Do you know someone who you think is secretly competing against you?
By tabsnlos
@tabsnlos (587)
United States
May 16, 2009 12:27am CST
I have this friend who is for the most part a good person. But i get this feeling that she enjoys knowing things before me, getting thing before me, got the best deal on this, always has a better story then me...its strange but true. Even my husband is amazed at how far she will go to make her self sound so much better then the rest.
I love a good sale, and when I see something I'll let all my friends and family know about it as soon as I do. If she finds a good sale and she knows its something I like, she tells me when its over or when she bought the last one. Its so annoying. She will tell the story with this pathetic sense of pride.
I use to go to garage sales with her, and you should see how she literally runs to the house...I guess to make sure I don't get the goods first? I don't know...
She is one of the biggest show offs that I have ever met. Makes me sick!!
Do any of you know someone like this? What do they do that just bugs the crap out of you?
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9 responses
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
19 May 09
I won't name the person but there is a certain family member who always has to show off everything she does. When she graduated high school, she sent me an invitation even though I live over 700 miles away. Same thing with her first, elaborate wedding...again with the births of her two daughters. Now most ppl would say, she just wants to share her life with you...maybe so but to me each one is a painful slap in the face...I didn't graduate b/c of family problems, I never had the elaborate wedding and I'm unable to have children.
She's always had everything handed to her and it shows. We don't talk and have never been close to each other. I just try not to let it bother me and move on.
[b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~
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@infodhanish (3)
• India
16 May 09
After reading this I am remembering a saying that An Enemy Can Know You Better Than A Friend. But I have to say that dont make her a true enemy in life. Always try to make her understand about the value of truth and friendship. May be there is a chance that all you understand about her is not true and its your jealous with her.
But I really dont want to hurt you saying this. My point is that you should reassure that she is really hearting you and its not your way mind set about her attitude.
@tabsnlos (587)
• United States
16 May 09
Please understand that there is no such jealousy on my part. Like I said before, I love letting my friends and family know about things. I am not one to keep things to myself for my gain and my gain only. I have never experienced something like this with anyone else before..this is new to me. Friends are not suppose to compete with their friends. And I am not the only one who feels this way about her. So please don't think that I am jealous of her in anyway.
@rosemarierealino (184)
• Philippines
16 May 09
I have experienced that before. She was my co-teacher. Actually, she's the reason why I need to transfer to another school. She's older than me and I respect her as my grade head but she always finds my mistakes. Anyway, I don't want to remember her. I have to move on.
@ayameyokomi (638)
• Philippines
16 May 09
Hello there! Nice discussion. Unfortunately, there's no treatment for insecurity, so we are sure to meet these kind of people anywhere. Based on my own experience, I've experience this one before. She's my classmate. We're not really what one can call "friends" but we're in good terms with each other. In our class, I was one of those what you can call "brainy kids". Everytime we have recitation, I'm always reciting. And I can feel that she's always competing with me everytime we have oral recitations. The teachers are always in favor of me and I can feel that she feel really "horrible" everytime our teacher call my name and ask me to do something. That's too bad because I treat her as my friend.. But it cannot be avoided.. so be it.
@my_name_is_coco (4333)
• Philippines
16 May 09
I know someone who is secretly competing with me.good thing she isn't my friend.the thing is,right now I'm also competing with her.I hate her because she is now in the USA.she is working there.I'm stuck here in my country earning measly pay.I know I am WAAAYY better than her.I want to become a fashion designer.she copied my idea and wants to become one also.I don't like that girl..
@ibelle09 (155)
• China
16 May 09
Hi.
Unfortunately, we will meet this kind of person everywhere. Maybe because we are too good in their mind. And he/she wants to show people that he/she is the really good one. :) I have ever had this kind of friend. We were roommates at college. Both of us are good at study. The just week before we had to take a very important examination, we happened to find that she had a pack of paper, which wrote a lot of useful information for the exam, left in our dorm. None of my roommates had knew it before. We thought it was not polite to take the paper without her permission. But when we asked about the paper, she denied that. So disappointed! My roommates said she didn't want to share her information with us, especially me, for she was afraid of being second to me. MY! But it was funny that at last, she was really second to me. :D
Anyway, I really don't like to make friends with this kind of persons. They make me upset.
@dianmelydia (2269)
• Indonesia
16 May 09
I experienced such enemies before. They were my own cousin. I hate they cheated me only for take advantages for their own good. Later i knew they were taught to be like that by their parents. So from that time i keep my distance with them. They are pair head snakes. Very skilled at drama. I'm enough with such people. Have a nice day and happy mylotting.
@gongchhua (272)
• China
16 May 09
I think it is bad for a person competing against others because of jealous. Actually, I feel competing with others through right ways will make all the people have a positive attitude toward their life and work. If the method is proper, I think competing will promote people progress. There is no secret information forever, so you may share with others boldly. Only your own ways of thinking and ideals the others can't steal.
