if your partners not matured even if shes in the right age

It is the girl's choice if she would act that way. I think being the mature party in this situation be a good father to your 4 year old kid. That way you would show it to her how to become matured person. Sometimes it is the people around the she sees will guide her how to become one.

Some people never mature to the point most people expect them to, although I think usually having kids makes you mature, I have never had kids and I have often been told I don't act my age, maybe she was just too young to enter into a permanent relationship, I hope she does mature for your sake, maybe one day she will just grow up so quick ....good luck.

I am really thinking hard about this. One of the questions I would ask is, do you and your child comes first? That is the most important thing. If she does think of you and your child first, then there really shouldn't be any trouble at all. What type of association does your partner have with this other guy. She could be just friends. He may be someone that could be like a brother to her. Have you tried to become friends with this other guy as well? Get to know this guy and see if he is alright guy. You never know, you and this guy may even be good friends. Now I thinking about what other things that she can do. I will ask if she is a stay at home mother? If she is, you may even consider to see if there is a mother's group in your local area and encourage her to go to them. She can meet other mothers and your child can socialise with other children at the same time. This may help her because she would be socialising with other mothers who have a common interest which is chidren. You both are still very young. From the sounds of things, you have matured with having a child. But with your partner, she may not understand her position as an adult as yet and still lives her life as a teenager. I think that if she keeps in mind that both you and your child are the most important people in her life, she will mature in her own time. As long as they guy just remains friends and don't cross the line of friendship, then be happy for her that she does have friends. Just make sure that jealousy doesn't show through because if they are just friends, jealousy can cause problems. It is the last thing that all 3 of you need. While I had been thinking, I have thought about my own situation. I have a family and they always come first. I had a male friend of 4 and half years who always came after my family. It was good having a male friend because when I wanted a male's opinion on something, I could ask my friend. When he met and entered a relationship with a woman, I felt that she was jealous of me. I tried to become friends with her because I always like to have new friends. She befriended me and asked me questions. Then when she was speaking to her partner/my friend, she told him the opposite. I don't have the full story, but the impression I do get, she has influenced his way of thinking because he loves her so much. He believes her and thinks that I am telling lies. He ended up saying nasty things. He told me I was trying to break up the relationship so that I could have him for myself. He even accused me of something I had not done in many years. I was so upset. A 4 and half years of friendship destroyed in 2 weeks all because of her jealousy. I feel that it was all the opposite. She wanted to break up the friendship and keep him all to herself. I had respected that she was his woman and that she would always come first in his life. With all my friends who have partners and children, their families always comes first just the same way my family always comes first then friends comes next. What she did, there was no need for it. Now would you think that a 50 year old woman would do this? I didn't think she would have done it because of her age. I think what she did was so childish. Even I too, was childish by rushing my decision to end my friendship with him because I was not thinking clearly. In saying all this, just as long as every one knows where they stand with each other, jealousy does not show its ugly head, and as long as she knows her responsibility, just embrase what you have and be proud of her and who she is.

i guess u gotta give her her space and she willl soon realise all her own that she is a mom now and she need to be more responsible or u culd just discuss this with her and let her now how u feel this is also a gud alternative,.........