How Do One Control Anger?

Anger is a powerful emotion. Anger is not the problem, it is how you express your anger that can be the issue. When I was younger I had a major problem with anger. I was put on medication and seeing a therapist. I really did not get a handle on my anger untill someone told me this, "Its a choice to be angry". I would respond by saying that person ticked me off. "Its ok to be angry", it is what you do with that anger that gets you into trouble. Granted at the time I really thought the person was off their rocker.. Did not see any other way to react. But this patince person was persistane! Walk away, change the subject, if you really feel the urge to hit someone, hit a pillow, never a living breathing thing. If you can not do those count to ten, sometimes yelling helps curve the edge of hitting. But I also found out that may make me feel better but in the end the only thing the other person is truly hearing is me yelling, and not the content of what I am saying. Anger management classes can help, but you have to be willing to change your actions, to recieve the full benefits of the program. Also try mediation or even finding a quiet place, to just sit by yourself to gather your thoughts before returning to the situation at hand.

You can pay hundreds to a therapist that, at the end of the day, will tell you something you already knew deep down. Controlling your anger is not as difficult as it might seem. Whenever you get angry (if towards that somebody), try to put yourself in the other person's position. Think like: if i were him/here, how will i feel about it? How will i react? A good excersice is to think that, for instance, with a friend, if i was him/her, i would have been raised in this way, and learn these things, so, how will i see things? How will i feel towards other people? how does the things people say to me affect me? do they make me sad/happy? Anger issues you can also resolve them by doing a lot of autoanalysis and trying to get to the bottom of why things makes you upset. At the end of the day, yeah, its true, things can make you mad. But don't let just one thing spoil your day. Think about the other good things that make a day special, and try to dwell on them.

For me , I don't control it too well . the one thing I do that gets me to cool down is to plot the perfect revenge and plan when is the best time to execute it. But if it isn't a person that ticked me off then I see 2 action films . That makes me calm down.But the worse thing Anyone can do is say calm down, That's makes me more angry.in fact I may plan the revenge on them instead.

Everybody has got their own way of controlling anger and every one of us has got a limit to how much we can take.. More than often, we will always hear frenz, relatives, family members telling us to cool down and not let anger take control of us.. BUt they are they, and they are not us.. They dun really understand the fact as to why we are so angry, and thus it's so hard to control.. lol =D So when it comes to such situations, it's best to walk away so as to avoid anymore conflicts.. As time passes, we tend to cool down a little but still, we will be thinking about that particular matter again.. If so, i will do things to take off that anger inside of me, depending on where i'm, and that do help alot for me.. hehe ^_^ If u are convenient, what i will recommend is to go workout it out in gym, or even better, swim, cycle or run.. haha =D These three sports or any kind of sports will definitely help u to cool it off alot faster ^_^

Well, I have been at the receving end of anger ( from my partner).In his case I would have to say, Yes he needed to go for anger management classes.He agreed to it too,but then he never did stick to his promise. Guess what happened? He ill treated me in public and I dumped him! So that is what happens if you don't vent your anger properly. All of us get angry. We need to deal with it appropriately.There is no point bottling it up. It will only do harm in the long run. If I am really upset or angry, I excuse myself and rush to a secluded place.May be a restroom, if I find no other place. :) I then just close my eyes and breathe slowly and focus on my breathing and imagine a calm place,like a waterfall or a beach. In 5-10 minutes I am ok :)

Here are some tips on how to control your anger: 1. Understands the reasons for your anger and understands its causes. Knowing this you will be reminded of the responsibility you have to face if you do not control your anger. 2. Think about the consequence of your behavior. Realize that how you behave will affects others. 3. Take slow deep breaths. 4. Repeat a calming word or sentence to yourself like it's okey, be cool, calm down, and the likes. 5. Tighten your muscles then relax them to avoid strokes. 6. Close your eyes and think about a person you love or like, a place or thing that makes you happy. 7. Leave the scene. So you will have time to relax for a while. 8. Walk away instead of driving away to avoid car accident. 9. Talk to someone you trust to release your anger. 10. Write in a journal if don't find someone to talk with to release anger. 11. Listen to or play music, draw, paint or do other creative projects to forget the reason why you are angry. 12. Rest so you can think of the best solution and action.

Stay away from the things and people who irritate you the most. Always tell to yourself that anger is a bad feeling that may affect your health. Take a second more before reaction when provoked. Lastly bear it in mind that if you are made angry by someone that person has succeeded in his aim of doing so.Why to give him the satisfaction of victory. Treat him like a shitt and leave the place with a cool head disappointing him and be a winner.

I control it by counting, slowly, and inhaling deeply and slowly. This usually calms it if I'm particularly angered (the last time was so long ao I've forgotten) and then a good sleep gets rid of it for me. Anger should not be suppressed but sadly we use let it out on the wrong people in the wrong situations

Zed, Some people, including me, just don't have anger problems. Others are almost always angry at someone or something. Anger management course help some who are ruled by anger. Their lives are certainly far less pleasant than they should be if anger is part of their ever-day existence. I neither succumb to it nor hold it in; I guess I'm just not an angry person.

Sometimes the best thing to do is leave the situation. If you are feeling so angry that you think you could damage something or even worse hit someone, the best thing to do is to go outside and get some air and walk out the anger. Go and walk, breath hare, swear, what ever you need to do just go outside and walk it off until you have calmed down. Just try and calmly tell who ever you are having the issue with that you are about to lose it and need to go outside to cool off, and that they need to let you do that.

People deal with anger in their own way. Ive learned to control my anger through years of practice with my mom's nagging tongue.LOL If I ever tried to explain my side (and believe me I tried) it will just extend the nagging session. So I learned it best to just keep quiet, answer questions as monosyllabically as possible then Ill be on my way. Now that Ive grown, I developed that skill of holding on to my anger. I never let it burst since Im 'deadly'(at least I think so) whenever that time comes that I could not hold on enough that I burst. Ive wanted to burst up especially now in college. Ive been dealing with difficult people all the time but I just hold on to my patience and be smart about it. If I burst I might get expelled because of the truths that I might blankly point out for all the world to hear. I might also burn bridges or ruin friendships and relationships with people that Ive had. So I think it best to just hold my tongue and disperse my anger through walking or eating.

Anger is an instant emotion. So to control yourself, you have to give yourself time. Leave the room for few minutes if you are having an argument which is angering you, or postpone the debate for few hours. If that is not possible, try to think of some pleasant thoughts for a few minutes, this will allow your brain to get rational again, and then you will have better chance of controlling yourself. I had real anger management issues earlier and even now there are times when I get really angry, but I have found, postponing my initial (& instant) reaction helps a lot. So, I have controlled my anger really well in the past and I hope will do so in future too.All the best to you.

The best way to manage anger is with the assistance of a professional. There are a number of things one can do to manage anger and it is an ongoing process.

I get very angry sometimes; however, I've never gone to anger management classes. I have my own ways of managing my anger. I used to kickbox, but I haven't done that in years. Usually, some physical activity (no, not beating someone up) helps. I listen to hard rock while I run with the dogs, which helps. If I am very angry and driving somewhere, I turn up the stereo really loud and just scream. I scream like a crazy person, until my throat hurts. That helps too. I have punched pillows, I have called friends to talk it out. It depends on the situation, but I can usually find a way out of it that results in no one getting hurt. LOL

Let's face it, we all get angry, but some go off at trivial things which only should be an annoyance. Anger management is for those who can't control their anger, the same way that AA is for drinkers that can't control their drinking, not for all drinkers.

Anger is pretty powerful. I have trouble at times holding back. I imagine most people do. I usually need a rant to let off the worst of it. It isn't pleasant but usually amounts to just a bunch of swearing and nonsense...doesn't seriously hurt anyone or anything. Then i just stay away from who or what is making me angry until I can put it in perspective. it all depends on what provoked the anger. Pretty much you have to just face it. the worst is when someone pretends they are not angry when really they are. It builds and builds and then erupts...blows up.

As you grow older you will find it easier to control your anger. I used to have a very short fuse when I was younger and I would blow up over almost anything. Now that I am 52 years old I don't get angry about anything anymore. My daughter and I were just talking about that the other day. I used to get so mad at the kids when they were younger because of the house not being clean or the dishes not done. Now I don't care because it just isn't important. I have adapted my anger to be more accepting of things and realizing I don't need to sweat the small stuff because they will take care of themselves. Life is too short to let things bother a person and so they shouldn't have the anger to have to deal with in the first place. Everything always works out somehow so why get frustrated or angry.

when i really got angery, i think there is no way to control it

it is not easy class even if many people want to study how to manage.usually it is a habit and personality .i know many people who is angry easily and they blame others easy.but they felt sorry very soon.they didn't want to do that again and think that don't do this again next time.but when problems come again.they forgot what they felt before.got mad and hard to control. so i think anger management class is necessary to bad temper people

When I am angry I try to keep my mouth shut. I realized that when I am angry I tend to say hurtful words that I usually regret afterwards. I try to be alone for awhile to suppress this intense feeling I am having and take deep breaths. I try to calm myself for when I am calm I can think more rational and not let my feelings get over me. My husband often tells me that when I say something as if I am always angry. I always say words in a very defensive manner and sometimes raise my voice to get my point. I say to him that’s just the way I speak. Anyway, I said to him that whenever I get angry all you need to do to pacify me is hug me. Hugging usually works for me to melt my anger.