Do you have Relatives you Can't Stand? Hate? Annoy you?? UGH! I DO!!!!!

Well, stop praying for patience, because if you do pray for it, he's sure to try it.... No, but remember, I barely KNOW my relatives, they are all 1500 miles away in NJ, there are some advantages to NOT knowing your relatives! For example, one of mom's cousin is mad at the rest of the family because she took the ex-wife's side in another cousin's divorce. So, pretty much, only the Great-Aunt and mom were not involved, the Great Aunt because she refused to become involved and mom because she could distance herself by the distance. Now, later I got to meet the new wife and we got on like gangbusters, both liked to cross stitch, really had a lot in common, so I'm glad I didn't get to know the ex so I wasn't involved either.

Well as they say, you can choose your friends but not your relatives... it seems to be the most popular quote you can hear... I have an auntie from the province and it also annoys me whenever she's around. Last time during my vacation, she completely ruined it. She's a freeloader, don't you hate people like that? She borrowed my cellphone and maxed out its credit load... she reads my texts and sends it to her friends without limits and when I'm about to get it back she won't return it, and says, "I'm still using it, can't you see?" Isn't that irritating? From then on, I try to leave whenever she arrives.

[b]Dear Jan, I hear you. I understand your pain. Yes, I suffered so much at the hands of a MIL and so I took the following action. I took out my M16 from under the bed, I dusted it off and used it. Problem solved. Any other problems? Happy to be of assistance. Cynthiann (The lady with the PLAN)[/b]

She must be a very bossy person. That's putting it mildly, I know. She really comes a lot, doesn't she? She must be filthy rich to have to come to Missouri from California and stay for as long as she does. I don't have anybody in my family that I hate. I love everybody. I just don't always like the way they do. I mean, my oldest sister and I just live next door to each other. However, we don't talk but about once a week or once every other week. I love my sister but she can be so bossy sometimes. She's also very negative most of the time. I just don't like to be around her very much for this reason. She has a lot of health problems and I feel like this is the reason why she's so negative. Also, I don't think she and her husband are getting along. I don't go to their house very much but when I do and if he's there, they're nearly always fussing. He talks awful to her! If he's there when I go up there, he chews me out about something, and I haven't done anything. He has a lot of problems, though. But then, don't we all? Kathy.

I also have three relatives that I don't really like. But I cannot just ignore them because it will seem rude. So I barely talk to them, maybe 5 minutes a day only. They are so demanding, stiff, and cold. They act so superior over the rest of us. That is what I don't like about them. But I don't hate as in really hate these relatives of mine. I just don't like being in their company.

I wish I could say I totally understood what you are going through, but I'd be lying if I did. My family totally drives me nuts, but then again, they don't stay for weeks. If worst comes to worst, there is a tv show that tries to solve problems between family members. I think it's on HGTV or the Style Network. I wish you all the best with your crazy relative, and just think, at least she isn't moving in for forever!

Oh my, I feel your pain. I have my own house apes that I am dealing with. I suppose I don't hate them but to tell you the truth I really don't like them right now. Get this, its my son and daughter in law, the two grandkids are great, its the adults that drive me crazy. They are very selfish, lazy pigs. They have lived with me off and on for years. They moved out awhile ago, I had about 5 months of bliss, now they are back. Its been 10 weeks, one day, 20 minutes and 10 seconds and counting. I am so looking forward to them getting the heck up outta my house again. Sometimes I feel so used, they seem to think they are supposed to live free wherever they go. They are getting the house next door but need to do some work on it before they can move in. Does it sound like I understand where your coming from? If you feel sorry for me, I will feel sorry for you. I could tell you stories and stories about them, I am doing my best to keep the faith. Maybe I am being punished for some reason. Get this, I actually love them, its just they are not nice people to live with. Their presence here takes over my house. Now you got me started, UGH!!!!!!!!

with the exception of a few cousins,almost everybody on mom's side. if they're not pretentious,they're a few sandwiches short of a picnic. usually when one of them shows up,you know they need something...or are hungry. although i must say,i like my mom's brother now that he's had a stroke. that sounds truly awful of me,but he used to come over and make mom cry on purpose. he's actually had a whole change of attitude since the stroke happened.

Well, for nearly 15 years of my life, I have been thrown around by a despicable uncle who seemed to despise us, despise our country, and despise our home. I am talking about my father's younger brother who used to visit us every year from Germany, stay for a week, and strip us of whatever self-esteem and self-confidence we had by telling us exactly how we were not human. This uncle stopped talking to us and coming to our house simply because I spoke confidently. I was not rude to him; but I did not speak like the depressed teenager I once was. This hurt his ego and he stopped visiting.:) He would have liked it if I was still depressed and unhappy so he could continue bullying me and fattening his ego. Well, good riddance to bad rubbish. If you hate someone, usually the person you hate is also responsible for it. So, it is ok.;) Cheers and happy Mylotting

Hey, don't feel like you're being ugly...these people have EARNED the way you feel about them. I can't even stand the thought of my daughter and her family coming to visit. They break every rule that the homeowner's association had created, they don't stay out of my possessions, they break stuff and never offer to replace it, they tell me what I can and can't do in my own home, the grand daughters have gone through everything I have and I have found things missing. What really got to me is that my son in law lectured me on the fact that the eldest grand daughter is about to be a teenager and I should respect HER privacy. Yet I caught them going through my make up, my bedroom bureau, my closet, MY JEWELRY, and more. I should respect her privacy but they can't afford me the same consideration. What is funny is that they have been out of my home for over two years and I don't miss them a bit. You need to take care of you and do what is right for your needs. Next time she plans to come out, tell her that you have the flu or some other communicative disease. You don't need her in your lap for that amount of time, and if she thinks that she is coming for a month, just inform her that you and your dad have plans and that you will be going somewhere for a week or two and don't want someone staying there while you're gone. If that doesn't work, there is always the solution that a neighbor came up with when he had unexpected company. After three days he was really tired of them, so after they finished dinner he collected all the plates and set them on the floor for the dog to clean. Then he gathered them all up and put them back in the dish cupboard. He did the same with the glasses, cups and silver ware. The family left in less than 30 minutes. Of course they got all the stuff out of the cupboards and actually cleaned it, but it was a great incentive for the company to leave and it gave us a super laugh (and made us wish that we had thought of doing that.)

I understand how frustrated you must have felt. That's really bad and it would help if she can understand you and your father's need for privacy. Some people are just too larger than life and they like to make their presence felt and appearance known and all that. So how long did she stay since this discussion was 2 months back. As for me, I don't have my cousins and relatives at all. However, I dislike the way they are having this 'double-standard' issue and wearing this for their everyday use. It's so annoying to see this double standard going rounds and in a way like showcasing that they are extremely rich and talented but yet not showing off. Which in fact, they are. That's what I feel strongly about. Other than that, I do adore all my relatives and cousins. Oh yes, I don't like those whom take advantage and luckily, my cousins and relatives are quite alright in that sense. I wish you all the best..

I like all of my relatives, but there is someone on my husband's side of the family who has said some bad things about me, and some of them are kind of un-forgivable, since I have been nothing but nice to her. But she is old, so I try really hard not to hold it against her. She has said terrible things about me, but when my husband confronted her about it, she said she had nothing against me. I don't know what that is about.

Hi, dreamweaverjan! Yes, I have many family members that I can't stand. You are talking about every year. How about an relative that visits almost every weekend to every other weekend? That would be my aunt. We as the nieces in the household, that grew up around her, dread to see her face. She was so mean to us when she was living there. She was hard on us like there was no tomorrow. I know how you feel trust me when I say that I do. We all threw a happy party when she finally decided to get married and leave to go to another city. She used to always tell my grandmother when I could have company with my boyfriends. She would call the house and talk junk about us. She was even on the phone with a friend of hers one time. And she told this friend that I was stink and that I was a *****. A female dog. I think that she got mad because I used to steal from her so bad. I think that her friend told her not to say that about me. And my aunt did not want to hear her out, and she went on and on about me so badly. She has even tried to rule me when we went to the beach. She told me to take off all of my jewerly because she did not want me to wear all of it like that. She bossed me around about my clothes too and what I should be wearing that was suitable in her eyes. She has even jumped up to fight me and my sister over her deodorant being missing from her dresser. It comes to find out that I did not take it, my cousin did. And there was money missing off her dresser, I got blamed for that too, and my cousin again was the one that stole from her. Even when we have family dinners, she won't allow me to fix my food or my kids food. She would rather another older adult fix my food. I get so tired of her treating me like a child, until I don't come around the family nor talk to her as often. I know how you feel dream, I have been through a rage here and back. You are not the only one that has an relative that you would wished would just disappear into thin air!

yes i have the wife of my brother i always dont want to see is face all the time they visit in my parent house i make sure that im not there its better for me to go out and do something eals coz she talk to much and she so so proud to is self and i really dont like her its just part of the family now.