Ever Been Through A Period When Your Life Is On Hold?

I went through a period like that just recently. I had a 3 1/2 year relationship end, moved in with my daughter, temporarily. I couldn't really move on with my life, as I was waiting to drive the 7 hours back for a doctor appointment, injury that was work related. I was recieving workman's comp, when all I really wanted to do was work! I basically had to sit around and wait, and wait lol. But, things were starting to take a turn for the better, although it seemed at times it was taking forever. May 5th, I saw the doctor, got a full release back to work, resigned from my job, and left Pa for the final time. I got my applications sent off to Texas, I am now engaged to a wonderful man who is also a fellow firefighter, he does structure, I do wildland firefighting. There was plenty of times that all I wanted to do was crawl into bed and stay there, or cry.....but I'm not the type to give in to either of those options.

Yes, I think my life is a bit 'on hold' at the moment. My husband is ready to retire from work at any time - we want to sell up and move somewhere warmer so we don't have to go through any more winters. The place we want to go to is a LONG way from here (about 4000kms) - and of course we worry about family members we'll leave behind. We have a 21yo son still living at home, as he's finishing his apprenticeship - and we'd like to see him settled and financially able to afford to rent somewhere, before we leave. So, everything is a bit up in the air at the moment. My husband could leave work any day - he's over it - and he's just hanging in there so our superannuation payment will improve. Because of all this, I don't really feel settled at the moment.

My life's been on hold since my first child was born and 30 odd years later it's still there. I think it was John Lennon who said, 'Life's what happens while you're busy making plans'. I wouldn't change much about my life because things eventually work out. Just do whatever you can and go with the flow, things always get better. Unless you're a parent.

Hi Wolfie, Think I am experiencing a bit of that in my life right now, just going through the motions and in that dip but it is only for a season I will ride it out knowing that there is something more positive up ahead to balance todays situation. Huggles. Ellie :D

At one point it felt as if my life was on hold for nearly 45 years! I'm not kidding. It wasn't until I ended up in a shelter and signed myself up for Disability and finally got it and got my apartment did I feel that life was finally moving forward for me. So, I can totally relate to what you are saying. My life has improved dramatically, although, I'm still dealing with my constant depression. I feel more in control of my life. I hope things get better for you too, hon! Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija

I've felt stuck before. I call it living in limbo because you're really not moving anywhere. I do think that things around us effect us, but also thing we convince ourselves we can't and then can't turns to won't and then we realize where all this time is. Sometimes it can't be helped. Like financially I've got some pretty big plans for my home, but money and yes even time are against me. There is also the how do I do it and have crippled my ownself in that thinking.

Yup...long long years. I think, for most of us, life is meant to be bland and uneventful. Then again, I guess we ought to learn the art of converting the ordinary to the extraordinary...see the magic in life. Then maybe those long "pauses" might stop. :) Cheers and happy Mylotting

I feel like that right now. I have been out of work for a year and feel like I'm going no where fast. I am taking up a course of learning to write children's books. But I just try not to think about how fast time is passing and hope and pray my dreams will come true soon. If I think about it for to long I get depressed and I don't want to go there.

Hi wolfie34, I think I know what you are talking about. Mine started in 1997 when I met a car accident. I lost my job, eventually marriage, economy, physical pain, depression. Oh you name it, I have it! But what pulls me back and I am proud of, is the foundation my parents have given me, MY FAITH. Without it, I do not think I will still be fighting for a cause. Life is beautiful when there are so many colors that inspires us! These colors I am referring to are the stop-overs we make. These colors are opportunities and challenges. A pause to think and give God the chance to do things for us. In HIS time not MINE. I am reading a book "Like the Flowing River," by Paulo Coelho. I would like to share to you the following. On p.117 Status for the New Millenium: "3. Each human being was given two qualities: power & the gift. Power directs us towards our destiny, the gift obliges us to share with others what is best in us." "9. Every human being should know two languages, the language of society and the language of signs. One serves to communicate with other people, the other serves to understand God's messages." "11. Every human being should keep alive within them the sacred flame of madness, but should behave as a normal person." On p. 121 "If you don't wake up early enough, you will never get to see the sunrise. And although God is always close, if you don't pray, you will never manage to feel His presence." Let yourself ponder around this for a moment. FAITH, LOVE & HOPE are the key words for me. Take care .....

Pretty much all of college and high school fit this description for me

Your life.. is just that darlin'.. YOUR life.. if its onhold then you are the one putting it there, whether you choose to admit that or not. Simply put, take your finger off the pause button. Ask your self simple questions: HOW did I get here? Why am I still here? and WHAT am I WILLING to do to move forward? You have to take ownership of your current situation before you can overcome it. Remove the negative tones from your thoughts and conversations. EXAMPLE: "We can't get anywhere, Can't do anything.." You are creating a self fulfilling prophecy. If you are stuck, you will belive you are stuck, if you believe you are stuck.. well then Wolfie I guess your stuck..lol. Instead, perhaps you should be thinking: My life is progressing at differnt pace than I had anticipated, I need to get back on track. Then set 5 small goals that will help you do this.. they don't have to be large. All you need is something you can check off your list so you can feel that overdue sense of accomplishment. Sometimes people try to take Jolly Green Giant steps in life and get frustrated because they don't realize their legs haven't grown quite that large yet (make sense?).