Have you ever assumed something about someone

It does happen. A friend of mine assumed that my husband was not the father of my first born. I think how can she assume that he was not the father of my first born. Of course I would know because I was there and she wasn't. I have people assume that I have done one thing when I have done it. I really do hate it. I don't like to assume anything about any one.

I can think of one thing that someone assumed about me that shocked me. I come from a family who hugged each other and always said I love you. In the church I grew up in we were all close and of course the women in the church would hug each other (of course the guys were too macho for that ). Anyway, when my family moved and we went to a different church I met a new friend. She didn't go to my church, but we hung out all the time. When we'd hang out and then she'd get in her car and I'd get in my car I'd always give her a hug. And I'd say Luv ya! You know, like that. One day she sent me an e-mail asking me if I was gay. Well, reading the e-mail I about busted a gut laughing. Knowing how we had scoped guys together and some of our conversations I wondered how she came up with that. And then she explained, it was the hugs! She was so unfamiliar with that. Her family was not demonstrative. They fought, never told each other anything like I love you, so she was unused to that. The idea was so foreign she took my actions as if I were gay. Of course after that I took my cues from her. I'd say luv ya girl on occasion, but I was very careful. Her background had been somewhat abusive, so I decided to try to see things through her eyes. Looking back, she thinks it is hilarious she asked me if I were gay. I just remember how completely floored I was when she asked me that. She is married now with a family, and now she hugs me.

pretty much the other way around I don't mingle a lot so people seem to think bad about me and those with bad intentions can easily ruin my name behind my back I used to worry about it but a few years ago I decided that what matters is my friends and my loved ones, everyone else can think what they want they don't know me anyway so why should I worry about other people assumption? I have my fair share of making wrong assumptions mostly about family or co worker other than that I usually mind my own business LOL but in your case I think she didn't mean anything bad, she probably saw you there a lot without your hubby so she thought you are single parent

Some people think I am a b*tch they after they get to know me they tell me...wow I thought you were different when I first met you....I am not very outgoing when it comes to meeting new people so I am a bit stand offish....

lol =D That's quite a bad thing to assume huh?? If one happens to be in a bad mood, it's not gonna be a good assumption after all.. haha =D I did have alot of assumptions in life, but they are just small things, such as will anybody be angry if i were to be treating them in that way or rejecting them etc.. haha =D In fact, i'm assuming everyday about things and ple.. I just like to prove myself right with my thinking, based on their inital reaction to things.. lol =D

Yes and i think it happens to nearly everyone here, I work in an office in London itself and there is a maid here who later I came to know that she is a loudmouth, the moment I came to know about that I stopped talking to her, everything was back to normal and then one day there is a guy here from India, his name is Raj, he came to talk to me and he told me that he assumed I am very arrogant and a mean person, I told him why he thinks so then he said the maid told her once, I was furious and i wanted to yell at the maid but then I prefered to remain calm because whatever she thinks about me is none of my bussiness. Then finally the guy told me that he would have believed the maid's saying if he would have never dared to come and talk to me himself, because everyone knows here that i am very friendly and jovial and full of sense of humour.

Have you heard of the saying you can't Judge a book by it's cover, It can fool you.

I think we tend to this all the time. I only remember right off the top of my head that lots of people assumed that my son was a girl because he was a blue eyed blond and he had curly hair. I am sure there were people who assumed I was a single mom, because my husbnd was out on the road for three weeks at a time.

I have assumed and have been wrong. If the store didn't follow wht you were saying it was their fault. I love that ou take your kids shopping. Would love to do that myself.

I work at a store out of town and people were shocked when I got pregnant with my youngest because they thought I was single as they never saw me with anyone. Of course that would be because I never was in that town unless I was working.

I used to joke with my late husband that people would think I was his 'bit on the side' as he was rarely at home and never for long. He was a coach driver! My neice recently moved near us and was told this juicy bit of gossip by a 'friend' but was also told I had a 'toyboy' living with me! She told me she'd laughed so much she nearly cried! She explained we'd been married for 38 years and the toyboy is our adult son! Whether they believed her or not is anyones guess! I'm always being asked how my grandchildren are now, because her children often visit! I can understand why people can think that as her daughter is very like me but I haven't any grandchildren! I've over 70 great neices and nephews though so who needs grandchildren? lol

I think to assume anything for someone you don't even really know personally is something out of context. It's none of their business. And since you were nice enough to talk to her and explain things and if she doesn't believe you, I don't think it's you're problem of what she believes. It's really no big deal, could be the cashier was trying to be nice and all that. Cliche talk nowadays could lead to anything, friendship and what not. For me as long as someone doesn't assume too much beyond the limits of one's private life is fine. Cliche thingy that's what it is. Of course a family's privacy is not a joke. I wouldn't really stray too much and share info with people no matter how awfully nice they are. I'm sorry but I stand from a region where safety and privacy is a big issue. There are too many bad elements out here and we are all on our guard. I would say your place is really great and nice though. I couldn't say the same from where I come from. Hehehe. Anyways, it's really nice to meet people and talk to them specially if they are nice. But do get to know them more before you talk more about you family. I wouldn't assume anything to someone though. And if I did I would keep it to myself. cheers!

Many times, they assumed im at my 20s instead of 36 because most of my friends are at that age. Its a compliment for me. Another instance, i was behind this person when she pulled my hair and said a name, its my sister name actually. She though that i am my sister.

People assume wrong things about me all the time ;) The major one is that one of my best friends is a guy and since he and I often go places together and I spend a ton of time at his house, everyone assumes we're dating. I can understand it when we go out to eat together, but the most hilarious was that a group of our friends, who should have known that we arent dating, thought for a long while that we were together and eventually told us that they were "just waiting for us to finally tell them". LOL

People sometimes assume that I am not married and still live at home with my parents since the the only time I usually get out is with my parents and me and my husband hasn't been to town together in about 10 years or more.

I have been on both ends. I have assumed things about people and was wrong and they always assume things about me and most of the time they are wrong too.

Hi Sacmom, Once when I was out with a girlfriend of mine, two men came to sit beside us. I had a dress on, with spaghetti bands. You could see my arms were very muscular. The man beside me, was acting strange. I started to feel very uncomfortable, and decided to go to the ladies room. When I came back the men were gone, and my friend looked at me very suspicious. I asked her what was wrong. Seemed the man that was sitting beside me thought I used to be a man. He was certain I was a man, or used to be one. My friend, who I knew for 5 years already, asked me if it were true, because he sounded so convinced. When she told me I started laughing. The only thing I could think of to say was:"If I were a man, how did I give birth to my babies?" Oh yes you have children,I forgot, she said. This was a weird situation, hahaha! I don't wear those dresses anymore, hahaha! Take care.

Yes, I have prejudged people before. I am usually really good at first impressions and usually hit it right on target but sometimes it happens that I am wrong about them. I clean houses for a living, self employed, and some of my clients, on first meeting them, I thought were going to be a bit of a problem. Some of them I thought were going to be really fussy about everything, as some are, and then in the future I have found I was totally wrong about them. You see, some people are never satisfied no matter what we do, and they let us know with attitude. So I have thought someone was going to be that way at first and then find out I was totally wrong about them. And happy that I was wrong. But this doesn't happen very often. I can usually judge someone pretty quickly and I am usually right about them.

My is a mixed race child and swam a lot so was really dark from natural and from the sun too. Once we went into a convience store, we both got stuff. Then went up to the cashier. She only rang up my stuff althought everything was sitting there together. Lol!!! I do not know what this girl was thinking. I mean we walked in together and stayed together the whole time. I dont understand then why she would think we were paying separately. Even if she didnt think she was my daughter.

I am a very nice person and because of that people tend to assume that they can walk all over me. When I stick up for myself and keep clear boundaries they are surprised and sometimes offended. Also, because I tend to be kind of happy go lucky, people think I haven't been through anything difficult in my life. When they get to know my life story, they are quite surprised that it is just the opposite!