Marraige and Love are two different things?
@aryangentleman (1122)
India
May 15, 2009 2:26am CST
Lots of people keep on saying that love is the foremost thing when it comes to marriage and Marriage as long it works is the union of two people who are in love with each other but I think this assumption is only correct as far when two are entering in to marriage but as life goes on its not essential the love remain the focal point of letting remain married.In generality Love takes the back seat and other worldly matters, in ones life takes the front seat And lucky are those who dont divorce on account of that.
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@xtianpalafox (70)
• Philippines
16 May 09
in my opinion marriage is the product of love. a man and a women must be bind together as one. and marriage is a gift from God that must never be disregarded,
@aryangentleman (1122)
• India
16 May 09
Yes its a product of love and institution of Marriage should be respected and cherished. It shouldnt be discarded just because later in life Love isn't the focal point of married life.
@xtianpalafox (70)
• Philippines
16 May 09
that is right sir. love comes from God himself and marriage is something to be cherish because it is a gift. and it can never be dis bonded by any creatures.
@shikaymaru (700)
• Malaysia
15 May 09
Love indeed the foremost things in marriage. Cos it start from love to respect your partner, know him or her feeling...When comes to marry, all the bad influence of temptation should be control. When we desire less, we can be happy easily.
@aryangentleman (1122)
• India
15 May 09
Bad influence or Temptation got nothing to do with it. They are sited as the escape goat when things goes dry in marriage.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
15 May 09
Cos it start from love to respect your partner, know him or her feeling
Maybe I'm misunderstanding what you are saying here but I have to say that I can respect a person and NOT love them..just like I can love a person but lose any respect for them...the two do NOT go hand in hand
@Galena (9110)
•
15 May 09
I don't agree.
love can and should remain the focal point of a marriage.
can you really say that things like work, money and a mortgage are more important than love?
because they're not.
yes, real life is important, and needs working on, but the foundations of the relationship being a good, solid, strong love, that you never let take a back seat will give you the best basis to face what life throws at you.
@aryangentleman (1122)
• India
16 May 09
I dont agree that for Marriage to work , Love is to be a focal point.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
16 May 09
I believe that love...as well as friendship...are at the forefront of most new marriages and I agree that relationships evolve as time goes on. Starting a family, raising kids, careers, day to day living take on more important roles from time to time but the constant is the underlying love the couple have for each other and the companionship they enjoy.
@aryangentleman (1122)
• India
16 May 09
I agree except the last line. Constant is to carry on with the life without feeling marriage a burden. Accepting the fact that you are some one's spouse and you have family and you not going to mess up yours marriage on account of love isnt the focal point of yours married life.
@imajerseygirl (433)
• United States
15 May 09
I believe if you didn't love the person, the marriage part would never had happened, also if you don't love the person after you are married the marriage at that point is doomed.
@aryangentleman (1122)
• India
16 May 09
Its doomed only when one is reckless and believe marriage is all about saying I love You. Not being in love, in the sense when you believed you are in love and got married, doesnt mean you hatting it.
@nirmalsaurabh (205)
• India
15 May 09
luk budy...love is wat we feel wen we care,understand and think about the other..
but when a couple is carrying out relationship they have to resoect each other for dere sincerity..
marriage is not a load man...it makes a man responsible ..and dis sense of love help to be more responsible as u become more concern about ur lover
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
15 May 09
Marriage as long it works is the union of two people who are in love with each other
I disagree with that statement...My husband and I are NOT in love with each other...we love each other, care about each other etc but we're NOT IN love..
@aryangentleman (1122)
• India
16 May 09
Even I am not agreeing with that!I mentioned it because lots of people think that "Marriage as long it works is the union of two people who are in love with each other" My whole focal point is that in real life Marriage still works even though Love isn't the focal part of the married life.
