being a generation lower), he/she will give you money the first time before leaving(and even after that). So I get money as gift from relatives. Well, as far as supporting me goes, my parents do pretty well. I wouldn't want to take money from anyone else for the purpose. I have a lot of self respect and if necessary, I'd get a bank loan than have one of my relatives support me(except parents ofcourse)

I'm with you on this one. I have an Aunt also who did much better for herself than my Mum ever did & my in-laws are too cheap to even get what they need for themselves *sigh*. So my Aunt likes to spoil my kids because she knows I can't, my Mum can't, and my In-Laws won't. But she spoils them with little things usually like a trip to McDonalds Playland. Sometimes she'll buy them things they need, like a pair of pants OR help with paying for their bunk beds. I don't mind it in a way because she's been taking care of my like her own since I was a kid & she never had any kids. So she's in a way a surrogate "grandma" to them though she's their Great Auntie. But you know if we're in a jam I won't ask for their help because I feel it's too big to ask for help in something like say my gutters are really bad and leaking but I can't ask them for help. We can't afford to repair them til a car is paid off and that's in another 3 long tedious years. Or what if something big goes like the furnace? Can't put it on the credit card thanks to the interest rate hikes... so then what? I dunno. It's nice when they offer for little things, but it would be even nicer if they'd offer when you are in immediate need when you are ashamed to ask. But I do know on my Mom's side if you tell them you don't want something they won't think about you again and in a way become mad at you that you are not thankful for their gift even if you didn't ask for it. So then you get nothing. I'm not rocking the boat with her so if I do get the courage to ask for something big we will be in good standing with them.

she is your aunty, She is not "someone", isn't it? but if I get money from a stranger, then I would think it as a bribe because there is no easy and free money available to this world, is it? So, if you are giving me money on mylot, you want to have some work done from me!

I dont think there's something behind it.. well it's just a help or maybe she treated you as his son if your aunt doesn't have a child of her own. It could be just a plainly nothing for her, request from aunt?..hmmm just think that its just a favor from aunt that who wants to make "lambing" to you...that's it

Naturally, we always refuse first to receive money from someone without knowing a good reason, even the donnater is our relative. But if I was insisted to accept this gift, I would get it dued to my politeness. Then I will save this money in a particular account, and try not to touch it. One day, if the one who gave it to me has some finacial troubles, I can send it back. Otherwise, I can donate it to a charitative association. Else, I can spend it for myself if it's really urgent, but in this case, I would ask the first owner another time for the right to use.

I have recieved many blessings in the form of money, and I accepted with much humility and thanksgiving. I always see it as God's provition for me. I have recieved very large amounts, even from total strangers. If a person gives me money and there is a hint of the person want something in return, or want me to do something the way they want, or any precondition at all, then it is not a gift and i will not easily take it. If the person insist I take the money, I will make it clear that there are no strings attached. Money as a gift is always a blessing and who does not need money. It does not make you weak if someone gives you money. The giver recieve also, even if just in satisfaction that they could help someone.

well even if he is giving you money you dont need to spend it you could use it to open a bank save it up then when you have your own job and can stand up to him then i would give him the money bak that he gave you. You shouldnt feel guilty as he is willing to do it and isnt making you take the money you can always refuse we all have a free will.

Yeah it depends on the way we think. It's good to have an independent attitude. But, what your aunt is doing is not wrong also. She just want to make sure you're not short of anything. Even if you don't want to use the money, just keep it, make a saving. You can use your own money. They might have done it because they might have felt that it's their responsibility to look after you. You can take the money and save it. They may be of use for your aunt when they need it. You can help them afterwards also. Or you may donate it to an orphanage.

It's a blessing for me and for them. If the other person is willing to give, sometimes I refuse to be polite, but if the person insists, I thank and accept. If the person was not forced to give, and it is a genuine act (I mean not showing off) then it should be accepted. I once refused a gift from a person because I was too angry with her and I regret it because honestly my reaction was quite nasty. But then again, we all make mistakes.

i have had many people giving me money too, some in large amounts you'd be really shocked. well this people knew what is going on in our life now... and i have learned to accept it in humility, and just let go of the pride. i dont want people to look pity on us, but in fact they dont see it that way, they just want to extend a helping hand. i consider it a blessing... and you know it will return to them a hundred fold, they will be blessed too. i dont see it as bribe... but if a person is going to ask something in return for giving me the money (like do something bad), then i wont accept it.

i dont really see anything wrong in collecting such money, it all depends on the motive with which the person is giving me the money, if he just feel like helping me, then its okay and if he wants to embarrass me , i will never accept such gesture, i will not also accept such money in the public

hi christian,looks like we are having the same problem too!normally I'll refuse to take it but then they'll get angry with us.I don't like to ask money from my parents too,normally I'll just use money that I had save from my salary.I'm still a student now and sometime the eldest will gave me some money,I got no idea,we have to always listen to them,so I just receive it.